Rant about unsuitable xmas gifts

peachyprice

aliasojo wrote: »

Sorry guys, I'm not trying to be deliberately secretive, I just really really dont want to be 'outed' iyswim.

How about a game of charades, then we can all keep the answer to ourselves :rotfl:

JimmyTheWig

Can you afford to replace them with something equally good but more suitable?

If so, you could talk to your daughter and tell her your problems with the presents. She could agree to take them to the charity shop (so others benefit) and you could agree to buy her something to make up for it. Maybe the two of you could go shopping together and she could pick out something that she likes.

reehsetin

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

If so, you could talk to your daughter and tell her your problems with the presents. She could agree to take them to the charity shop (so others benefit) and you could agree to buy her something to make up for it. Maybe the two of you could go shopping together and she could pick out something that she likes.

I think that's a great idea,

the person who said wrap another present with the same paper and give that to her instead, if the OPs daughter's friend asks her about her present it would all come out that the OP had swaped the gifts anyway

aliasojo

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

Can you afford to replace them with something equally good but more suitable?

If so, you could talk to your daughter and tell her your problems with the presents. She could agree to take them to the charity shop (so others benefit) and you could agree to buy her something to make up for it. Maybe the two of you could go shopping together and she could pick out something that she likes.

I could but tbh, she has more than enough as it is.

aliasojo

peachyprice wrote: »

How about a game of charades, then we can all keep the answer to ourselves :rotfl:

:rotfl:

reehsetin wrote: »

I think that's a great idea,

the person who said wrap another present with the same paper and give that to her instead, if the OPs daughter's friend asks her about her present it would all come out that the OP had swaped the gifts anyway

Yes I would have to talk to my daughter, I couldn't just swap them. I dont want to put her in an awkward position should she be asked about them.

Pee

I rember my sister wanting make up as a present at a very young age and that was all I wanted when I was about 12, although my Mum didn't like it. (Fortunately although she opened post, she never opened presents.) I had a T-shirt that said Hot Stuff with a cartoon character on when I was about 12 or 13, completely inappropriate looking back. Mum cleverly persueded me that it was a bit small and we went to the shop and changed it for another size and another design.

The make up I was only allowed to wear at home and then later I could wear a little bit to church... hmm, was that to make me appreciate going to church more? And then it was important occassions and parties, but by now I was 16 and going to 18th birthday parties.

Is it possible that you could impose rules as to use or are they too inappropriate?

JimmyTheWig

aliasojo wrote: »

I could but tbh, she has more than enough as it is.

Then how about you encourage her to choose a treat rather than a thing - e.g. the two of you going to have your nails done. Or bowling / cinema / zoo, etc?

flippin36

I feel for you OP. My daughter is the same age and it really irks me when I see some of her peers looking more like teenagers (they are still at primary school). My daughter often asks for things some of them have and after saying no a fair few times she just accepts it now. My biggest bugbear is the Playboy motif that seems to be all over the school playground at the moment. But like you say...its down to parents to parent as they see fit.

With regard to presents, unfortunately I think you will have to just let it go as a one off, she will resent it forever if you say she can't have it. If she is anything like my dd she will love it for about a week then it will be in the back of the wardrobe forgotten about. Really difficult dilema.

red_devil

Its hard isnt it!

They sound like bloody stupid parents to me!

Sons aunty used to annoy me when he used to go and stay she would put on what i call unsuitable dvds etc! You should have control when its your own child but sometimes you do not! If you make a fuss you can be seen as the baddy when really you only want whats best!

mummy_Jay

Is there some one or something she doesn't like that you can comment on seeing them wearing or with this? something that will put her off it whilst still letting her have it?

Otherwise a frank dicussion on why you don't feel its really suitable with her.