Rant about unsuitable xmas gifts

aliasojo

peachyprice wrote: »

I wonder if they've bought them for her because she's expressed an interest in her friends ones (whatever they are). :rotfl:

They may be thinking poor little alias jnr, she hasn't one of these 'things' she loves so much, we'll get her one for xmas. In which case, come the new year and they ask where the 'things' are she's going to have to say that her mum took them away.

So, bearing that in mind it might be kinder to your DD to have a word with the mum now and get her to change them for something more suitable before xmas.

Lol...no that's definitely not the case.

The Mum is quite opinionated and wont take kindly to being told her presents aren't suitable...no matter how tactfully I worded it. That I do know. I'd be told I was an old fuddy duddy and to let my girl have them. :rolleyes:

kegg_2

bar it being 20 silk cut and a bottle of white lightening i would let you daughter have them but if it is clothing i would manage to destroy it in the 1st wash or arange for it to be broken or lost in some way by the new year.

Is glad i only have boys

peachyprice

In that case, bin them and wrap your DD something else more suitable up in the same paper

Is your DD likley to want to keep these 'things' or is it going to make her cringe when she opens them in from of you?



p.s I am soooo intrigued now as to what they are

louise3965

We had this with someone giving my 10 year old Playboy branded stuff. I think its disgusting that this brand is marketed at kids but decided to let her have it, mainly because I didnt want her to crave the forbidden. Shes now older and wouldnt touch that stuff with a bargepole as she knows the background so I am glad I didnt ban it.

tiff

I know where you're coming from, I have a 9 year old whose friends are allowed to dress older, wear makeup etc. If it was me I would let her have them as they are gifts, but lay down rules as to wear she can wear them, ie in the bedroom lol

aliasojo

Sorry guys, I'm not trying to be deliberately secretive, I just really really dont want to be 'outed' iyswim.

Having thought about it, there wouldn't be much point in even giving a general idea as that wouldn't tell you about the actual item.

So for example if I said an adult watch...you'd all be thinking 'what's wrong with that'?

If I said a playboy watch with the words 'fcuk me at 10' on it, then you'd probably all agree with me. (I'm making that up but you get the idea.:D)

So I can't really tell you why I have a problem without actually describing the items....which is exactly what I dont want to do. IYSWIM.

I think one of the things my daughter isn't really going to be fussed about anyway. She's a quiet type, not a streetwise type and the other things we'll just have a chat about how kind it was that they gave her them but that as her parent I feel they're not suitable for her right now and that I'm sorry but she wont be having them. Then if she complains, I'll lock her in the cupboard under the stairs. Simples.





(You all know I'm kidding....right? :rotfl:)

BitterAndTwisted

High-heeled shoes at ten years old? That poor child will be a cripple by the time her bones have finished growing. Some parents are mental or just plain too stupid to live.

In the OP's place, considering the flack that's going to be coming her way if the presents are rejected or replaced by something more appropriate, I'd just let the daughter have them and then have a chat about why they're not suitable for outside the house. It's a toughie and I don't envy anyone in this situation.

Oldernotwiser

Actually, if you told us the details and the friend's mum read it on here, wouldn't that be a good thing and solve a lot of problems?

I don't think that I'd want my daughter to be a friend of a girl from a family with these values anyway, so a cooling off might be fortunate.

As an afterthought - it is now normal for people to buy their children's friends presents? When did this start?

Snowmoredebt

I would let her have it. The novolty will wear off in a week and with so much to keep her occupied over Christmas you can pick your moment and hide it, this is what I do and if asked I say I've put it their so it doesn't get broken.

aliasojo

Nooooo ONW. My objective for the thread was to rant and discuss what others do/would do.

It wasn't to cause offence or annoyance which I think would be the outcome if the person concerned was to read this.