Rant about unsuitable xmas gifts

aliasojo

jamespir wrote: »

well im not going to cower and hide in the corner you have to see what you did was wrong where as you've gone through this thread thinking your'e the big i am

I'm done with you James.

I knew I was right earlier on when I said you had made this personal. You are being unnecessarily rude.

jamespir

aliasojo wrote: »

I'm done with you James.

I knew I was right earlier on when I said you had made this personal. You are being unnecessarily rude.

your perception of being rude and mine must be completley different because i dont consider anything ive said is rude

ive not called you any names or anything and its only personal becasue your the op and YOUR the one who has done wrong in my opinion


im sorry if you feel aggrieved by what i have said but the truth hurts sometimes

katieclampet

Have read through posts with interest, and the one thing I can comment on, in all certainty, is that IT DOESN'T GET ANY EASIER!! Bringing up children is hard, and I think that you can only do what you think is best at the time. In hindsight, I probably would/should have done things differently when my children were younger (all grown up now) BUT I can say I honestly did my best to be a good mother.


katiex
ps, must have done something right, cos they are lovely,sensible girls.

looktothefuture

I totally agree with Alias' decision! I'd open any present which I felt may be unsuitable for my SS (Aged 8) - He's not my child but because he's been in my life since he was 3, he understands how things work!

My SS mother treats him like an adult (ok so she is the Mom and can bring him up as she wishes and although my husband and I dissagree with many things she allows him to do, what she chooses to do with him in her own time is none of our business, unless it impacts greatly on our home life) but in his fathers home, he's treated like an 8 year old! Simples! These are our rules and they work for us, my SS understands and appreciates that the rules apply in our home and not always in his Mothers home and is comfortable with them! He is not allowed to use his mobile phone (His Mother gave it to him - I'd hoped the novelty would have worn off by now but alas..) unless he receives a text from his mother/stepfater/nan he can respond. He is not allowed to play any game or watch any movie which is age rated over 12, unless my husband vetted the game or the movie first, (we once had mother kick off because we refused to let SS play Grand theft Auto - until my husband asked if she'd played the game - she was horrified and took the game he had at home away from him!) He has his own profile on the computer with PG setup so he cannot use chat rooms, msn, facebook etc but can use other websites that are suitable for his age. And one toy I will never have in my home is a toy gun! Sorry, but no... my mother was held at gunpoint by a hijacker in my home country and SS knows that Aunty xxx could have been killed so doesn't even ask for one (he even gave back a present by a friend from because he was shocked he'd been given one!).

Children should stay children, not mini adults!

shellsuit

jamespir wrote: »

who buys a ten year old condoms some of you on here have very active imagination

they get them from school for free

What kind of school is that then? :eek::eek::eek:

shellsuit

If that was the case James, every one of us on this thread is dishonest and deceitful.

Why?

Well we have all probably bought a present for someone and are not going to tell them what it is. We know what it is/they are, but we're keeping it to ourselves.

What is the difference between the OP wrapping a present for her daughter and keeping the what the contents are to herself, to unwrapping and rewrapping and keeping that to herself?

If her daughter asked her if she had opened and rewrapped the present and OP said No, then that would be deceitful because she would be lying.

jamespir

shellsuit wrote: »

What kind of school is that then? :eek::eek::eek:

they do sex education from 10 onwards

seven-day-weekend

And if we are going to talk about being deceitful, what could be more dishonest thatn telling a child a fat man with a red suit and a long white beard is going to bring them some presents?

shellsuit

jamespir wrote: »

they do sex education from 10 onwards

I know they do sex education at that age, but that doesn't mean they give comdoms out!

You said they give free condoms at school, to children who are 10 years of age, so I'd like to know what school does this.

shellsuit

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

And if we are going to talk about being deceitful, what could be more dishonest thatn telling a child a fat man with a red suit and a long white beard is going to bring them some presents?

Exactly! :rotfl::rotfl: