so disappointed...

jillymit

sparklewing wrote: »

Honestly tell him not to stress out too much. Resits are there for a reason, plus you only need like 35% in exams to pass (well you did in my course) and you can practically guess your way to that.

In my 3 years at uni I worked as a nightclub manager, I made it to 35 lectures and no tutorials at all and I still managed to walk away with a degree. (of course my uni put all my lectures notes online which made it easier). I never bothered doing my honours year as it was blatantly obvious that I had no interest in the subject and once I had my basic degree I was happy.

He can definitely catch up and pass. I've got friends who resat whole years.

To be perfectly honest for many people uni is a bit of a waste, not so much the degree because that is useful but the chosen subject could be anything. Out of all my friends that went to uni studying various subjects (about 25) only 2 still work in their subject field (a doctor and a teacher). I think 17/18 is far too early for most to be choosing what you want to do for the rest of your life.

Blimey! I don't really know what else to say really. Well done, what subject did you do? Was it really easy or are you a real grafter?
DS is doing Computer Science and to be honest has shown very little interest in anything but computers since he was able to reach a keyboard.
The subject is huge and varies a lot and may give him more of an idea which way he wants to go.
He's interested in computer security at the moment but obviously this may change. He did say he wanted more than selling them and fixing them though ( both pretty good job IMO!) I don't really care what job he does to be honest, I just hope he gets one and as a bonus likes it!
I agree he's very young but it was the next step. He hadn't much chance of getting a job around here and hadn't worked and saved to afford a gap year.

Michel_Jhon

That is pretty uncool of your mom to say something like that. I just checked out the pics - he is such a pretty horse! If there is any way that you can get to do the show - without your mother but if you can find some way to do the show, I would. I bet you come out a winner! Good luck - if you can't make that work, tell your mom that by her saying those things about your horse, she's really saying the same stuff about you. Tell her that it makes you feel inadequate. I would say something like, "Well I'm really sorry you think he's not good enough, but I think he's great. I want to do the show, if only to have fun. It's not always about winning you know." Start by being nice though - don't just go in there and flip out on her.

kindofagilr

I dont really have any advice here but I think he needs to be cut some slack

My brother was a model student at high school and in sixth form, he then went to uni and worked at Safeway part time at the same time to fund going to uni.

He soon found he couldnt cope and he found himself in tears every day on the bus to town to go to uni, it still breaks my heart to this day to think of him like that.

He got a job with the NHS as a data entry person, and then a couple of years later decided to study after work for AAT, he passed this and then spoke to his bosses about being transferred to the finance department as he would like to be an accountant.

They agreed, and he went to finance, years later and years of study later, he is now a fully qualified accountant and I am so proud of him.

Yes it didnt work out for him at uni, but it worked out in the end. (I know he had a bit of luck having a understanding boss to move him to finance, but he worked for it)

Sorry I dont have any advice, but I am sure your son will be fine once the loan stuf is sorted xxx

sparklewing

jillymit wrote: »

Blimey! I don't really know what else to say really. Well done, what subject did you do? Was it really easy or are you a real grafter?
DS is doing Computer Science and to be honest has shown very little interest in anything but computers since he was able to reach a keyboard.
The subject is huge and varies a lot and may give him more of an idea which way he wants to go.
He's interested in computer security at the moment but obviously this may change. He did say he wanted more than selling them and fixing them though ( both pretty good job IMO!) I don't really care what job he does to be honest, I just hope he gets one and as a bonus likes it!
I agree he's very young but it was the next step. He hadn't much chance of getting a job around here and hadn't worked and saved to afford a gap year.

I did a business studies course. I discovered the joy of pulling all nighters the night before exams, that's my secret . I am lucky in that I have a photographic memory so I could read a page of notes (not my notes obviously as I hadn't been at the lectures :rolleyes:) and then remember them in the exam next day pretty easily.

He'll be fine in the end. I think the majority of kids go through the 'oh god it's all going wrong I may as well just quit' experience at some stage. Hopefully after the Xmas holidays he'll be feeling more positive about things.

cazziebo

jillymit wrote: »

DS is doing Computer Science and to be honest has shown very little interest in anything but computers since he was able to reach a keyboard.
The subject is huge and varies a lot and may give him more of an idea which way he wants to go.
He's interested in computer security at the moment but obviously this may change. He did say he wanted more than selling them and fixing them though ( both pretty good job IMO!) I don't really care what job he does to be honest, I just hope he gets one and as a bonus likes it!
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Is he at a traditional Uni? The problem might be that the subject is just too academic. If he is really driven to work in IT then he might be better off doing a more practical course in network security or something like that. Some of the newer Universities have excellent reputations for IT courses, whereas some trad Unis just don't feature.
For what it's worth, I used to work in IT and I would hire someone with a practical qualification that proves they can do it, as opposed to a graduate who may know all the theory.
My daughter dropped out after second year (she wanted to leave during first year and I talked her out of it - huge mistake.) I was hugely disappointed. She switched from dentistry to geology and hated that too. She spent some time in a summer camp working with young adults with disabilities and is now working as a one on one carer. She is so happy (and tired!) that I know she's done the right thing. She's still only 19 so plenty of time to decide what to do with her life.
They have to find their own way - and it's so hard watching them do it!

jillymit

cazziebo wrote: »

Is he at a traditional Uni? The problem might be that the subject is just too academic. If he is really driven to work in IT then he might be better off doing a more practical course in network security or something like that. Some of the newer Universities have excellent reputations for IT courses, whereas some trad Unis just don't feature.
For what it's worth, I used to work in IT and I would hire someone with a practical qualification that proves they can do it, as opposed to a graduate who may know all the theory.
My daughter dropped out after second year (she wanted to leave during first year and I talked her out of it - huge mistake.) I was hugely disappointed. She switched from dentistry to geology and hated that too. She spent some time in a summer camp working with young adults with disabilities and is now working as a one on one carer. She is so happy (and tired!) that I know she's done the right thing. She's still only 19 so plenty of time to decide what to do with her life.
They have to find their own way - and it's so hard watching them do it!

Not sure of the difference between one university and another but he's at Kent (Canterbury) on a 4 year 'sandwich course' first two years at uni, a year in 'industry' and the final year back at uni so he should at least have a little experience in the work place when he leaves.
I think the next few months will tell him if the course is really for him.
He never actually said he wanted to leave, just that he wanted to start again so I didn't have to talk him round. I just asked him how he thought he was going to do that and asked him to get some advice about his options.
I agree it is hard to just let them get on with it. I wouldn't want to be his age again now.

shiningdove

gettingready wrote: »

Well, hope all goes well for you but I would not generalise here - you may get your dream job without Uni but will you be able to progress within this field without a degree later on?

Of course, it depends on what that dream job is.

From my experience, one can get an entry level position within a choosen field, may even go 1-2 steps up but will come to a point where a degre (ANY degree, not necesarily in that particulr field) is necessary to progress any further. And that point will come few years down the line when one already has other things on their mind (family, mortgage etc) and is not in a position (financially or timewise) to go back to study.

When one stays within the same company - may go up 1-2 steps, when one tries to move to work for another - the degree (in addition to experience) may be necessary and what then?

Hope I did not ramble on too much and the above makes sense?

In my field its experience that matters. I've already worked my way up to this position.

Michel_Jhon

I think that is the case w/not just wrestlers but just celebrities in general. They seem to forget that we help them to get rich. We support their products, not vice versa. There are some who really appreciate the fans but a lot could care less about you. That's why I simply just enjoy the entertainment value and not hold these people on a pedestal.