Is this unreasonable re maintenance?

NightNurse

I'm happy for you and your girls that things are working out. Take some comfort from the fact that you are still young. You seem bright and a good person at heart. In a way its better this happened now than say in twenty years' time and perhaps four kids later. I think that would have hurt even more if that's possible and four kids would've been really really hard in the circumstances.

You will get over him eventually and you will meet someone new who will make you feel appreciated, special, etc and you will be glad you hadn't wasted all your years on someone who sounds like a coward and less than a man.

All the very best, GG. He will regret this someday, whatever his reasons for leaving.

myothercarisaferrari

I have no reason to come on this board but just popped in and read your thread.\

I think your girls are so lucky to have such a strong mother, I wish my mum had been the same where she and my dad split up.

Keep your chin up and have a fantastic Christmas x

Gloomy_Past_Bright_Future

I don't think I have ever posted on this board and if I have I don't remember it.

I read it all the time, it is so refreshing to see someone who is not out to financially ruin their childrens father, but who is being rational about the situation and as a result will be in the forseeable future, financially sound.

I also believe that by being the way you are being, your (ex) OH will realise what he has lost, as you are being gracious about the whole thing.

As for him throwing you out, that is terrible behaviour, but I suspect that he feels he didn't deserve you and it was his own guilt taking over.

May I wish you all the best for your future.

GPBF

mitchaa

Who is the guilty chap, which football club does he play for? £12k per month is around £235k pa (so £4500pw)

You have to bare in mind his career is short, very short, so dont get used to the money because come 35, he wont be earning as he does now.

Kimitatsu

mitchaa wrote: »

Who is the guilty chap, which football club does he play for? £12k per month is around £235k pa (so £4500pw)

You have to bare in mind his career is short, very short, so dont get used to the money because come 35, he wont be earning as he does now.

Mitchaa - I suggest that you read the post where I warned all of you to behave. That was totally uncalled for and irrelevant to the discussion.

None of us have any reason to know anything else about the OP's life, she has come on here asking for advice and has been given it, dont start stirring or posts will be deleted.

Play nice

GobbledyGook

Thought I'd pop on and just thank everyone again. It's been a hellish few days, but my MIL has been a tower of strength for me. I've always been like a daughter to her she says and that won't change

I'm just taking each day as it comes until we get through Christmas and my eldest daughters birthday.

mitchaa - He isn't employed by a football club, not that it's any of your business.

Thank you to all the people who actually helped, gave advice and good wishes. I appreciate it.

zzzLazyDaisy

If it helps, I was devastated when my son did the dirty on my beautiful DIL, leaving her with two babies under 18 months. They are two beautiful young women now who adore their mother and their 4 younger siblings from her second marriage (who also call me grandma :T).

My son went on to marry someone else quite quickly, but it didn't last. He recently told me that he has always regretted letting DIL1 slip away, but he was too immature and selfish at the time to see beyond the disturbed nights and the floozie with loose knickers.

You are doing great. Anyone would be proud to have you for a DIL xxx

lrr_2

At the end of the day its not about you and him, its about the kids and making sure they are happy and being able to adjust to a different life that will different to what they (and you) have been used to. Having been through a divorce with a young child at the time, it is hard initially at first but it does get better. Just dont get bitter as its the kids who usually get the short straw.

Be strong!

good luck

Loopy_Girl

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

the floozie with loose knickers.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:love it!!!!!! What a fab expression Lazy!!!:D

Loopy_Girl

GobbledyGook wrote: »

Thought I'd pop on and just thank everyone again. It's been a hellish few days, but my MIL has been a tower of strength for me. I've always been like a daughter to her she says and that won't change

I'm just taking each day as it comes until we get through Christmas and my eldest daughters birthday.

mitchaa - He isn't employed by a football club, not that it's any of your business.

Thank you to all the people who actually helped, gave advice and good wishes. I appreciate it.

Hey GG

Thanks for the update...you seem to be doing okay and as I suspected your MIL is still going to be your Mum figure which is fantastic news:D

I hope you have a wonderful Christmas, I really do xx