Marriage over - need help

Bryando

Jowo wrote: »

It depends on whether the people in the relationship are joint owners or joint tenants and are married or in a civil partnership or not.

"Your rights if you move in with a partner will depend on whether you rent or own your home and whether you are married or in a civil partnership. Many people believe that if they live together, they have the same rights as a married couple. This is not the case. There's no such thing as common law marriage in Scotland and you will have fewer rights if you just live together than you would do if you were married or in a civil partnership"

If you split up, your rights to remain in the family home or to make your husband, wife or partner leave will depend on:

• whose name is on the tenancy agreement
• whether or not you are married or in a civil partnership.

http://scotland.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/advice_topics/families_and_households/living_together/rights_if_you_live_with_your_partner_in_rented_accommodation

To which a Sheriff decides who leaves, should the parties involved can't come to a decision.

locutus2003

Hi

I just wanted to say how incredibly dignified I think you've been. You've been as I would like to be if, God forbid, I was in the same circumstances, but feel certain I wouldn't be able to be.

Your kids are 3 lucky children to have such a strong, calm and dignified woman as their mother. When either of mine were 6 weeks old, I could barely look after myself, let alone deal with what you've been dealing with this week!

Hoping it all gets sorted as soon as possible for you.

x

caeler

I've no advice but I hope you are able to continue with all your strength and send you a big virtual *hug*. Did MIL/SIL show on Thursday? Is everything OK?

Mely

Leila, you are doing amazingly well, both for you and your children - they are so lucky having such a lovely mum! (Keep strong!).
Mel xxXxx

MFWannabe

LeilaZ wrote: »

Thank you for your help everyone.

He is being charged with assaulting my son (which I'm told with him being a child will be taken very seriously), assaulting his Dad, assaulting a policeman, causing a breach of the peace and criminal damage. He has been bailed, but thankfully bailed to his mother's house and warned to stay away from here. I will take his things to his sister and she will pass them on.

I haven't been able to see anyone this morning. CAB can't see me for 3 WEEKS!! I have an appointment with a solicitor in on Wednesday (the soonest I can be seen). The police have put me in touch with the local Women's Aid (I didn't think they'd be able to help us, but they can thankfully) and there is someone coming out this afternoon to speak to me.

My husband rang me earlier (I didn't answer) and left a huge abusive message on my answering machine. He says he doesn't want me back anyway, that he's been seeing someone else since I got pregnant with our son and that he was only ever here with me because I had somewhere secure for him to live. He also said that my son is a brat and his only regret is he didn't hit him sooner and harder. He said he hates children, never wanted any and isn't interested in access to the two babies until they are bigger as they are just demanding wee !!!!!! at the moment. So he has really shown his true colours big time.

Thank you for all your help. I very much appreciate it. I'm totally thrown at the moment, this time last week I was happily married and at home with 3 wonderful children including my newborn (he was very poorly when he was born) and now I realise my marriage has basically been a sham and my husband a complete *******! Leila

Hi Leila

Just been reading your post and couldn't go without saying the following:

All the above just shows what a complete horrible 'man' (word used very loosely!!) you were married to and how much better off you and your children will be without him!!

Would also like to give you a big HUG as i think you are being incredibly strong and wish you all the luck in the world at getting this person out of your life

InaPickle

Hi Leila! This is just a quick post to wish you and your family a very Merry Christmas and a fantastic start to 2010. May the coming year bring you everything you could ever wish for yourself.

Pickle
x

rachel6188

i agree with everyone else you have shown amazing strength and you should be extremely proud of yourself..i just want to say how sorry iam to hear of what you and your children are going through but you will come out of it stronger. take care xxxx