Snide remark from a famous shop staff ref Autism

Naf20

maggied wrote: »

I'm sorry - the Aspie in you allows you to call shop workers thick?

I'm sure (I hope) you meant this tongue in cheek but think about how this sounds in the context of what the OP is saying.

PasturesNew does have Aspergers - she doesn't mean any offence to the OP.

tiamai_d

Do people see a thread where people are expressing different opinions and just find a post to quote and jump into the arguing?

If it was said in a derogatory way, for example 'he was misbehaving because he must have autism/come from a broken home/too much sugar etc, tsk!', then I would complain. If however it was perhaps the SA trying to excuse the child's behaviour 'oh maybe he has autism and therefore unable to control his emotions in this enviroment' then I wouldn't.

OP, you hear what was said and the way in which it was said. Perhaps an email to say that you were embarrassed and upset to hear this comment from a staff member.

seven-day-weekend

maggied wrote: »

I'm sorry - the Aspie in you allows you to call shop workers thick?

I'm sure (I hope) you meant this tongue in cheek but think about how this sounds in the context of what the OP is saying.

As Pastures New is indeed 'Aspie' then she might find it difficult to put herself in someone else's shoes.

However, the remark was a little uncalled for, and also untrue; my son has AS, is very intelligent AND works in a shop. He has always liked retail work because it does not involve too much organisation and sequencing (things he finds difficult).

As regards the original remark from the shop staff - well I can understand the OP getting upset and I suppose the shop assistant should not have said it in public, but really that's the way of the world and the OP's daughter will have to get used to it, I'm afraid.

timmmers

DX2 wrote: »

Would be an awfully long course if you have to take every disability into consideration.

I disagree...my Grandma used to run this kind oif course, it consisted of a clip round the ear when I was out of order. She called it good manners.

I'd definitely complain. They upset a child...and were being paid to look after kids.
Must have been very awkward instead of a treat for you both.

t

Bronnie

3_cheeky_princesses wrote: »

The child had played up all thru the queue which was about half hour and had been kicking and hitting his mother and other stuff. He hit her so she hit him on the back and said "dont hit me" :rolleyes: She had smacked him several times but i think that just proves smacking doesnt work!

So nobody blames the mother who rewarded her naughty, kicking and shouting brat with a visit to Santa? If she'd have marched him out at the first signs of such bad behaviour and told him he wouldn't be seeing Santa until he could be a good boy, none of this would have happened!

seven-day-weekend

Absolutely true Bronnie - that fact seems to have got lost somewhere along the line!

Janepig

Bronnie wrote: »

So nobody blames the mother who rewarded her naughty, kicking and shouting brat with a visit to Santa? If she'd have marched him out at the first signs of such bad behaviour and told him he wouldn't be seeing Santa until he could be a good boy, none of this would have happened!

Quite. And I would have been more upset at having to be in a queue for a time with such a badly behaved child and a mother who seemingly was unable to control him.

Jxx

Savvy_Sue

But that's not a fact over which the OP has any control, nor one she can do anything about now.

Whereas she CAN suggest to the store that their staff need reminding, at the very least, that they should not be making personal comments about customers where other customers can hear them!

DX2

timmmers wrote: »

I disagree...my Grandma used to run this kind oif course, it consisted of a clip round the ear when I was out of order. She called it good manners.

I'd definitely complain. They upset a child...and were being paid to look after kids.
Must have been very awkward instead of a treat for you both.

t

Seems the good old clip around the ear didn't work

3_cheeky_princesses wrote: »

The child had played up all thru the queue which was about half hour and had been kicking and hitting his mother and other stuff. He hit her so she hit him on the back and said "dont hit me" :rolleyes: She had smacked him several times but i think that just proves smacking doesnt work!

Thank you all for your opinions, experiences and advice. I think i will contact the store. I really appreciate all your help and a lot of you have echo'd my thoughts and feelings :grouphug:

maggied_2

Naf20 wrote: »

PasturesNew does have Aspergers - she doesn't mean any offence to the OP.

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

As Pastures New is indeed 'Aspie' then she might find it difficult to put herself in someone else's shoes.

However, the remark was a little uncalled for, and also untrue; my son has AS, is very intelligent AND works in a shop. He has always liked retail work because it does not involve too much organisation and sequencing (things he finds difficult).

Let me be clearer then.

I don't think it's OK to call people thick because they work in a shop.

I know she meant no offence to the OP but when everyone is busy being offended by the foolish remark made by a shop assistant then surely someone saying that all people who work in shops are thick is just as bad.

Anyway, I'm all 'offended' out for today.

Did you email the shop OP? Any response?