finding friends

aimee21j

Im a teacher too so if you want a chat we can moan together! :rotfl:

Emmzi

Jays wrote:

Great site, good ideas, but a little too faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar to go to meet new friends.:rotfl: Wish there was something similar here.

Sorry Jays.. works for most UK towns, but not so good if rural. I go to scifi and gaming clubs through meetup.. not much of a knitter myself!

Saint_Chris

I am a member of another site it is a chat site. And it is a real friendly chat site. I'll give you the link if you care to have a look around it.

http://holidaychat.myfreeforum.org/

we used to be part of a holidaysite, which had a chat board, but the holiday people decided to shut down chat. Well somebody set up this site and we all went over to this site.

if you click on the above link then click on the chat section you will see we just chat about everyday stuff.

i do have to say that i now have 2 good friends of this site. 1 is a nice man and his wife who live in scotland. they like me and my hubby are mad tenerife fans they love to visit. And through this we have met them whilst on holiday. Another is a lady who lives about 8 miles from me. But she visits a hairdressers in my home town. When she has an apt she messages me and we meet up in tescos (when possible) for a coffee. it is real nice.

So maybe you could take a look at the above site and see if something like this would suit you.

Also i do have to say that since computers and e-mail i miss getting letters. i have cousins who live world wide, and we used to take the time to sit down and write letters to each other. Now i just seem to sit down and e-mail people.

i love to receive letters through the post. So if you fancy to write to somebody who loves to receive letters then i'm your person. Feel free to pm me.

Dora_the_Explorer_5

Amyone who feels like joning in with a witty , very friendly bunch - have a look at the MSE Big Brother thread http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?p=2283702#post2283702. We don't just talk about BB, honest. Oh, and we sometimes tell fibs

Peakma

I know loads of people,but I don't really have any close friends,someone who you just know is there for you and visa versa.Someone who you can just ring up when your having a really good time or in floods of tears and in need of a bit of support/advice.Someone who you can swap/lend/borrow clothes off and not have to worry that they'l trash it!
When I was a teenager I was in a group of friends,but I always felt a bit of an outsider.But when we'd go out,the best bit was always the getting ready trying on clothes,doing hair and getting drunk as we went along.I miss that.
Making friends is really difficult!(I'm far too paranoid-I'm making myself sound even odder than I actualy am!) I never know how much of my personality to reveal,what to talk about etc.I am naturaly a bit of a loner(unique!!),but do have times when I feel so lonely,would be great to just beable to say anything,talk about taboo subjects..All the ladies at toddler group are very nice but god they seem so Mummsey and are more up on the names of vacuum cleaners/washing powders/and pushcairs than music artists/festivals/websites etc. If I invite them round I feel lilke I have to clean the house up especially,and make sure I don't say a single swear word(I dont swear a lot!)
They say having friends is far more important for your health than having money.I feel like I have a lot of virtual friends(I know your all real really) as any problem I have I can come on here and get advice instantly,but it's not the same as knowing someone and sharring a really good laugh.
So all you lucky people with a really good best mate,hang onto them and let them know how much you appreciate them!
I also frequent the Sheffield forum,and they have a weekly meet up in a pub,I've never gone though,a bit shy to! But OP maybe where you live they have a similar forum,with meet ups?

Thriftylady

Peakma wrote:

I know loads of people,but I don't really have any close friends,someone who you just know is there for you and visa versa.Someone who you can just ring up when your having a really good time or in floods of tears and in need of a bit of support/advice.

I think you have really hit the nail on the head for a lot of people. I have made some good friends through work, but I commute 30 miles to work every day, so none of them live in my area. I am just about to go on maternity leave, and have been ill throughout my pregnancy and missed a lot of work, so although I've had regular texts and emails I haven't actually seen most of my work friends for ages, and I'll hardly see them over the next few months either. They will visit, but it will be a major operation to get everyone organised! My old school and university friends are spread all over the globe. I would love nothing more than to have a friend who lives in the same village as me, someone who I could maybe have over for a coffee and a chat during the day after my baby is born, as I know I am going to struggle with the isolation of being a new mum on my own in the house all day.......(this is my first baby, so its all new to me..)

wannabe

I know what you mean about having really close friends. I like some of you went to a uni miles away from home and my friends live all over the place. I would love to be able to just sit, gossip and have a coffee 9well glass of wine or two if I was honest0 and a really good giggle, cry or moan. I don't have that closeness with anyone and when I see it in a film e.g. Brig Jones Diary I wish I could have that.

delluver

auditbabe wrote:

you can always chat to me:beer:

or me on msn or pm me

delluver

Shez

hi wannabe!

just been reading this thread - gosh I never realised so many people felt the same way - I too miss having my friends, since I got re-married although I wanted to stay in contact with them - they didnt seem to want to know me anymore? maybe they thought i would be too busy - but I would really love to see them again and have a girlie evening, meal/drink/chat - some more me time! I love my family but sometimes you lose yourself dont ya?
Then we had our son, everyone came round first 2 weeks - then nothing, no one came for the rest of my maternity leave. I thought it would be great to catch up with the neighbours (they are all home all day) and I was working full time - but when I suggested to one about having a coffee one morning she said "yeah If im not busy"! didnt happen!

Ive recently really been thinking about ringing up my old girlie friends, but think im too scared incase they dont want to know and will end up feeling silly.

Its sad to think we are all sitting here wanting the same thing - just a cuppa and a chat/contact with someone.

MushyPeas

Hey Shez

I wonder the same thing all the time, whether to phone up my old friends. I worry that if I call, and we meet up, it will be awkward and flat.

As much as I love coming on MSE I wonder whether it is a sad reflection of society that many of us rely on 'unknown' friends, but then it is better than noone I guess it is just the same a pen friends people would of had in the 'good old' days.

BTW, congrats on getting re-married - hope for us all

MP