finding friends

SeldomSensible

Today's the most depressing eh? Almost! - but for me it's tomorrow. It's my birthday and it's a scary number.... I'm taking the day off work to hide under my duvet.

Philippa36

BucketOfCoffee

Hope you have a great day, even if its spent just hiding and keeping warm under the duvet!

Hey Messy, Urbs is fine, we went out for coffee and cake to celebrate her birthday last Friday. I'll have to tell her the thread is back!

A meet would be fabulous but we're all at different ends of the country ~ thats what makes it difficult

Whats_my_age_again

Good luck with the email guy whatamess. I did the same and chatted with a girl online and then did meet up after a couple of weeks. Met up another three times since then. All in short succession though and the last being on Saturday. Was too much too soon and I think she is fed up of me now!!!

And kind of put my foot in it by saying something stupid but I am working on the basis if she can understand why I said it and still is in contact with me then she shows signs of being a good friend. If she looses contact then I will just try to convince myself that she was not worth it anyway.

But still kicking myself for my slip up. They just seem to happen to often. They are not bad just maybe saying things that should remain unsaid or left alone for later. They say learn from mistakes but I never seem to do it!

Right that is enough of my problems. This making friends is not easy!! But guess I have to keep trying. Need to look at joining some groups or clubs or something.

Happy Birthday for tomorrow BoC.

Hope everyone else is well.

tam21

redmandarin wrote:

I wonder if you've got any tips on how to find local forums to meet up with? Or has anyone else any ideas?

Hi, sorry to butt in on the thread, just thought I'd mention https://www.netmums.com for any mums (and dads!) who want to meet up with other local parents. I go on there a lot and it's got a great "Meet a mum" (again - or dad lol) section that's split into local sections so you can chat to and meet up with other people in your area who are maybe feeling the same way.

Hope this helps someone!

whatamess_2

Hi Guys after emails flying back and forth for 2 weeks am meeting th internet guy Sunday evening for a meal.

Spoke to him last night. Know someone that knows of him, she knows someone that knows him well.

Got her to ring and find out what he is like.

need a jiob in MI5 me.;)

He is very nice apparently.

cantcope

oohhh good luck tonight. and most importantly, have fun.
I am all moved in home now. Things seem ok, we are trying to get used to each other at the moment. Seems very odd going through someone elses fridge.

Back to work tomorrow. Some normality lol

Robin-o'-the-Hood

Do feel I need to point out that us blokes can get lonely too! I'm far from home, have kids and never managed to make any friends where I live now. I dont think theres anything really wrong with me....just too quiet and shy. Even at 37.
If you're not into macho cr*p and cant get to pubs etc (no money, no time!) then you've had it really. Anyone any ideas?????

cantcope

hi Robin,

no need to point it out. McLaren and Couttsy are men. Do you not go out anywhere?? Women aren't only in pubs. In fact i'm rarely in one.

I'd love to be chatted up in the supermarket, or at the petrol garage, and invited out, or anywhere else i go actually. Most of the men i meet in the pub are drunk! i think there's a stigma about talking to people unless you are "out" somewhere....

very strange. i recall reading about some website that you can get cards from, and they have your details on and you just give them to people you'd like to get to know. Anyone heard of it?

whatamess_2

Good luck cc with getting used to being back with the parents. Never heard of the cards? Would be to embarased (sp) to give one out I think. Having 10 minutes here to try and calm down before getting ready to go out.

Got a lovely white shirt (reduced to £2 cause it was dirty) And some three quarter dog tooth check trousers. Smart but not over the top.

Robin have a look on some of the dating sites, the guy I am meeting tonight was on there, he only lives 10 minutes away but we probably wouldnt have met.

Whats_my_age_again

Hope the meet with the guy went well whatamess.

The girl I met on Net. She is complete opposite to me (i.e. far from shy and very outgoing) but I like her. Met her this this weekend and asked her where I stand and what she wants and she could not answer me, and I kind of gave her warning I may have been asking. So god knows what is going on.

I like her company but do not want to be taken for a ride or just be some kind of 'toy' that she can use during her boring periods

Welcome Robin, and yeah I am a MAN and know what you are on about. Although I am younger (mid 20s) I do get hell of a lonely and find extreme difficulty meeting people as I am not really a pub person. Also live in a small area so not really opportunity to get out and about and meet new people - it is same old faces.