finding friends

tigerlily

tkblueyonder wrote:

i didnt realise i stopped liking them lol

good good.:D

whatamess_2

Mics_chick wrote:

Haven't got time to read this HUGE thread can anyone explain how it works please? Is it a place to chat or advice on how to find friends?

Wannubs started a thread about finding friends and how to do it. It has just spiraled from there really. People dip in and out to have a general chat.

Whats_my_age_again

Well Done on Meeting CC.

Good Luck with the guy, whatamess.

Welcome Mics_chick, I am a newbie on this massive thread too! I came here to look for advice on how to find friends, although not really started to ask any advice yet, so I have kind of just 'chatted' so to speak. So as I see it is serving two purposes.

I was planning to look at local newspaper and any websites for activities I could maybe take part in to get out and about so to speak. I have had a quick look but there seems to be nothing and I am running out of ideas. Think I am going to look into volunteering opportunities as at least that would get me out of the house.

Does anyone here get really down about a lack of friends? I am increasingly finding myself getting myself into a very down state because it appears I have nothing in my life bar parents. I used to get involved in a pursuit that would take my mind off things but it was something that I had to give up as it could have spiralled and made my life uncontrolable.

My main issue is a lack of confidence and self-esteem. I am constantly struggling for acceptance I think. All I want is friends to spend time with but fear the rejection if they do not like me or get me. A girl I met last week seemed nice and a good potential friend but I am unable to concentrate on things because I do not know what she thinks of me. I want so much to be liked and know I am a good person but I have these little demons that are always wanting signs of acceptance. I suppose through my life I have been quite introverted (due to childhood experiences) but do not like it and can't seem to change it.

Sorry that has turned into a rant.

Hope everyone else is having a good weekend.

tigerlily

Couttsy wrote:

Does anyone here get really down about a lack of friends? I am increasingly finding myself getting myself into a very down state because it appears I have nothing in my life bar parents. I used to get involved in a pursuit that would take my mind off things but it was something that I had to give up as it could have spiralled and made my life uncontrolable.

My main issue is a lack of confidence and self-esteem. I am constantly struggling for acceptance I think. All I want is friends to spend time with but fear the rejection if they do not like me or get me. A girl I met last week seemed nice and a good potential friend but I am unable to concentrate on things because I do not know what she thinks of me. I want so much to be liked and know I am a good person but I have these little demons that are always wanting signs of acceptance. I suppose through my life I have been quite introverted (due to childhood experiences) but do not like it and can't seem to change it.

It was as if I had written this about me!! It is a horrible place to be, I have been for so long but am determined to change things this year. I have bought self help books, am waiting for counselling, am on medication and have joined the social group, also have been chatting to people local to me who I came accross on myspace, have just been chatting on msn so far but one of them wants to meet up for a drink. I guess I am on baby steps!! I ordered the Paul McKenna Instant confidence book and CD which arrived today, I am just about to settle down with a cuppa and have a read......I am trying ANYTHING which might help. I have been "paralysed" in life for so long that SOMETHING has to work...maybe a little bit of everything I am trying!!
My heart goes out to anyone who has these things to deal with as it really is soul destroying. I am here to listen if anyone wants to rant etc.

Whats_my_age_again

tigerlily wrote:

It was as if I had written this about me!! It is a horrible place to be, I have been for so long but am determined to change things this year. I have bought self help books, am waiting for counselling, am on medication and have joined the social group, also have been chatting to people local to me who I came accross on myspace, have just been chatting on msn so far but one of them wants to meet up for a drink. I guess I am on baby steps!! I ordered the Paul McKenna Instant confidence book and CD which arrived today, I am just about to settle down with a cuppa and have a read......I am trying ANYTHING which might help. I have been "paralysed" in life for so long that SOMETHING has to work...maybe a little bit of everything I am trying!!
My heart goes out to anyone who has these things to deal with as it really is soul destroying. I am here to listen if anyone wants to rant etc.

Hi tigerlily you will need to let me know how you get on with that book and cd. i have a few self help books but they are not really geared to confidence issues. Did read the 'art of happiness' by the dalai lama over xmas period and found some of it very good but difficult to put some of it into practice. And it is not soley geared towards my problems I don't think but still worth reading - and no I am not a Buddhist

pcco

feel free to pm me anytime i know exactly how you feel and i could do with a girlie chat as well

goth-gal-4eva

Thriftylady wrote:

it doesn't sound pathetic to me at all. its often said that loneliness is the last great taboo in our society - people find it easier to admit publicly to being a drug addict, or having been abused as a child, or any number of traumatic things, than they do to admit that they are lonely and would like to make friends....

you have whatched too many epsof hollyoaks:p

djdido2

i am so glad i found this thread. tried reading through most of it but not got round to all of it yet.

was sat here having a good cry in the early hours of the morning and wondered where i could go just to have a good "feeling sorry for myself" rant. its horrible being/feeling like you are completely on your own so it would be nice to chat to a few peeps here.

i am usually so full of life and sparkle and rarely get down but when i do its big time. been posting on MSE for a fair few months and havent really hooked up with anybody in particular so thought i'd try here at least to get a few things off my chest and be cheered up knowing there are people here to help and support that are in the same boat as me.


didnt want to admit that i am lonely as i am mainly quite a popular outgoing person.

anyone out there in the same position. fancy a chin wag and a good girly moan? lol.

dido

cantcope

Hi and welcome.

You aren't alone. Please feel free to rant/rave/whinge on here. Most of us are happy to help and support you. There are a few guys on here too that can give a male perspective on things.

Hope you are feeling a little better this morning.

Lyns

whatamess_2

Nice to see this thread get a new lease of life.:D It had dried up a bit. Good luck to those that are going to try and read it all!!

Feeling very down myself today, work issues mainly, had to come home from work now, meant to be there until 2.30.

One of the line managers for another team is a condesending arrogant cow, which made me mad yesterday, there are 4 of us meant to be having a meeting later today but I couldnt face it. Know it would turn either into a barny which would have me on a disablinary (sp) or 3 on to one me being the one.

Have a broken tooth and look a mess, plus my back is playing up. House is a pig sty and all I want to do is go to bed!!

Rant over, sorry, time to get a grip!!

Have a good day all.
Messy