do you miss relatives you arent speaking to at Xmas

Greener_Grass

It will just be OH, me and our son for Christmas this year. To be honest I like it that way although reading some of the previous posts it does make me sad

My family all live 350 miles away in Scotland and OH's family live close but don't like me at all :mad:so it'd just ruin my Christmas to go to thier house and be ignored the whole time :mad:I look forward to having lots of kids and having a big family Christmas just us

Morglin

red_devil wrote: »

Does anyone have any family they wont be seeing as they have fallen out arent speaking? Will you miss them or not? Will they miss you?

Not at all - I don't speak to my ex or his relatives at any time, and I miss none of them.:j

Lin

red_devil

we dont talk to oh siblings its been a war going on for a number of years. The sister is mad she is horrible, even oh cant stand his own sister. when its family though you tend to never get them out of your hair.

We think she has lost it she found out we were at a certain restaurant earlier this year, came in sat down without invitation at our table, and nearly ruined our meal with her venom. What she didnt bargain on though was the people on the next table were not happy with the disturbance she was causing and asked her to go away ha ha. So she had to go away with her tail between her legs.

Fast forward a few months on and she decides she wants oh to know about one of the children in the family has apparantely got an audition for one of these crappy talent shows. She phones up to tell him, to show off. We arent even friends, blows hot and cold silly cow.

Dont miss her at anytime not even Xmas. Perhaps miss having a nice sil though!

Intastella

This is my grandson's first christmas and i won't be seeing him...haven't actually seen him at all, only pictures that my friend got off my daughter's FB and sent me That's down to her partner, who needs his legs breaking, quite frankly. :mad:

Fell out with the rest of my family (except my brother) last year, haven't actually seen them since i moved to Yorkshire a couple of years ago, but we've been rocky for years, so not too bothered by that. My mum and i have spoken via e-mail since my grandson was born tho, but only a bit.

It's gonna be a tricky one for me this year. Might just have a couple of my BF's vallies and a bottle of whisky and blot out the whole blo*dy thing!

DianneB

God no!! there is a reason I'm not talking to them!! it's a huge relief!!

LameWolf

No. I'm estranged from my family - they don't even know where I live, and I aim to keep it that way. As one doctor once put it to me, "even child abusers have kids, and it's just your misfortune to be one of those kids".

Worse for DH, I think. Both his parents are dead, and he still misses them. I wish I could've known them, as from what he's said, they were lovely people.

flippin36

Not seeing a certain family member at Christmas has been the best thing I have ever done. I always tried to make an effort to be friendly and choose a nice gift and generally catch up and make things right. It was like hitting my head against a brick wall. She would walk out of the room when I walked in or simply refuse to speak me. The atmosphere was awful for everyone (including my daughter who started to notice that Auntie.....was a bit strange!) We would all go home in the evening feeling a bit sad and fedup.

So you know what, I just gave up trying. Now we just spend Christmas with people who care and appreciate us. Sometimes you just have to accept that things are never going to work with some people and get on with your life. I don't feel sad about the kids missing out on seeing this relative at all. I want my kids to see family as people that support and care for you, and that when push comes to shove will accept you as you are and forgive your mistakes.

screamer

LameWolf wrote: »

No. I'm estranged from my family - they don't even know where I live, and I aim to keep it that way. As one doctor once put it to me, "even child abusers have kids, and it's just your misfortune to be one of those kids".

Worse for DH, I think. Both his parents are dead, and he still misses them. I wish I could've known them, as from what he's said, they were lovely people.

I know what you mean. What I didn't make clear was that my sister, my brother and I were adopted in our teens due to me being a victim of abuse. I've recently had to send messages to my natural mother to ask her evil kids to leave me alone.

Not one member of my natural family know where I live and I intend to keep it that way. Real father is in prison right now serving yet another jail sentence for abusing kids. I wasn't his first victim and I wasn't his last apparently! It's a shame the justice system in this country is so messed up, in many other countries he'd either be locked up for life or put to death (I know which one I'd prefer)

My heart goes out to you hun, the pain never leaves you does it? PM me if things get bad for you! xx

Curious_George_2

in a word, no
I dont miss any of them at anytime of year, i certainly dont want any of them turning up and spoiling my christmas!

LouBlue

Well me and my sisters, haven't seen our dad for about 14 years..but that has been a blessing. And my mum passed away 2 years ago, Christmas has never been the same since, she was the heart and soul of our family, but we do make the best of it, she would want that. Life is short, you don't always have all the time in the world, so make the most of those people you care about. But I agree, if a family member is causing a lot of pain and you have done your best to sort things out but to no avail, you need to look after yourself and your loved ones and not live in the past.