do you miss relatives you arent speaking to at Xmas

Dorato

My family arent speaking to my mum so they arent speaking to me either. I'll miss them but they wont miss me.

SailorSam

I'm not going to see my youngest sister but not going to miss her for a minute, since she was a child all she has done is take now she realises the money has dried up, we#re not prepared to carry her any longer.
But she still has the power to punish us, i'll miss my nieces terrible, they are beautiful and don't even realise there's a problem.

teacherandmum

we haven't spoken or seen my husbasnds mother and father for 4 and a half years (6 weeks b4 we got married) we will not miss them and they have never tried to get in touch even though we now have dd.
they will also not be missed by their other 2 sons and their families whom they argued with aroubnd 15 years ago and not seen them since.
they are very self centred individuals who are very self obsessed and controlling - even to the point that they never spoke to their own parents after they married!
how did my husband turn out to be a normal guy with that going on??!!

Finefoot

nope. plenty of happpy people who enjoy my company around.

berniesmaster

i will miss em, but its worth it knowing theres gunna be no arguements!!

savvy

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nuttywoman

My son`s g/f decided as soon as they moved in together that she`ll have nothing more to do with us, despite her always staying here when son was still at home.I`ve recenly found out she`s blocked me on FB, and they recently moved into another place but we`ve not been invited.
My son is in the middle of it all, & when he comes to visit we never call her cos its not fair.
The problem is Christmas presents, Do we buy them for her as normal or what?

iwanttobeanonymous

I don't, but I'm sad for my kids, as their relationship with my parents was fairly normal, but pursuing any kind of relationship with them myself was too painful, and making me ill, which is no use to my kids, is it? I feel quite smug though, knowing the whole situation is not of my making, and that although they have other grandchildren, they are hurt and miss mine. I know that's not big or clever, but it's how it is.

screamer

I won't be seeing any of my family over Christmas, not that there's much left of it.

I received a phone call 2 hours ago to say my only uncle has died. My little brother killed himself this time last year but I didn't find out until February. Around the same time my awfully nasty little sister fell out with me because I couldn't babysit her kids as I was moving house (70 miles away, not exactly around the corner) She told me she'd tell the kids I didn't care about them and I haven't seen or spoken to my nephews since. My mum doesn't want to do Christmas dinner so I invited her over as OH's parents are here Christmas day and she said my dad would rather have dinner at home. 10 minutes later she told me they're going out for Christmas dinner.

I'm glad that OH's parents treat me like a daughter or else Christmas would be really lonely for me.

I'm sick of my backstabbing family, and it's all happened because I've moved away from my home town to be with my wonderful boyfriend.

I'm buying my brother a wreath but that's about all the contact I'm going to have with any of them. It's depressing just thinking about it, so never mind, I'll have a great time with OH and his folks!!

Paparika

I guess i am very fortunate.

my mothers side of the family kinda disowned me when i left home at 17 (now 39) and they don't bother with me and never bothered sending my ds any birthday cards when he was small.

Now i am ill, one member out of hundreds asks my mum how i am every time they talk.

This Friday is my grandfathers 90th birthday, and a surprise buffet has been arranged for him, now i know that my nan (wicked witch) said she wanted all the family there, we know she has been selective on who was asked, my mum just told her i would be there as I wanted to see my grandfather.

should be interesting... I'm older and wiser to stand up to her, and her spiteful nasty ways

We are only going because its my mums dad, she moved to France last year and she is coming back for a long weekend, just for him ( and me)


Family's can't pick or choose em.