do you miss relatives you arent speaking to at Xmas

LisaLou1982

I feel really sad reading some of the replies. Ive not got a particularly close family although I will see them all at some point over Christmas. Usually 1 day a year is enough though as they can drive me round the twist!
This year will be sad though as dad died in July so this December will be the 1st birthday and christmas for me without him

tara747

It is very sad to read some of these posts. I am lucky I suppose, I am very close to my family and we see quite a lot of each other especially at Christmas.

However, my dad passed away not so long ago and I find Christmas very hard because of that. He loved Christmas and it is just not the same without him.

tara747

LisaLou1982 - I just read your post after I wrote mine.

(((hugs))) to you, PM me if you ever need a sympathetic ear or just someone who knows exactly what you're going through.

LisaLou1982

((Hugs)) to you too Tara. Its devestating isnt it? Likewise, if you need a chat or anything, feel free to PM me. Is this Xmas your 1st without your dad? x

tara747

LisaLou1982 wrote: »

((Hugs)) to you too Tara. Its devestating isnt it? Likewise, if you need a chat or anything, feel free to PM me. Is this Xmas your 1st without your dad? x

No, but it still feels like it only happened yesterday IYKWIM. I'm sure you are (for want of a better word) dreading Christmas and I really feel for you.

I will PM you soon xo

annberlin

nuttywoman wrote: »

My son`s g/f decided as soon as they moved in together that she`ll have nothing more to do with us, despite her always staying here when son was still at home.I`ve recenly found out she`s blocked me on FB, and they recently moved into another place but we`ve not been invited.
My son is in the middle of it all, & when he comes to visit we never call her cos its not fair.
The problem is Christmas presents, Do we buy them for her as normal or what?

My sil fell out with my sister and as a result sil did not speak to my parents and kept the granchildren away. Every year my parents sent birthday and xmas cards and presents and had know way of knowing if they all recieved them and this went on for twenty or so years.The children even though grown up had no relationship with my parents,my parents went to their grave not knowing their grandchildren and that made them very sad.My message to you is stop buying them presents it will only make you sad not knowing if they recieved them. Try to make up with her if possible because life is too short.Saying that, when my mum died last year my sil tried to speak to me but knowing what she put my parents through did not want to know.If possible try to make up with her but don't buy any presents.:beer:

glitterycloud

I will miss my sister this year, we fell out in April after I found out I was pregnant and also emigrated the same month, I have tried and tried to patch things up but she doesnt reply to me at all. Its all such a huge shame and its the first time I havent had my sister around in my life. I will definately miss not speaking to her and her children at christmas especially as I will be a mum this christmas for the first time too and she won't even have seen my child:sad:

I wish she would realise that life is short and to be honest it was her that caused us to fall out and after saying many many nasty things about me and my husband I still want us to have a relationship but being the other side of the world makes things even harder to sort out.

Cassa

I won't miss my mother who was astoundingly horrible to me when I was pregnant and have not seen for 15 years.

But just recently have been contacted by my father who has been looking for me for 11 years (they divorced when I was a child and she poisened me against him), he tried to contact me through her, and she said she didn't know where I lived - and she did...

So me, son & father will have a wonderful Christmas, she will be deservedly on her own.

clearing_out_my_pockets

This is a strange one for me.

I had a falling out with my dad's family about three years ago but before then we were very close - one of my uncles lives a five minute drive from our house. Every christmas we used to have the family round on boxing day - one year my mum catered for 20 people.

Now... yeah, I'll be honest - I miss it. I miss the laughter and happiness. I even miss the bickering and the pettyness. BUT I know that if we were to 'do' boxing day again, it would never be like it used to. Too much has changed and too much damage has been done. The family I miss are the family I used to know before they let us down.

Charlie23

We won't be seeing my OH's family. I find it hard at times as i'd like my children to have grandparents, uncles and aunts and cousins. This will be the second year we haven't seen them at christmas and last year was the best christmas we've ever had (sad really).
Just had a second baby so it means my mil has never seen either of my children (nor will she ever) and my fil, sil and bil have never seen my son.
I do find it really sad at times as i'd really like a big extended family (i'm an only child and we don't see my parents often as we live too far away).
My OH is the one who is most happy we don't see his family - i had to tell him to tell them when our son was born. He really doesn't like them.
For everyone who says life's too short please be happy that you get on with your family and realise that for some families it is actually better not to be talking. Always remember my husbands favourite quote: 'you can choose your friends but not your family'

Happy Christmas to everyone Enjoy. :j