do you miss relatives you arent speaking to at Xmas

annberlin

glitterycloud wrote: »

I will miss my sister this year, we fell out in April after I found out I was pregnant and also emigrated the same month, I have tried and tried to patch things up but she doesnt reply to me at all. Its all such a huge shame and its the first time I havent had my sister around in my life. I will definately miss not speaking to her and her children at christmas especially as I will be a mum this christmas for the first time too and she won't even have seen my child:sad:

I wish she would realise that life is short and to be honest it was her that caused us to fall out and after saying many many nasty things about me and my husband I still want us to have a relationship but being the other side of the world makes things even harder to sort out.

I know your message is a couple of months old but just came across it. Families are funny, and life takes different turns and I wish I could be wise when it comes to it. My experience as is yours, life is too short- so why let differences which are not that important interfere.That is life. I do not speak to some of my family for various reasons but wish I could just forgive them .Lets face it non of us is perfect.Just keep trying and hope it will be a happy outcome. Wish you well. Hope my family will be perfect someday also.

annberlin

Cassa wrote: »

I won't miss my mother who was astoundingly horrible to me when I was pregnant and have not seen for 15 years.

But just recently have been contacted by my father who has been looking for me for 11 years (they divorced when I was a child and she poisened me against him), he tried to contact me through her, and she said she didn't know where I lived - and she did...

So me, son & father will have a wonderful Christmas, she will be deservedly on her own.

Casa ,do not write your mother off. My son wrote me off when my husband and I were going through a divorce all because he thought his dad could not lie to him .Well he did!!Just think she brought you up where was your father? did he pay for your upkeep, have you for weekends, send you christmas and birthday presents. More importantley, feed you , clothe you, wash your clothes and love you.

Please just think

annberlin

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

This is a strange one for me.

I had a falling out with my dad's family about three years ago but before then we were very close - one of my uncles lives a five minute drive from our house. Every christmas we used to have the family round on boxing day - one year my mum catered for 20 people.

Now... yeah, I'll be honest - I miss it. I miss the laughter and happiness. I even miss the bickering and the pettyness. BUT I know that if we were to 'do' boxing day again, it would never be like it used to. Too much has changed and too much damage has been done. The family I miss are the family I used to know before they let us down.

Dont let it. Try and make it the same, water under the bridge etc. Believe me I know what I am talking about. Twenty years estranged from my brother and ten years from my son,makes me sound like the person from hell.Cannot prove that I am not but friends like me.Thankfully that is all in the past it does not take much because you find family feel the same.

Good Luck

Melonade

Wow this thread is quite sad, I didn't see it first time round. It makes me sad to hear about other people's family troubles

We have a family memeber that we don't speak to after she caused massive trouble!! Funnily enough she phones my Nan every xmas which just causes heated discussions between the rest of us. Although my Nan doesn't want to know her now it still unsettles us at xmas. Theres 300 and odd other days but she likes to wait till xmas eve :mad:

I don't like falling out with people and specially not family but every now and then theres one person who's just pure evil. Shame but thats life.