Disgusted/Hurt please help

whydoesithappen

Thank you all so much for your kind words and suggestions I really do appreciate it which is why I posted here. OH is due home around 18.30. I have my sensible calmed down head on but believe me will not let him get off scot free.

Knowing him the way I thought I did, it sounded as if his flirting was not completely without intent, but also realise this girl was trying to be polite, god forbid it being someone who actually fell for his charm. But who knows. I think I will talk to him over dinner and say what some of you have suggested and ask him if he realised his phone called me last night and watch his reaction. I will listen but be firm too he knows my thoughts on cheating and what would happen if he ever did something like that.

Zoetoes

When he accidently rang you, was it to your home phone or mobile?

whydoesithappen

He rang my mobile as I think I was the last person he called earlier on to tell me he would be late and I was out of the house. I believe he hit the button by mistake as there is no way he would want me to hear his conversation.

Tulip

Hope you manage to sort this out OP sorry cant advise.

Zoetoes

whydoesithappen wrote: »

He rang my mobile as I think I was the last person he called earlier on to tell me he would be late and I was out of the house. I believe he hit the button by mistake as there is no way he would want me to hear his conversation.

Ok, instead of saying you heard things, how about saying 'oh by the way why did you ring me last night and leave me such a long voicemail, I haven't had time to listen to it yet, did you knock your phone?'

whydoesithappen

zoeleigh wrote: »

Ok, instead of saying you heard things, how about saying 'oh by the way why did you ring me last night and leave me such a long voicemail, I haven't had time to listen to it yet, did you knock your phone?'

I had thought about doing that, but he knows my voicemail cuts off after 4 mins, but I think I will ask himn if he realises he called me see what he says. Keep calm question him but if I feel like he is lying I will keep quiet and try to get more information, he has been staying out more than normal recently but never really thought anything of it as I didn't think we would ever be in that 'place'.

Thank you all wish me luck logging off he will be here any min.

RAS

Big hugs. Chin up

onetomany

well done op for keeping it together it must have been a long day for you i just wanted to send u a big hug and to let you know all your mse freinds are thinking of you x

Yorkshire-Lady_3

You sound one calm sensible, level headed lady, and I sincerely wish you well.
My Dh and I have been married almost 27 yrs, and cannot imagine how I would feel if I were in your shoes.

Whatever the outcome, I'm sure you've stayed in control and been truly ladylike.

Best wishes,

Sally x

achtunglady

Atomised wrote: »

You deserve the truth and confronting him will hurt but the resentment and mistrust you will feel inside if you ignore it will harm you even more. I'M not sure why he couldn't have called from a friend's phone if his battery died. I hope it was just silly flirting as people sometimes get carried away when they receive an ego boost , especially men of a certain age.
Good luck

Thats if he was with friends and not just this girl on their own, im afraid the cynic in me thinks theres more to this, if he was with friends and his battery had died, could he not have asked one of them especially as he said he was them giving lifts home, sounds fishy, battery "dying" then him strolling in at 2 in the morning. Did you hear any other conversation in the background such as other friends?

Sorry to put this idea in your head but you need to look at things from all angles