MSE Pregnancy Club 17

Fishcake_Random

So far for my birthplan I have;
Stay at home as long a I possibly can, (secretly hoping that it will be to late to move me), lots of breathing and having long baths to help cope.

Once, (if I go) at hospital asking for as little intervention as possible, just gas and air for pain relief, being as active as possible to help things along. I hate lying on my back anyway and it actually hurts due to some scar tissue so I want to squat or be on all fours for the actual birth.

I'd like a natural 3rd stage, and want to feed straight away while having skin to skin contact with baby. And then if im not already at home I want to go home as soon as possible, spending a night in hospital is my second worst nightmare.

Have I skipped anything important?
Also I realise this can all change in a second should the baby be distressed but it atempting to think positive.
x x x x

nikkit72

just had cal from docs ,, my iron level is very low , now have to go out in this horrible weather and get irn tablets ,, i had this through all my pregnancies , oh well tablets here i come again

jha

That looks great fishcake:

here is mine as it stands at the moment - will prob all change on wed if they book me in for planned c/section:rolleyes: You can see - although there is quite a high level of intervention - i still have a chance to state my prefrences

BIRTH PLAN


INDUCTION
·Open to all methods of induction.

EARLY LABOUR – STAGE 1
At home with TENS Machine, paracetamol, gym ball etc, monitoring contractions - will call midwife at hosp for advice as when to make a start for the hospital.

ESTABLISHED LABOUR – STAGE 2
·As soon as labour is established EARLY EPIDURAL ADVISED (see notes)
·NO GA– unless my life is at risk
·NO PENICILLIN
·NO ENTONOX
·NO PETHADINE
·NO CODINE
·Completely open to whatever plan of action will get the baby out safely.
·Plan with anaesthetist - if baby or I am in trouble top up epidural & have c/section.
·Understand I will be strapped up to monitoring equipment / epidural equipment so will not have free
movement.
·Please don’t lie me flat on my back as I go to pass out – I prefer to be on my left side or sitting
·Please check with either parent to be prior to using a clip monitor HB on baby’s head

BABY’S BIRTH
·Please clean baby then present for some skin to skin with me
·Father does not want to cut the cord
·Would like to try to breast feed straight away
·In event of my not being able to hold the baby – pass to the father for skin to skin please

DELIVERY OF THE PLACENTA – STAGE 3
·Please give me injection to speed up delivery of placenta and help with bleeding

AFTER LABOUR
·Vitamin K injection for baby please
·BCG (TB) vaccine for baby please
·Anti – D if baby is +’ve for me please.

NOTES
·Consultant Led
·**RHESUS NEGATIVE** ANTI –D done
·Husband in attendance please
·No students please
·Don’t mind whether care providers are men or women
·Please note I have a severe fear of vomiting and become very distressed and irrational
·I understand I may change my mind during labour / there may be a clinical need to change my plan

jha

nikkit72 wrote: »

just had cal from docs ,, my iron level is very low , now have to go out in this horrible weather and get irn tablets ,, i had this through all my pregnancies , oh well tablets here i come again

Aww sorry to hear that nikkit - iorn tabs play havoc with my tummy - hoping they dont have the same effect on you:D

fernliebee

Fishcake_Random wrote: »

So far for my birthplan I have;
Stay at home as long a I possibly can, (secretly hoping that it will be to late to move me), lots of breathing and having long baths to help cope.

Once, (if I go) at hospital asking for as little intervention as possible, just gas and air for pain relief, being as active as possible to help things along. I hate lying on my back anyway and it actually hurts due to some scar tissue so I want to squat or be on all fours for the actual birth.

I'd like a natural 3rd stage, and want to feed straight away while having skin to skin contact with baby. And then if im not already at home I want to go home as soon as possible, spending a night in hospital is my second worst nightmare.

Have I skipped anything important?
Also I realise this can all change in a second should the baby be distressed but it atempting to think positive.
x x x x

I wanted a homebirth with DD but it wasn't to be, I was transferred when contractions were 1 min apart due to high blood pressure (long story but due to MW !!!! ups I could have stayed at home she just wanted to sneak off for a sleep as she informed us as soon as I went into hospital.)

Anyways I found it very hard being in such a medicalised environment. I'm the type of person that won't even take a paracetamol normally, and always opt for natural or homeopathic remedies where poss, however (getting to the good bit lol!!) the biggest piece of advice I can give you is to either speak up, or get DH to speak up, and if you feel crowded just say "I'd like to be left alone please" Also if a MW isn't supporting or helping you (ie making your labour harder) ask for a new midwife to attend you. This is your labour not theirs, and they may have a set way that they do things, but that does not effect your decisions.

I was in labour for 26 hours, and so saw a lot of midwives. 1 was a b****, 1 made the mistake re blood pressure to get to me to go in to hospital, but the other 4 were lovely! In hind sight I wished I had thought about the fact that I could have just said, "get someone else in here please, I don't like the way your treating me" But I went silent in labour and couldn't talk. Maybe you could have a 'sign' to your DH that means that you are feeling crowded and would like to be left alone?

Sorry if what I have written seems really negative, I don't mean it to be, and I'm def not trying to scare you. I know you will be fine, as we all are- we cope because we have to! I just wanted to highlight something that I literally did not even think off (that I can ask for a new MW) as I had done so much planning etc! Think positive- you will be fine, honestly- we were built to have babies.

nikkit72

jha wrote: »

Aww sorry to hear that nikkit - iorn tabs play havoc with my tummy - hoping they dont have the same effect on you:D

Damn forgot about that , what with all the constipation with my op , i really dont need it again

fern , i was in Mk for my 3 births and even had a student male MW with DS2 and all went well , i have read all about how bad it is in there , but i'm not travelling all way to bedford , i will be ahving mine in MK ,

Fishcake_Random

Thank you Fernliebee, That was amazingly helpful, I will speak to OH tonight and try and come up with some sort of signal that i'm unhappy, I'd like to think he'd know anyway but I'm a bit worried about how he is going to cope at the birth anyone so i'l tell my mum to who is my back up partner lol
x x x x x

jha

You probably know already fishcake that the austrailians are way ahead of us brits medically for preg and birth - i found these sites really helpful: http://www.bellybelly.com.au/articles/birth
http://www.birth.com.au/Labour-and-Birth.aspx
(please bear in mind medical terms and procedures vary from the brit version)

also aless's link to spinning babies is great: http://spinningbabies.simplwebsite.com/

HTH

As i am feeling a bit better today i am off to do some cleaning - shh dont tell the midwife:cool:

fernliebee

Nikkit- I think it is an awful place (especially after seeing some other hospitals) however like you say there is no way I will be travelling to Northampton or Bedford so if I need to transfer to hospital I will also be headed back to MK. I do wish they would make it a priority to up their standards though, as some of the other departments came up very high in the study, it was just maternity that was right at the bottom! Actually I would love to see a new midwife led unit in MK to give us an even better choice (our nearest is Bicester I believe.)

Bottom line is the hospital was built to serve 6,000 and it now serves more than 60,000. MK is such a big development they need to put the infrastructure down, they are getting there with the schools finally but need a bigger/ new hospital. No funds though I guess, there is plenty of funds to build houses that sit there empty as no-one can afford to buy them, but not for a well needed hospital.

fernliebee

Fishcake_Random wrote: »

Thank you Fernliebee, That was amazingly helpful, I will speak to OH tonight and try and come up with some sort of signal that i'm unhappy, I'd like to think he'd know anyway but I'm a bit worried about how he is going to cope at the birth anyone so i'l tell my mum to who is my back up partner lol
x x x x x

I had my mum there as well as DH too! They were both great, and I want them both there again this time. My DH surprised me, I thought he would be good, but he was great!! He just seemed to know what I wanted and kept reminding me of things like having a drink etc that I would have forgotten, most of the time though he was just quiet and held my hand/ rubbed my back/ walked with me up and down the halls!

My mum was great, she gave me so much support and when I was getting tired she kept me going.

Good luck (not that you will need luck) and if you ever want to ask me anything PM me. xxx