MSE Parents Club Part 8

money_maker_3

feelie, I dont think I went anywhere with Jasmine that was not the main street in my town for about 2 years !! And I wondered more than once if I was the best thing for her, but trust me, she is now 7, and is a loving sociable happy beautiful girl, and your Toby will be just the same ( well ..... replace girl with boy before he is exactly the same but you know what I mean !!)

tiamai_d

Feely, I snap at my boys all the time, being a mum is bloody stressful!

My best friend stays away out in the sticks and her lo doesn't see other children very much, probably once a month and she is growing up just perfect. Plus once he gets to 3 he will have playgroup so does it matter really? No.

NONE of us are perfect, we all make mistakes, we all screw up and think we are ruining our children's lives, it's just what being a parent is like. Nobody can do a better job than you of raising Toby.

Why not aim for one walk outside a day, even if it is 5 mins in the garden or down the street, sing 2 songs together and 5 mins cuddly time?

Don't worry about weaning, I've yet to meet a child who let themselves starve to death.

Glamazon

weezl74 wrote: »

feelie, FWIW I genuinely believe that adoption can work for children whose alternative is abuse or neglect. But I also believe that you are guilty of neither. PLEASE HANG IN THERE. You are doing an ace job.

Fergie is obviously missing the kids TV I never show him and has taken to avidly watching the microwave. If obstructed he leans sideways out of his high chair to recommence his viewing of 'plate of food gets warmer!' His fave prog :rotfl:

Feelie - you were amazing with Tobey on Monday. You even said you wanted another LO when you saw Jack remember?

I worry I don't do enough with Jack but the way he smiles at me in teh morning makes me think Im must be doing something right!

pookie5488 wrote: »

hi girls have not been on in ages. Have been living in a sleep deprived parallel universe. However, I must report some moderate success last night with the aid of both a prince lionheart slumber bear (plays womb sounds) and a dummy. The dummy is a sign of my desperation as I really despise dummys (just hate how they look in a babys mouth especially when they get older). Moderate success meant that I could put matthew down a bit quicker after his feeds and he sort of settled himself. However he is still waking at least two hourly, takes maybe 1 oz of feed and then falls asleep but must say those two hours felt like heaven last night lol!!
Off to read back a few pages to see what I have missed.
Quick question to Glam if she is about- I started Matthew on the Aptamil easy digest but his farts have became really toxic did you find this happened when you changed formula or have I just got a stinky baby??

We generally have pretty toxic trumps anyway but yes a change in formula could do that. I just bathed and massaged Jack, put him in his sleeping bag and he did the stinkiest trump ever! _pale_ I actually had to check his nappy it was that bad!
Also the baby massage has resulted in 5 poos in 5 days :j

Well, the boy is in bed! Can hear him grizzling abit but hoping he stays asleep so I can eat my tea! Will then do a DF later.

pookie5488

feelie- I second everything the girls have said. I think guilt is part and parcel of being a mummy. I often let Matthew cry downstairs for a few minutes in his moses basket if he wakes and I am upstairs doing something and there are days when the weather is crap and we have not left the house at all. You are doing a great job, probably the most important job in the world- being someones mummy and your lo will love you unconditionally. Please don't beat yourself up about stuff we all are guilty of.

My_Fathers_Daughter

emlou2009 wrote: »

still couldnt find those bl00dy bibs though!!

What a fantastic excuse for another trip to Ikea

They are just hanging up in the baby section for us. Just by the highchairs and the little bowls etc. I would imagine most Ikeas are laid out pretty similar.

feelinggood wrote: »

I've asked on the Techie board, thanks. OH is my Techie Guru but he is sleeping. I got rid of my worm though

Feel bad tonight, really bad back pain. Fussy baby and feeling like a failure too. I know giving LO would break my heart, but I can't stop thinking it'd be best for him. I'm really not doing a good job.

Was going to ask you to specify but Tia beat me to it!

feelinggood wrote: »

Tia, I don't do anything terrible, but I'm adequate at best. I don't do enough stimulating things. I'm not patient enough. I'm not great with weaning. I worry more about him being older. As a baby, things like being stuck inside don't make that big a difference, but as he gets older it'll have a huge impact on his life.

Feely - you were going great guns at the beginning of this week. Probably pushed yourself a little too far if anything. But to continue to do little things is important.

When I was at home with Benjamin I found that I had to go out every other day or so or we would have both gone stir crazy. Like on Tuesday, Benjamin was ill and grumpy so we went for a little walk to keep him occupied (visually) and to get some fresh air. That was a lifesaver, if we had stayed in all day I would have been ready to scream by the time hubby came home!! This is perfectly normal - we all feel it. Sometimes I worry that you think that all the normal stuff that we all feel is something really bad...when it is just, well, normal

pookie5488

I just cannot emphasise how toxic these farts are. I had to get up in the middle of the night to open the bedroom window as I was literally gagging and I work as a nurse so am used to nasty niffs!! Must be a boy thing as I am sure my DD never smelt that bad!

SugarSpun

feelinggood wrote: »

Tia, I don't do anything terrible, but I'm adequate at best. I don't do enough stimulating things. I'm not patient enough. I'm not great with weaning. I worry more about him being older. As a baby, things like being stuck inside don't make that big a difference, but as he gets older it'll have a huge impact on his life.

Feelie, I feel exactly the same way you do. I've been to one mummy and baby group once and hated almost everyone there. If I'm in the middle of something and Molly starts crying I leave her be till I've finished it or got to a point where what I'm doing is ok to be left. I'm devastated that she's only started talking since my mother's been here because I've decided that it's because I just wasn't talking to her enough before. Weaning is something I'm terrified of and I hate going out in public with her because I can't stop imagining all the terrible things that could happen (could happen in a world where things just aren't the way they really are - I worry about murderous psychopaths rampaging through the streets).

Being a good mummy involves a certain amount of guilt, as I see it - and the guilt means you're concerned you're doing it wrong, which means you're doing it right. Bad mummies don't worry because they don't care.

:grouphug: to you. I wish there was something more I could do for you.

newmoneysaver_2

Aw feely, everyone else as said all I can think of and they are all right. You are the best thing for Toby. If you go out or stay in Tobes won't care, as long as he gets milk and a cuddle he will be just fine. Babies don't need attention all day, so long as you talk to him, sing to him, play with him etc at some point in the day, and he can also keep himself occupied he will be fine.

Don't get stressed on the weaning either, it's just practice he is still getting his calories from milk.

Hugs!

Glamazon

does anyone use the hungry baby milk on the night feed? Jillie, thought you posted earlier that you did?

Pookie - Jack's can make you gag but wouldn't say they were room clearing :rotfl:

newmoneysaver_2

In addition to the 1/2 price wipes, Sainsburys are offering

for every carry pack of Pampers Baby Dry carry pack of nappies (£5.98) you buy, you'll get a free pack with your next shop. Pick up your coupon at till today. This offer ends on Tuesday 24 November.

ETA: looking online this night not be such a great offer - there is only 36 in a size 3 pack, so 72 nappies for £6 ish - the Asda offer would be better! Plus you would have to go back in 2 weeks to get the free pack