MSE Parents Club Part 8

searching_me

hello all ........ yes sami i went to see auntie gok but never got to, the queue was so long there was no way i could a) have the kids waiting that long and b) actually would of got to see him oh well they'll be another time turned out to be a good day anyway and got a few presents so happy overall .. when philip goes for a few days im going to do a spot of shopping and hopefully get it all done .. much easier when its just me and jayden .. just had dinner, bottles are done, kids are fed, pots are washed, so my feet are firmly up ...

how is everyone? x

searching_me

oh forgot to say jillie ((hugs)) to your OH cant imagine how it feels .. and for you too x

astonsmummy

Fitz, hows your neck/back now?

I'm still in alot of pain, and just want to cry, well ok I did jst cry but I want to cry more!

I now am beggining to ditest exOH! I asked him to have ryan while I went to the hospital, his response was ''no I'm watching footy'' aggg I could actually scream!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

astonsmummy

Hey SM xxxxx

jillie1974

thanks everyone for their kind words and support. Fitzio (and anyone else who may not be aware) his sister took her own life the day before Kian was born.
I knew DH wasnt dealing with his sisters death at all well. in fact the only time i think he's actually said the words '...... is dead' was the morning he told me. i'm used to the irish way of talking about the person who has died and remembering all the good things and funny things. what they were like growing up etc... i think if i can get him to relax a little he may start to talk bout her which will help. there is a lot of anger as well which he needs to deal with. which i can understand. and the wondering... did she mean it or was it a cry for help? (she had taken overdose prev which we didnt know bout.) there were also things happening over the past few months that his mum chose not to tell us as i was pregnant and didnt want to cause me/us any unnecessary stress and worry. which obv witht the benefit of hindsight may have made all of this a bit easier for him to deal with.

tsstss7

Forgot to say earlier to the ladies who's babies wkae up on contact with bed that the warm bed thing may well help. Arcjie was much the same and in the end the only thing that worked was putting Archie in his cot with my arm under him then wait about 30 secs before teasing my arms from under him and then praying silently under my breath that he wouldn't wake up lol.

When he got to about a year I started to put him down awake as he was getting to the stage where he wouldn't fall asleep on the boob consistantly anymore and it did help my sanity I must say.

searching_me

:wave: hi AM ... just say to exOH if you cant be bothered to have him when your son needs you then dont bother at all x

tsstss7

astonsmummy wrote: »

Fitz, hows your neck/back now?

I'm still in alot of pain, and just want to cry, well ok I did jst cry but I want to cry more!

I now am beggining to ditest exOH! I asked him to have ryan while I went to the hospital, his response was ''no I'm watching footy'' aggg I could actually scream!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hope you get better soon - it's no joke lugging children about with a bad back - I did physio earlier this year for mine but I do think that it was the cs that aggrivated it really and its just needed time to get better as apart from during the time of the month its mostly ok now.

I missed the thread about the time you broke up with ryans dad so sorry to hear that you are now a single mum - I was with my ds1 from when he was 3 and but I can't imagine how much hard work it would have been with a tiny baby.

My ex didn't do babysitting for me either cause his life came first !!!:mad: I have adjusted to that frame of mind now and tend not to bother asking him even though it is now not so bad!

astonsmummy

searching_me wrote: »

:wave: hi AM ... just say to exOH if you cant be bothered to have him when your son needs you then dont bother at all x

I just told him to flick off and dont ask me for anything ever again.
Grrrrrrrrrrrr

searching_me

your nice AM i would of said a hell of alot worse x