MSE Parents Club Part 8

emlou2009

i did a course in photoshop many moons ago as part of my media BTEC you can use a mouse, i never got to use the fancy thing! i wish i could remember how to use it now, but it was NINE YEARS AGO (:eek:) so no chance!

Sami_Bee

em - see if you can try the play tray before you buy - Chris has one on his britax seat in mums car but because they have to be easily removable in case of an accident he just needed to kick his legs and it comes flying off - hours of fun :rolleyes:

feelinggood_2

Sami - OH always uses a mouse for photoshop, ever as a graphic artist he didn't use a tablet. I like his photoshopping abilities - along with silly Toby photos, he can get rid of a spot in less than a minute!

Sami_Bee

thanks em, doesn't time fly!

oh and :eek: did MM say last 1st class post is monday!? I haven't written a single card!!

emlou2009

haha nice! will remember that! TBH its not something i'd really bother with til he is a bit older for a long journey though, for colouring books or whatever.

i've put seths clothes on over his PJ's cos i didnt want to make him cold by taking them off :rotfl:

SugarSpun

redmel1621 wrote: »

So, has maz named her baby yet?
Is SS still going to her parents for christmas?
MOTM things still going ok with lucy?

No, yes but with serious reservations and an escape plan in place, and yes

Don't try to do too much, lovely. Take care of yourself.

Edit: Oh, and I see a lot of second hand Malm stuff for sale in expat communities - it clearly stands up well to long term use

weezl74 wrote: »

has anyone read any good books on raising children with healthy self-esteem?

No, but I did read an article a while back that said you should praise behaviour rather than ascribing an attribute to a child. Apparently telling a kid he's (eg) clever can, in some kids, cause them to feel ashamed when they come across something they can't understand IYSWIM. I think this is specifically a problem in weird family dynamics, from what I've observed in adults, but I've been telling Molly she's a clever girl for doing something rather than just that she's a clever girl just in case.

MM, that's pants about the course - and ironing leggings?! Are you some sort of pervert?

Sami_Bee

SS - my mum watched a documentary about David Badiel aparently he had a nervous breakdown at uni because he'd always had the "you're so clever" praise and couldn't handle it when he found it hard.

One thing I absolutely hate and have found myself saying (for which I always give myself a kick for coz I don't want to) is that my mum would always call me a stupid girl when I'd done something naughty/stupid, if anyone calls me stupid it totally enrages me!

SugarSpun

Nobody was allowed to use the word "stupid" when I was a kid, and when my grandmother called me it once there was an epic row. Behaviour can be stupid, but people can't be.

I think the worst thing anyone ever called me was "vapid". I was outraged!

Becles

James struggles with school work, and I find I get the best results by saying "I like this bit, and this bit is really good, but can you think of anyways of making it even better?" Then I get him to go through it critically and guide him to finding the mistakes himself.

That works much better than just saying "that bit is wrong" as he'll fly off the handle and we have the "I'm crap at everything" drama queen routine.

elle_gee

SugarSpun wrote: »

.. I think the worst thing anyone ever called me was "vapid". I was outraged!

:whistle: I had to Google "vapid"..

I don't recall being called either clever or stupid when I was little.. (well apart from getting called names by school bullies cos I was in all the top sets for everything ).

I'm busy wrapping presents.. ya know, the ones OH is taking today :cool: I txt him to check they got there okay and when he replied (yes, all fine), I replied with the direct "Are you still going?" but got no reply yet. My final question is going to be, would his friends drive here? :cool: (ETA: Not that I want them to - what I'm getting at is that they'd say they wouldn't drive in this weather so why would he?)