MSE Parents Club Part 8

emlou2009

sorry for the huge self centered rants this evening

i am off to bed, to add to the joy i have work tomorrow, JOY, YAY... although i do get to find out whats going on with the couple that are engaged and have a mortgage, and yesterday one of them changed their FB status to single and they no longer seem to be FB friends, so its not all bad i am such a gossip, how awful of me!!

night all xx

elle_gee

emlou2009 wrote: »

elle i know when OH sent the forms off he crossed through the bit where he was meant to put his bank details and wrote that he will set up a standing order, he doesnt want them to have control over the amount cos he had an attachment of earnings put on there for arrears when he was out of work years ago, and overpaid by EIGHT HUNDRED POUNDS earlier this year cos they kept dragging their heels at telling his employer to take it off!! he doesnt trust them with his bank details and quite rightly so!

I've always had to chase the CSA for end notices.. If there's an amount to pay "until it's paid off" rather than "ongoing", we keep a running total so we know when it's about to end but I can't make any changes to the system until I have the CSA paperwork so I have to phone them, usually at least three times, then finally get a fax just at the last minute before payroll shuts off :cool:

Krystaltips wrote: »

The old system is a complete nightmare, some blokes killed themselves over the amounts csa said they owed and there's no getting away from them... Csa 2 was a slightly fairer system, that's what I'm on... No idea about the newest changes... But you can't just change from one system to another... The parent with care has to close the actual claim, wait 6 weeks and then open a new claim.. Not all pwc's are willing to do that...

We had a guy at work who couldn't/wouldn't take any promotion because he knew every extra penny would disappear to the CSA. I think he was on the old system paying 33% of his salary when on the new system he'd only pay 15% Lovely bloke too, completely messed up his career prospects cos of it..

scruffy96uk

Night Em Hope you sleep well and don't lie awake worrying about your money and of course the peoples engagement or non engagement as it may be!!!! LOl sleep tight

money_maker_3

emlou2009 wrote: »

i dont think they've even read the forms he sent them, cos on the calculator on their website it works out to £170 a month on his wages if he has no children!

they are useless at reading the forms, my BILs ex stated that he never saw his sone and never gave any money for christmas birthdays etc ... and he was told to pay an extortionate amount each month, he appealed it as it seemed wrong to him and got to see the form and was able to tell them that he has his son from a Friday after school till a Sunday night every week since he was born and that he gives £200 towards Christmas presents every year (by cheque so he could prove it) and takes him on holidays every year and also buys most of his school uniform too. It was recalculater and proven that he had overpaid by several thousands of pounds and was given a very significant cut in his payments. Then when he and my sister had their kid last year he told them and it dropped again.

scruffy96uk wrote: »

I'm sooooo excited and I just can't hide it, I'm about to lose control and I think I like it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry Em I didn't mean to butt in during your discussion but I just couldn't help it sorry

We are all excited for you too :j:D:T:j:D

Sami_Bee

Krystaltips wrote: »

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Theyre the ones that are about the same size as passport photos if that helps... And the foot has been washed and put in the drawer lol, it will make it's way back soon, promise

ooh sounds good! thanks hun xx

Em I hope you'll share a bit of the goss with us!!

elle_gee

Night night MFD and Em xx

Yay for countdown to new house, Scruffy!

money_maker_3

night everyone away to bed xx

Krystaltips

elle_gee wrote: »

You wouldn't necessarily receive all that though, Button.. It all goes into a big pot and then some is paid out to the parent with care. It's inflated to make up for the ones who don't pay up.. I think (or maybe I just heard that from one of the ranting and raving dads I have to deal with.. the ones who want me to "accidentially" lose their paperwork before I action it on the payroll system :rolleyes:)

If the pwc is not claiming benefits they get the full amount. If the pwc is on benefits then under the new system they get the full amount and anything over a certain amount gets deducted from the benefit... Under the old system they used to pay some to the pwc and the rest went to the secretary of state to go into the benefits pot... Csa don't keep anything or give it to the pwc of children who's nrp don't pay...

scruffy96uk

All the excitement has made my nose bleed!!!!

ManOnTheMoon

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Edit - it can work out MOTM, we all get along nicely, DSS is happy and cared for by both parents and thinks he has got it better than his mates with parents still together!! We are living proof that step-families can work - the practice wife has even offered to babysit Benjamin for the night so hubby and I can go out...a bit too wierd for me but you never know, Benjamin may well want to stop with his big brother at some point and at least we know he would be welcome.

Well, i'm pleased it has worked out for you and your lad. Proof it can work and it's always good to hear when things do work out.

I still don't want my girls mothers in contact though and neither do the girls, and that is there choice, not my pressure. I do try and keep my opinions on them away from the girls. It took a while for my girls to stop crying and thinking it was there faults, so I wouldn't even risk it.

Each to their own though and I hope your boy continues to enjoy himself