waiting for police to arrest my husband

far2812

How are you doing today? x

onetomany

sending you a big hug op xxxxxxxx

zztopgirl

Just had some wonderful advice from another member here, you know who you are and thanks:A the abuse is too nasty and sadistic to go into detail about, even my mum doesnt know the full extent but police and my best friend (who keeps crying) do know. He is still having a hold on me inside my head, i can still sense the abuse going on and its very difficult to explain, but due to the type of abuse he was dishing out, this is probably typical. Im trying very hard to break free though, have had to chase up the mental health support which my mum wasnt happy about, but its now all done and just got to wait for someone to get in touch, hopefully in the next week.

Had a wonderful friend last night tell me he has so much respect for me as i cared for my previous ex after his accident and nursed him back to health, he was a decent man before the accident and he came back a stranger and thats just the worst most horrible thing. Its the anniversary of his accident later this month, i still find it very hard. But my friend said my ex truly loved me, both before and after his accident, the husband never loved me, he just used me. He homed in on me whilst i was trying to get my life back together and took advantage of me.

Im dreading the bombshell landing, i feel too strong and resilient and am afriad that i havent actually come to terms yet with what has happened. Im finding it very hard at the moment to live with the fact that he may have cheated on me, all the signs were there that he had, but i'll never know for certain. All i can think and tell myself is that its over now, it was in the past and i must now move forward, i dont have to see him ever again, all his stuff is still here all over the house, but my parents will deal with that side for me if he ever decides to get his stuff back (he'd require a removal van)

onetomany

you doing a great job try to keep thinking positive sending you a big hug xxxxxxxxx

tandraig

I cant help thinking girl that you see a weakness or failing in yourself that you had previous abusive relationships. what i see is a woman who tried hard and then got herself out of those relationships.....which shows real strength of character! you have proved you can only be pushed so far - havent you?
keep it up girl - decide in YOUR mind whether you are weak or strong (and i believe its the latter) then believe in yourself!
hugs hun.

dotstar24

vaporate wrote: »

How about deciding why he was abusive. Cuts both ways here.

what?! :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

far2812

Obviously - vaporate's comments should does just as the name suggest.

Every day will get better zztopgirl! Keep at it!

Best wishes x

Emmzi

dotstar24 wrote: »

what?! :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

known troll, ignore :-)

Minimum_Wage_2

hello zztopgirl, i can not believe what a recover you are having, your over the worst of it and your doing great. it would be a good idea to totally get rid off his stuff. still cant believe how you have come on with leaps and bounds.

LadyMorticia

Heya OP.

I just read this thread from top to bottom and didn't want to read and run.

You've done so well, hun. Getting out of an abusive relationship is extremely hard and you've really come a long way since you wrote this thread.

Good luck with the job, sweetie and I hope that your next relationship will be one that empowers you and makes you feel like the special person you are.

Have some time to yourself for a little while and spend some time on pampering yourself. You sound like you have some great friends and they seem to be really helping you.

As someone else suggested, maybe think about all the things you didn't do because your ex didn't like them, and then do them. Like asserting your iindependence so to speak and the fact that you are one strong woman.

Keep your chin up hun. You're doing wonderfully.

*hugs*

x