Fed up vegetarian needs advice please

daska

Morglin wrote: »

I wouldn't have thought any residue left on the knife would have affected the taste of the pizza really, although best to wash knives anyway.

You're quite right, it probably wouldn't have affected the taste... however the big issue you have completely ignored is a COOKED pizza being cut up using the knife and board used for RAW chicken.

girleight@

I eat meat and I don't find it a problem to cook for veggies at all. In fact I eat lots of vegetarian food for the health and cost benefits! I often cook vegetarian soup with meat stock but when we had vegetarian guests I ran to the shop to get veg stock. The kind of guests that annoy me are fussy ones!

Doom_and_Gloom

Morglin wrote: »

I totally respect your views, although veggie is not for me, but I don't really think you can expect other people to cater to it all - your SIL probably didn't think about stock in pea soup, and didn't want to be bothered telling you.

I wouldn't have thought any residue left on the knife would have affected the taste of the pizza really, although best to wash knives anyway.

To be honest, I find veggies/vegans a bit of a pain, and all I do is get them some Quorn or something if they are coming to dinner. They can eat what they like, but I really cannot be hassled with it all.:rolleyes:

Lin

I think your attitude is very ignorant. Fine vegetarianism, veganism etc are not for you but that does not mean you should be so lax with someone else's way of life as that is not respecting them as a person.

I'm so glad my friends understand my way of life even if they don't follow it themselves and do cater for it as that's what friends do. I went to a Halloween party and there were people there who I just met or had only met once before. Even they understood and were very good about not cross contaminating foods I ate by getting a bowl and using that for themselves if it was food I brought to share or me with a bowl for food that someone else brought that I could eat. It's all very easy and not be too much of a bother/hassle if you just think logically. People have more trouble feeding my really picky omnivorous partner than vegan me .

lch_2

I've been veggie for nearly 15years and for me the situation the OP is in, is a respect issue. I make my own choices about what i eat and drink, the same as everyone else. I don't like to put people out, so when invited to BBQs and dinner etc, i usually offer to bring something for myself i.e. quorn burgers etc. Most times people decline this offer, saying they are happy to cater for everyone. In fact at BBQs i've seen people use two BBQs, one for meat, one for veggies, or one BBQ, cooking the veggie food first and using seperate utensils.

In my opinion, deliberately giving a vegetarian food containing meat is a cruel awful thing to do. As i've been veggie for so long, on the odd occasion where i accidentally do get something containing meat, i usually know quite quickly, not just from the taste but because of how ill i feel, as my stomach is not used to it.

In this day and age of many food, drink and additive allergies i am surprised at people's ignorance. My husband is allergic to garlic, my mother is allergic to raw onion, my grandmother is allergic to mushroom. Does this mean none of us should eat socially? Of course not! We make our own choices and allergies clear and try not to put people out, but to deliberately ignore these is completely disrespectfull.

My friends and family have always been supportive and i am extremely grateful for that. It is a shame not everyone is so understanding.

fernliebee

Sorry Morglin, but I too disagree with you. If I know one of my friends doesn't like something and I invite them for dinner I won't cook that thing. I have a friend who hates mushrooms, my dad hates vinegar etc. This is just a very simplistic version of feeding vegetarians, I don't see why it is different just because they have made the choice not to eat it, rather than not liking/ being allergic to it.

Also I feel you missed the point about OP's SIL. It wasn't that she accidentally gave her meat stock, it was on purpose and she was mocking the OP behind her back. A very different scenario IMO. I wouldn't like to have eaten meat or a meat product but if a friend or family member gave it to me entirely by accident and was apologetic I wouldn't be too bothered, they didn't mean it, it was an accident, it is the teasing, disrespectful attitude that would hack me off.

paddy's_mum

Come for dinner with me and mine, Morglin. I'm sure I can manage to make the effort to cater for your dietary needs/likes/fads .. whatever.

Boiled sheeps' eyes in aspic or stretched bull's pizzle in batter okay for you ....

JOANNESAPHINE

I totally agree with you. It would have hurt my feelings no end to have known I'd been laughed at behind my back like that and with my hubby knowing. It seems your husband was probably ignorant of food hygiene generally but I wouldn't have eaten the pizza, being a veggie myself too. Seems he got his reward for that mind! I occasionally cook meat for my husband and daughter although my daughter eats a lot of veggie things with me now and my husband will mainly eat vegetarian when at home and says he probably could be a veggie but he does enjoy meat. I wouldn't trust the SIL again where food was concerned but overtime would probably just get on with her for an easy life.

ellas9602

paddy's_mum wrote: »

stretched bull's pizzle in batter okay for you ....

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

LadyMorticia

I'm veggie but also OCD about food hygiene/food poisoning etc so if this situation had occurred to me then I would be upset and also panicky due to the OCD issue.

My OH would understand fully though, afterall if he has been touching raw meat I make him wash his hands before he even touches me :rolleyes: and to be honest this situation probably wouldn't occur in our household as he knows how stressed I get about things.

I can see how it could be a small thing to him and a big thing to you though. I know it would be for me but I think for me I would be a bigger thing because of the OCD issue.

x

ceridwen

Morglin wrote: »

I totally respect your views, although veggie is not for me, but I don't really think you can expect other people to cater to it all - your SIL probably didn't think about stock in pea soup, and didn't want to be bothered telling you.

I wouldn't have thought any residue left on the knife would have affected the taste of the pizza really, although best to wash knives anyway.

To be honest, I find veggies/vegans a bit of a pain, and all I do is get them some Quorn or something if they are coming to dinner. They can eat what they like, but I really cannot be hassled with it all.:rolleyes:

Lin

Crikey - now I AM surprised. Surprised that is at someone admitting openly to not having any consideration or good manners.

I am just SO tempted to start listing all the things that constitute good manners now besides catering appropriately for any guests one has round for meals......

One covers ones mouth whilst yawning
Doesnt talk with a full mouth
Holds doors open for anyone who is "struggling" for any reason - or immediately behind oneself
etc
etc
etc


.....

(walks off thinking "naughty ceridwen.....slappa my wrist.....")