Partner got no common sense

Amber_Sunshine

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

My first husband only lasted a few days or weeks in each job, i had several p45's with x week/month1 on them on the mantle, each time it was silly impulsive things. he was like this in life he would do things with out thinking. His kids were diagnosed adhd, and then bipolar, any thoughts?

I was wondering about Aspergers? The way the OP repeatedly mention her partner's inability to follow rules, also that he seems to lack common sense and understanding of consequences, but is basically a nice helpful guy, could mean that he has a condition of some kind.

nothappy1

Any wrote: »

Completely agree..
3hrs drive for babysitting?????? In the last minute????

The other problem is that people are not always giving back what they take if you are like this - and missuse you..

I wouldn't even dream about calling my brother for babysitting as he lives in Scotland! That is a sign that his family knew he will do it, otherwise it wouldn't even cross their mind to call him...

This is always what happens e few years ago he used to drive right out of his way to take somebody to work until they could afford a car.Guess what when he hurt his ankle and couldnt drive to work they wouldnt do the same for him.

morocha

Hi Op, i feel sorry for you.. its like you are talking about my Oh... he is exactly the same !!!,... he has dislexia and ADHD.... Sometimes his decisions are not great and i need to let him know as we have a 2 yo daughter.Life is hard, my Oh just walked off his job last week.... things are hard...
He is hard working and so kind too that so many people take advantadge of him... he is very skilled fixing cars and bikes.. all he has this one mate that always has he doing staff for free.. when i say something he says, well i enjoy doing it so it is not a big deal.. i mean money is a big deal cos we do not have it !

nothappy1

morocha wrote: »

Hi Op, i feel sorry for you.. its like you are talking about my Oh... he is exactly the same !!!,... he has dislexia and ADHD.... Sometimes his decisions are not great and i need to let him know as we have a 2 yo daughter.Life is hard, my Oh just walked off his job last week.... things are hard...
He is hard working and so kind too that so many people take advantadge of him... he is very skilled fixing cars and bikes.. all he has this one mate that always has he doing staff for free.. when i say something he says, well i enjoy doing it so it is not a big deal.. i mean money is a big deal cos we do not have it !

sounds like mine i'spose i'm lucky my children are grown Hope it will work out ok for you i know how your feeling .

morocha

i forgot to mention he has deppresion too.... i hope your oh finds a new job soon.. mine is gone for an interview today...

nothappy1

morocha wrote: »

i forgot to mention he has deppresion too.... i hope your oh finds a new job soon.. mine is gone for an interview today...

Thats good hope he gets it i will keep my fingers crossed for you I'm sure your at wits end the same as me but at least he's got a interview
GOOD LUCK

Knub

Whatever you do, don't send him off to market one day to sell the cow - he might just return with a bunch of magic beans instead of the cash.

morocha

He was told they will ring him to let him know... hopefully he did well... I found out that he does quite well with 2 part time jobs instead of 1 full time... it is weird.
HE works with his brother 1 day a week and trying to find another job.
I work 2 days and do well as a stay at home mum at the moment but trying to open my own business teaching Spanish...

elliebobs

Questions already answered so post deleted.

Juneno

Hi,
I agree with Amber Sunshine. This does sound like a mild form of Aspergers syndrome. Google it and I think you'll find that your partner has a lot of the signs. I worked with a guy who was exactly like your partner - really nice, friendly bloke who was like a big puppy, so eager to please - but completely useless at doing what was required of him. He was really clever - but no common sense. He was let go after his probation period because he just couldn't do the work. I work in medical research and people like that are just viewed as 'eccentric' and never get the help they need unfortunately.
The good news is there are things that can be done for it. Would he be open to the idea that he may have a condition and go see his GP?
Having been in the prison service, maybe he could get a job in security somewhere?
Good luck!
June x