Partner got no common sense

nothappy1

I have always read mse but have never posted, i'm sat sat here on my own crying and feeling really desperate i can't tell my family i'm to embaressed, so i need to get things off my chest by telling all on here .My partner has been sacked again.We have been together 15 years and he can't keep a job he's qiute clever but no common sense he does stupid things ,well more than stupid he cant seem to obay rules .He was doing really well in this job and had managed to keep it for nearly two years i was just beginning to relax and then he came home last mnth suspended now sacked and it was for something he knew was a big NO NO (nothing dishonest)he's so stupid i have hardly spoken to him i just want to scream and shout at him .I sometimes think theres something wrong with him .We only have my wages ths month which wont pay the bills .He never slacks when looking for ajob but every time he's that bit oldr and jobs are hard to find I could kill him .Anyway i mustn't go on i feel myself getting worked up thankyou for listening

mrcow

How serious are we talking here?

If he's not done anything dishonest, is there any way that he can appeal and apologise and get his job back?

msflowerfairy

What has he actually done to get the sack?

Oldernotwiser

I think the "nearly two years" may be the crucial point here.

mrcow

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I think the "nearly two years" may be the crucial point here.

Maybe - but we're all human beings here. And we all make mistakes. If the offence isn't anything unlawful or dishonest, then it can always be worth speaking with them.

There are always those who are willing to give others a second chance.

lynzpower

What did he do OP?

nothappy1

He did apolgise and promised it wouldnt happen again he also tried to blame lack of training but it really was a matter of common sense he steped over the line and he knew he was doing wrong

McKneff

But what did he do.

Its very difficult to sack someone these days, there are disciplinary procedures in place which take time.

Being sacked for Gross Misconduct is normally the only instant dismissal route.

So if he knew what he was doing, do you think hes doing it deliberately to be sacked.

lynzpower

The thing is with common sense, its not all that common! ( ie not everyone has it in the same way as others). I think we can all say our OHs have no common sense from time to time.

My OH was filtering some hot oil the other day using a plastic sieve.
Many years ago I poured some hot oil into a glass jar- learned not to do that again.

Both of these things could suggest neither of us had "common sense" after all, those who know what the ramifications are from these events would know not to do them.

Neither of us are "stupid". (IMO!!)

Whether what he did was a breach of "common sense" ( wahtever that is) is almost irrelvent- its whether he knew what he weas doing was going to damage the business etc, or he genuinely thought he was doing the right thing. Had he been trained or advised not to have done what he did

Difficult to advise without knowing what he did.

nothappy1

He was working in a envirament where it was inportant he didn't disclose anything about hisself or treat any of the people he was dealing with as friends.he could have left hisself open to intimandation and me.He just dosn't seem to have any sense it's always been the same

MothballsWallet

Following on from McKneff's last point, it is possible that the company are so awful to work for, that you want to get out of there. Believe me, I have been there before.