Partner got no common sense

MothballsWallet

nothappy1 wrote: »

He was working in a envirament where it was inportant he didn't disclose anything about hisself or treat any of the people he was dealing with as friends.he could have left hisself open to intimandation and me.He just dosn't seem to have any sense it's always been the same

So, who was this organisation? Sounds like a company that only a zombie would want to work for.

nothappy1

McKneff wrote: »

But what did he do.

Its very difficult to sack someone these days, there are disciplinary procedures in place which take time.

Being sacked for Gross Misconduct is normally the only instant dismissal route.

So if he knew what he was doing, do you think hes doing it deliberately to be sacked.

No he loved the job and give him his due he isn't afraid of work .and it was gross misconduct

Oldernotwiser

mrcow wrote: »

Maybe - but we're all human beings here. And we all make mistakes. If the offence isn't anything unlawful or dishonest, then it can always be worth speaking with them.

There are always those who are willing to give others a second chance.

I was wondering whether the employers were looking for an excuse to get rid of him before the two year period was up.

nothappy1

MothballsWallet wrote: »

So, who was this organisation? Sounds like a company that only a zombie would want to work for.

Well lets say the inmates weren't always nice people to deal with

Oldernotwiser

nothappy1 wrote: »

Well lets say the inmates weren't always nice people to deal with

I thought it sounded like probation/prison service.

Oldernotwiser

It does sound to me to be rather more serious than "a lack of common sense"!

Whitewillow_2

I understand how upset you must be, and how stressful the situation is for you, but please remember that hes probably kicking himself now using hindsight. Youre married, you need to stick together or this could cause an awful wedge between you both! Im sure he didnt do it with the intention of getting the sack, he probably wasnt aware he was even doing it. I hope you can both find a way to get by while he finds another job - look on the brightside if you can, I know plenty of people who would get the sack on purpose because they couldnt be bothered to work anymore, and would use the current financial climate as an 'excuse' for not even trying to get another, atleast hes not afraid to graft a little to put food on the table for you! Hope that helps, good luck!

nothappy1

Whitewillow wrote: »

I understand how upset you must be, and how stressful the situation is for you, but please remember that hes probably kicking himself now using hindsight. Youre married, you need to stick together or this could cause an awful wedge between you both! Im sure he didnt do it with the intention of getting the sack, he probably wasnt aware he was even doing it. I hope you can both find a way to get by while he finds another job - look on the brightside if you can, I know plenty of people who would get the sack on purpose because they couldnt be bothered to work anymore, and would use the current financial climate as an 'excuse' for not even trying to get another, atleast hes not afraid to graft a little to put food on the table for you! Hope that helps, good luck!

Yes i know he feels awful and embrassesed ,i still can't help being upset with him and it is causeing a rift i have always stuck by him before and made excuses for him .it's very hard to explain to anybody what somebody is like he's a decent person and is good to me (we arn't married)but he does stupid things he has lost ajob he was good at and liked he's put are house on the line just because he cant follow rules

nothappy1

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

It does sound to me to be rather more serious than "a lack of common sense"!

i agree there's something wrong with him,theres got to be

lynzpower

Run us through it.

What is he saying about it. Is he saying OMG i cant believe I was so stupid- I cant believe I "fell for it" if thats what happened.

Or his he really baffled as to what the fuss is about?

Are you talking about it at all?