Partner got no common sense

Spirit_2

From what you have written - it reads as if it is not the loss of this job, but the repeat pattern of losing jobs over your 15 years together. Can you get him to look back at what has happened over these 15 years to see if he can work out what goes wrong.

How many jobs has he had?
How many has he....
been dismissed from?
walked out of?
failed a trial period?
been made redundant from?

In the mean time if you go to the old style boards to see how far you can stretch your money

Blackpool_Saver

My first husband only lasted a few days or weeks in each job, i had several p45's with x week/month1 on them on the mantle, each time it was silly impulsive things. he was like this in life he would do things with out thinking. His kids were diagnosed adhd, and then bipolar, any thoughts?

nothappy1

Spirit wrote: »

From what you have written - it reads as if it is not the loss of this job, but the repeat pattern of losing jobs over your 15 years together. Can you get him to look back at what has happened over these 15 years to see if he can work out what goes wrong.

How many jobs has he had?
How many has he....
been dismissed from?
walked out of?
failed a trial period?
been made redundant from?

In the mean time if you go to the old style boards to see how far you can stretch your money

Yes your exactly right i live on my nerves waiting for him to do something stupid ,he's been sacked from every job and it's alway's for breaking rules.When he has a positon of manager he dosn't seem to think he has to follow rules and quide lines for somebody who is quite clever he is really lacking in common sense .I already follow the old style there great lots MS tips I work 4 on 4 off so will have to try and find work on 4 off I've had to do it before and i'm sure i'm going to be doing it again a lot in the future .Thankyou for surport

nothappy1

Debt_Free_Chick wrote: »

OP

Perhaps you're being a bit hard on him?

From what you've posted, he sounds like a warm, caring, compassionate person - and probably not cut out for the job he was doing. If he found it difficult to do a job that required him to hold back on compassion - albeit for sound reasons - that sounds like a decent bloke to me

Yes he is decent and i surpose noddy is perfect .I probley wouldn't slag him off to anybody i know,i always make excuses for him i havn't told my family about this yet ,to embaressed .i thought about waiting till he finds a job then tell them he decided to find something safer,the trouble with that i don't think they will believe it especally my daughter she will cotten on straight away

BitterAndTwisted

Is you partner impulsive in ways not related to his work? I'm not judging but it sounds like there might be something amiss with the decision-making part of his mind

nothappy1

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Is you partner impulsive in ways not related to his work? I'm not judging but it sounds like there might be something amiss with the decision-making part of his mind

I am wondering if there's something wrong with him,it dsn't seem normal Your question is hard to answer we usualy make decisions together some of the things he comes up with are daft .He seems to have this thing abut pleasing everybody he's been sacked b4 for letting his team have more breaks because he felt they deserved it:eek: He went rushing off yesterday because his brother didn't have a baby sitter,sounds nice but it's a 3hr drive for him and he has other family who live 5mins away also we can't afford the petrol .Thats the sort of thngs he does.I did think of calling it a day with him the stress all the time is awfull but when i think past my anger i wouldn't be any happier with out him

BitterAndTwisted

It sounds to me like impulsive+eager-to-please at almost any cost. This is not an easy combination of tendencies to curb. Perhaps he should seek professional advice?

jack*tigger

In a way it's a good time of the year to be looking for work. Well temporary work at least. A lot of shops will be looking for Xmas temps. He's just got to apply for everything going. Of course references aren't going to be easy !

Good luck with it all.

dizzybuff

nothappy1 wrote: »

Well lets say the inmates weren't always nice people to deal with

Prison service , youth detention or case work .. im suspecting

If it is these rules are put in place to protect the employee and employer.

Sorry he was a bit silly , but prisoners can be very manipulative if they want something..

Any

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

It sounds to me like impulsive+eager-to-please at almost any cost. This is not an easy combination of tendencies to curb. Perhaps he should seek professional advice?

Completely agree..
3hrs drive for babysitting?????? In the last minute????

The other problem is that people are not always giving back what they take if you are like this - and missuse you..

I wouldn't even dream about calling my brother for babysitting as he lives in Scotland! That is a sign that his family knew he will do it, otherwise it wouldn't even cross their mind to call him...