"Bullying" on the forum

helyg

rosieben wrote: »

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have some of mine hely :T:T:T:T:T

thanks :rotfl:

momoyama

thriftlady wrote: »

Exactly, I think Momoyama's point is that argument doesn't constitute bullying and people should try not to get upset if someone has a different opinion.

Yeah, absolutely. I think that's what the person before me was saying. I just agreed.

thriftlady wrote: »

Just noticed you're in Worcester too Momoyama

Tenbury, actually. Worcester's just an easy point of reference. Where in Worcester are you?

momoyama

Nomoneymummy wrote: »

The agreeing to disagree, or disagreeing with the agreeing of disagreeing (??? that made more sense in my head!) anyway the whole tangent made me laugh!! I too happily disagree though!!

Great!

Obviously I can't speak for everyone but I approach all forums with the intent of having fun, learning something, hoping to help someone or generally discussing a subject. Of course, being a human being (just) I can take things to heart, be offended by someone or feel the need to defend someone or something. These latter points could also probably apply to us all. This does kind of lead onto the rest of what you said:

Nomoneymummy wrote: »

Though I agree with the point that if momoyama was of a sensitive fashion she could have viewed it as bullying!!!

I personally am pretty thick skinned but this is a very fair point to any given forum member.


Reading through, I think we're all in agreement here.

momoyama

OrkneyStar wrote: »

Equally so could I, as it was mainly my posts she choose for dissection!

Nothing personal. Sorry.

Anyway, you use a plural. I thought I just replied to one post and then it flowed from there by three (or more, I lost track) of us.

And I wasn't dissecting. I was just taking issue with one statement. Really.

Reverbe

Rule of thumb is don't say anything to someone online you woudnt be willing to say to their face. I used to be on a dating site once where the things you got approached with would get them a slap in a bar! :0

zippychick

I think Triker has nailed it with her post and put it so beautifully.

Let's hope this is a way forward for us all, and we all learn to apply a pinch of salt where required.

momoyama

Bunny200 wrote: »

The only thing that does annoy me sometimes on MSE is people criticizing posts for spelling and grammer errors. Language evolves over time and technology increases the speed of this evolution. I doubt any forum, unless on the use of English, will have correct grammer or spelling all of the time. Sometimes posters are quickly trying to post (usually b4 the boss comes back!)therefore on t'internet the use of emoticons & abbreviations are a way of enabling fast interchange.

Not talking about MSE specifically, but on forums generally (and real life too), there's two things that irritate the hell out of me:
1. People that abuse the English language
2. People that get annoyed with people who get annoyed with people that abuse the English language.

I'm not talking about typo's or spelling mistakes and I can certainly forgive dyslexia but people that abuse English or just don't care are (in my view) dragging this country down. Yes I know, language evolves and so it should. But language should also be about clarity and therein lies the problem.

You talk of people typing fast due to time constraints. I understand this, my time is as limited as anyone's. The flip side is that badly constructed posts take time to interpret. So I won't try any more. I know I'm not alone in this. I have only recently started pruning Facebook friends who's indecipherable ramblings take up my news page.

We're also talking on here as to how posts can be construed in terms of offense or bullying. In my mind, badly constructed posts are a large part of this. If tone or intent can't be properly conveyed in well constructed posts then what effect will bad posts have.

I suspect that this will be an unpopular view. I'm not setting out to offend anyone, but this is my honest view. Forums thrive on use of English... so use English. Please. I would also add that I have been guilty of correcting people when there's been significant transgressions e.g. "your" instead of "you're". I've never resorted to PMs to do this as it's not necessary. I'm trying to not do it, but just ignore the thread entirely. For my own (slipping) sanity.

Nordictat2

Arghhhhh. I am considering just not even posting on the travel board anymore. It gets under my skin that certain posters there mock other people venting about thier bad experiences etc. These certain posters have to bring up something not evening having to do with the travel subject and try to make them (the OP) look stupid! Gets under my skin..that does!
I try to keep the peace in posts like that but honestly..it doesn't seem to work. Some people are just plain R U D E!

taplady

Triker wrote: »

Do you know what, life is too short for this.

There are members on this board who are going through hell, through circumstances or poor health, some are terminally ill.

Supporting each other through thick and thin should be what its about, tips, support and advice given freely with no conditions.

Can't we just keep the ethos of what its supposed to be about, helping in other in tangible or intangible ways, moneysaving or otherwise.

Please. x

well said Triker:T:T:T:T:T

OrkneyStar

momoyama wrote: »

Nothing personal. Sorry.

Anyway, you use a plural. I thought I just replied to one post and then it flowed from there by three (or more, I lost track) of us.

And I wasn't dissecting. I was just taking issue with one statement. Really.

It is ok, I knew you meant nothing personal, thats why I said 'could' and not 'would' or 'should' .