DVLA sent back stained marriage certificate.

pimento

I sympathise with the OP, but really, there are many bigger things in life to get your knickers in a twist about. You only have to pop into the debt board here, for example.

Relax and be happy.

Dave101t

well if the op wasnt rude before, their subsequent posts have certainly alienated everyone!
just pay the 35quid, get a second copy, then laminate the 2nd copy.
i would say pursue the dvla for an apology but seeing as they wouldnt apologise to watchdog that time regarding 'losing' people driving entitlements they will probably simply ignore you.

ninestonecreature

Tozer wrote: »

Hi OP.

If you read my post, I stuck up for you. That said, I think you may need to re-read your latest posts in the morning and contemplate whether they are reasonable.

I can totally understand your anguish but taking out on members of this forum isn't going to progress your cause.

Now, deep breaths.....

I wasn't directing that at you, sorry if you got the wrong end of the stick....seems that's the general gist of the story here.

ninestonecreature

gabyjane wrote: »

Hi well poss too late in the day but putting in my 2 peneth anyway!! I totally agree with the op in that a document shoud be returned in the state in which it was sent..i would have not been happy either tbh.
We got married abroad, when i came to look for mine for chnage of name things i couldn't find it anywhere and had to resort to getting a replacement..think off the top of my head £35 or similar..grr luckily found it but it wasn't the money it was the pure hassle tbh.
I needed moine yesterday to use as part of a pressie to dh and would have been stuffed with a curry stained one!!
I have no idea why you have been jumped on..some people on here are very good at giving useless advice unfortunately!
Have you managed to get it sorted yet?

Thank you, someone who actually see's this for what it is

I totally am just flabbergasted here, seriously, my friends and family have read this and can't believe the responses I have got and totally agree with my opinion on some of you, no need to repeat what that was!

I have to wait till Monday to speak to the woman who dealt with this, so I shall look forward to that conversation.

With regards to other people concerns and question.....I sent the document off myself. I took it out of the sleeve it had been kept in since New York, and it was in perfect condition when I sent it. As for what the curry stain could have been, it could have been a pot noodle, or other noodle snack....a curried chicken wrap..(a pasty as Pollycat said) I don't know, use your imagination here guys. There were actual crumbs of food in the envelope for gods sake, so think what you like, the fact is someone has been extremely careless end of story. I do not want to have to defend myself again here, I KNOW its not the end of the world, but at the same time it's not on.

I took photocopies at the time anyway, and have taken pictures of the NEW stains, yes that's right, they messed it up some more just to add insult to injury, so we'll see what happens.

I guess if they have the same nonchalant attitude as some of you on here I won't have a chance in hell of anyone admitting to their errors here!

ninestonecreature

Pollycat wrote: »

I've re-read my original post (several times) and just can't understand what I said in there to warrant the verbal attacks by the OP.

However, although the OP has called me a 'vile person', accused me of turning her post around and encouraging people to jump on my shi*ty bandwagon, I do actually empathise with her.

She has only been married a few months and as Tozer has already said (and I agreed), the DVLA really should have taken more care with this important document.

Unlike proc, I can see how this may have happened.
People in offices do tend to eat at their desks nowaday.
Maybe the DVLA employee was eating a Gregg's curry pasty (hence the crumbs mentioned by the OP).

What the OP really wants is her original marriage certificate in the condition it was before she posted it to DVLA - and in her position, so would I.
But that is patently impossible.

As I said in my original post, IMHO the OP needs to be realistic and decide whether she is going to keep the stained marriage certificate or pay to have a copy.
I really do doubt that she has any chance of getting the DVLA to even admit they've done this (they've already said they haven't), let alone pay for a replacement.

So she has a few options:
sticks with the original but stained certicate
pays to get a copy
takes the DVLA on through the legal system

You see this post Pollycat, this was all I wanted. I could explain to you why it may have seemed I was contradicting myself but I won't because I wasn't and it's not important now...I just wanted advice!

Oldernotwiser

ninestonecreature wrote: »

I totally am just flabbergasted here, seriously, my friends and family have read this and can't believe the responses I have got and totally agree with my opinion on some of you, no need to repeat what that was!

Your friends and family, seeing you so upset, are obviously going to agree with you.

That's the strength of a public forum like MSE; you'll get a range of opinions, uncoloured by people's personal feelings and totally objective. This is something valuable and not to be sneezed at!

ninestonecreature

The responses I got off here didn't upset me, they just amazed me. As someone quite rightly said, some people are very good at giving useless advice...if you don't have anything of use to say on a forum like this, don't say anything at all. If I wanted someone to judge me personally I would have asked.

Anyway...I have just had a phone call off the DVLA saying that they will be sending me a cheque to get a replacement and that they apologise for any upset and distress caused. I can't ask for more then that.

ninestonecreature

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I bet he'd be too frightened to tell her if he did; the OP sounds like one scary lady!

He certainly isn't scared of me, but then that's probably because every day I go and help to care for his terminally ill father, this on top of caring for him and my three daughters probably makes him think of me a little bit better then you do.

Go and comment on someone you are absolutely sure you're judging properly!

Oldernotwiser

ninestonecreature wrote: »

He certainly isn't scared of me, but then that's probably because every day I go and help to care for his terminally ill father, this on top of caring for him and my three daughters probably makes him think of me a little bit better then you do.

Go and comment on someone you are absolutely sure you're judging properly!

I see the sense of humour bypass has been successful as well!

ninestonecreature

viktory wrote: »

I actually think you are slightly deranged. If you cannot see that your (over) reaction was out of place then lady, you really need help.

Sorry....how did you come to that conclusion?????

Please...really, go and give your advice to someone who wants it. How dare you.