DVLA sent back stained marriage certificate.

viktory

ninestonecreature wrote: »

So because I didn't WORD it exactly how you wanted me to you decided to not to help me?? Pollycat, you really are a vile person. Its is YOU who has for some reason turned this around and making me out to be someone I'm not and EVERYONE bar a few have jumped on you shi*ty band wagon. If you read my original post I was just asking for some help, hardly an unreasonable question regarding the topic I posted under. I was fine until she banged on about me contradicting myself.

Hey Pollycat and anyone else who thinks I have no issue, send me a few of your precious items round and I will quite happily ruin them for you, see how you feel then. I know its not the end of the world, believe me...I have things going on in my life which are a lot worse but that doesn't mean I don't have the right to be annoyed by this.

You have no idea about me or my life so to say that my WORDS were histrionic is just plain stupid, I also don't need to get a grip. I am hardly up in arms and shouting from the highest roof tops, I'm just asking a forum of people I thought would be able to help me.

At the end of the day, all I wanted was to take this further, if someone was to accuse you of being a liar after THEY ruined a precious item would you not be angry??

I actually feel like I've jumped into a anti-MoneySavingExpert forum, hopefully I will find the real one soon!!!!

I actually think you are slightly deranged. If you cannot see that your (over) reaction was out of place then lady, you really need help.

Tozer

Hi OP.

If you read my post, I stuck up for you. That said, I think you may need to re-read your latest posts in the morning and contemplate whether they are reasonable.

I can totally understand your anguish but taking out on members of this forum isn't going to progress your cause.

Now, deep breaths.....

flutterbyuk25

makapo wrote: »

I don't think the DVLA has local branches though, does it?

Actually they have around 40 local offices where people can hand in documentation or get it certified.

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Lifeisbutadream

KeithP wrote: »

Lifeisbutadream, I don't think you'll be that furious if/when your death cirtificate gets a curry stain.

LOL I meant someone else's (not that I have many )

McKneff

Pollycat wrote: »

So, you didn't bother following my advice then?

http://www.health.state.ny.us/vital_records/marriage.htm

http://www.cityclerk.nyc.gov/html/home/home.shtml

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_obtain_a_replacement_marriage_certificate_asap_in_New_York_City

http://www.cityclerk.nyc.gov/html/home/home.shtml

Not exactly rocket science, is it?




Wow, lady, you sure do have an attitude!

Hope you have better luck on whatever forum you go to, do make sure to give the full story.

By the sounds of it, she aint no lady mate.

advent1122

Tozer wrote: »

DVLA should, on any analysis, have provided an apology.

But an apology would be an admission of guilt.
They are saying it was not them who dribbled curry over the certificate so have nothing to apologise for.

Also if they had apologised do anyone genuinely believe the OP would have been happy with that.
No, neither do I.

Proc

The thing that gets me is this;

At what point in the process of checking the marriage certificate would the DVLA manage to get the paperwork anywhere near an open curry? I just can't picture people eating curry at their desks in such large offices.

OP are you sure your husband didn't accidentally do it before it was sent? Or even after it came back but didn't want to admit to it?

Oldernotwiser

Proc wrote: »

OP are you sure your husband didn't accidentally do it before it was sent? Or even after it came back but didn't want to admit to it?

I bet he'd be too frightened to tell her if he did; the OP sounds like one scary lady!

Pollycat

I've re-read my original post (several times) and just can't understand what I said in there to warrant the verbal attacks by the OP.

However, although the OP has called me a 'vile person', accused me of turning her post around and encouraging people to jump on my shi*ty bandwagon, I do actually empathise with her.

She has only been married a few months and as Tozer has already said (and I agreed), the DVLA really should have taken more care with this important document.

Unlike proc, I can see how this may have happened.
People in offices do tend to eat at their desks nowaday.
Maybe the DVLA employee was eating a Gregg's curry pasty (hence the crumbs mentioned by the OP).

What the OP really wants is her original marriage certificate in the condition it was before she posted it to DVLA - and in her position, so would I.
But that is patently impossible.

As I said in my original post, IMHO the OP needs to be realistic and decide whether she is going to keep the stained marriage certificate or pay to have a copy.
I really do doubt that she has any chance of getting the DVLA to even admit they've done this (they've already said they haven't), let alone pay for a replacement.

So she has a few options:
sticks with the original but stained certicate
pays to get a copy
takes the DVLA on through the legal system

gabyjane

Hi well poss too late in the day but putting in my 2 peneth anyway!! I totally agree with the op in that a document shoud be returned in the state in which it was sent..i would have not been happy either tbh.
We got married abroad, when i came to look for mine for chnage of name things i couldn't find it anywhere and had to resort to getting a replacement..think off the top of my head £35 or similar..grr luckily found it but it wasn't the money it was the pure hassle tbh.
I needed moine yesterday to use as part of a pressie to dh and would have been stuffed with a curry stained one!!
I have no idea why you have been jumped on..some people on here are very good at giving useless advice unfortunately!
Have you managed to get it sorted yet?