Don't know what to do for the best...

marydot

juliescot wrote: »

I would print out his profile and hand it to him and ask him to explain.

Can I ask why you were looking at a dating site anyway?

then

I would sign up and create an account and play him at his own game, get a blind date set up the bust his !!!!!! I am sure he never do it again.

Or maybe he is bored and looking for some online attention, maybe its just harmless fun to him.

jenhug

Bi curious and an empty viagra packet?
I'd be strait down the GUM clinic and tell them to shove an oversized cotton bud up his you know what!

Kandipandi

rjc73 - Hope you got some answers last night , we are thinking of you x

maggied_2

Hi rjc - just wondered if you'd managed to speak to OH

Bi curious and an empty viagra packet?
I'd be strait down the GUM clinic and tell them to shove an oversized cotton bud up his you know what!

Hmm..think I'd be thinking this too! I hope his curiosity is just that.

rjc73

Hi all and thanks for thinking of me!
Idon't really know what to say.
When he got home on tuesday night...after texting me to say he was going to be late!!! I said I had sent him a link in an email and to go and look at it before coming to talk to me.
To keep a long story short he basically said he was a bit bored and it was just a supid site and it didn't mean anything etc etc. Then he said he'd never done 'anything'.
So I asked him about the viagra packet and then he threw up his hands and siad ok ok I admit it I've been unfaithful.
Then he basically said it was my fault as I was 'an ice queen' and he had triede to talk to me but I shut him out and pushed him away
I don't know what to believe.
I am really aware that there are loads of probs in our marriage mostly to do with communication breakdown and the aging process. I was 25 when I married him and I think I have just grown up and he still wants the life he had before the kids came along.
He wants to go to relate to see if we can repair our relationship but I feel like I can never trust him again.
I don't know any details of what he has done, with whom, for how long, anything.
I feel so sick and I can't stop crying today.

maggied_2

rjc I'm so sorry ((((((HUGE HUG)))))) - what a terrible shock it must be.
Have you got anyone who can be with you today?

Please don't allow him to blame you for this - his choices have been his to make, not yours. If he was that concerned he should have suggested Relate before he betrayed you.

what do you want to happen next? Is he out today?
I'd pack him a bag and tell him to go and stay somewhere else for a few days while you think things over.

Good luck, be strong.

C xxxx

Minxy_Bella

maggied wrote: »

rjc I'm so sorry ((((((HUGE HUG)))))) - what a terrible shock it must be.
Have you got anyone who can be with you today?

Please don't allow him to blame you for this - his choices have been his to make, not yours. If he was that concerned he should have suggested Relate before he betrayed you.

what do you want to happen next? Is he out today?
I'd pack him a bag and tell him to go and stay somewhere else for a few days while you think things over.

Good luck, be strong.

C xxxx

Yes, I'd chuck him out too. And change the locks.

maggied_2

rjc - I've just been through this thread again and noticed your OH 'unfriended' you on facebook. !!!!!!???

Did he explain why? What very odd behaviour - he clearly has something to hide.

How long have you been together? Has anything like this happened before? How old are your children?

I feel you're being treated shoddily here and am very angry on your behalf.

Also minxy is correct - he's doing the typical "been caught out" act.

Throwing his hands up "OK, I admit it, I cheated, you made me do it you massive b*tch (did you not pander to his over sized ego enough? - poor wickle him), hey let's go to Relate". Grrrr!

He should be on his knees and out on his a*se.

rjc73

Thank you, I feel awful but have a wonderful friend in Sea78. Thanks honey so much for the lovely text !
He is at work today but is off for fri and sat and . He has sugested a nice family day out on sat...it is a long time since we all went out together.
I can't believe he has done this ...It is almost exactly the same as his 1st marige breakdown!!
I can't believe he has so little thought for me or the kids he would risk this again!

Minxy_Bella

I can't think of anything worse to put yourself through than a 'happy families' day out, honey, when you've got all this going around your head.

The fact is, he's done this before, to his first wife. Now he's done it to you. You're either going to let him get away with it now, so that he'll do it time and time again or you make a choice to put yourself and your children first and make a break.

Some men will take several miles if you give them an inch.