How to make friends?

RoxieW

why not arrange a night out for the toddler group mums? u r in the perfect position to do so as the organiser and I doubt anyone would think it strange.

Buddingblonde

I am exactly the same - moved 7 years ago to be with my man (who knows everyone but isnt the social type) and since then I have made ..... 1 friend. We are no longer friends as she was one of those who was always looking for something and I only heard from her when she needed a favour. It ended one day when she rang at 3.30am drunk asking me to give her a lift to her mums as she had to drop something off there.
I always seem to find friends who are needy or clingy and very self obsessed - I think it is because I am an easy oasy kind of person who always has a shoulder.
All the women I work with are very cliquey and there isnt anyone who has the same interests or hobbies as me. I have been working there since Feb this year and still feel like an outsider. I try to ask interesting questions about people and take an interest in them, their families, their hobbies. Today I asked a lot a people about their weekends and not one of them asked me about mine. I was off last friday for a funeral (which they all knew about) but no one even asked how it went or was I ok which is something I would have done no matter how well I knew someone.

maryotuam

I had trouble making friends when I was younger but one thing that helped was looking out for someone who wasn't in a group or clique. They were more likely to be open for friendship. (Although you need an exit strategy in case they turn out to be too weird). I have 4 close friends and 2 of them are great one to one but uncomfortable in groups.

lipglossbutterfly

Hi, I am the same. I am one of those people who can talk to anyone, say, in a que, cafe, bus stop, waiting room etc. But when it comes down to 'real friends' there isn't one i could call a best friend. I talk to my neighbours and work collegues but wouldn't regard them as close friends, someone i could drop round on at any time or confide in ... Its been 14+ years since i had a true best friend or even close friends
If anyone lives in Shropshire...? lol
But seriously...

MrsAnnie

May I join in? .

I used to have so many friends. Some close, some just lunch friends, some just chat friends, some shopping friends - you name it I had them.

Then I moved far away.

Four years later and I have only one firend . I talk to the neighbours and the shop people and that's it! People in my new town/village are so very clique (especially on the school playground), they just seem to look right through me. It is very odd and extremely disheartening.

So I will be interested to read the responses to this thread.

*Vikki*

I am the same and am 23!

ladypinkof66

I am the same too at 43 I dont have any close friends as such just work colleagues

BARGAINHUNTER!

thrifty_sue wrote: »

Have you tried netmums? They have a meet a mum board and I have met a few friendly people that way, especially when they introduce you to their friends. I went through a phase of not having many friends, but then realised I was lonely and made a real effort to talk to people and find out who was around in the community. I am naturally shy, so I did take some guts, but it was worth it!

Is this just for tots? My two children are teenagers.

Money_maker

I'll join the club too although I'm not too good in large groups.

westiedog

I feel the same too. I dont have any children but work unsociable shifts and mostly work with men xx