How to make friends?

xxlaurissaxx

Im in the same position. Im 21 and although I have friends, since moving away and not going out every weekend there, I feel really left out, as I dont really get asked to go anywhere, or if I do, its when I have something else on.

I went on to meetup.com (posted by deedee71 ) and am already meeting up with others in Edinburgh to do a ghost tour on the 29th Maybe I'll meet nice people there.

Theres all different groups, I really would suggest everyone has a look as it really is a great site and has groups for nearly almost anything on there.

Im in Edinburgh, 21 and willing to meet up

DeeDee74

vik6525 wrote: »

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:D a visit to cardiff must be in order vik...
st davids 2 open's next week :p

MrsAnnie

Kit1 wrote: »

Mrs Annie

I agree totally. We only have one dd and I have done the whole school thing (she is at secondary now) and tried to make friends with other mums which worked for a while but then they all started to go off into to their own little groups and as I am rather shy I never felt comfortable joining in with people I didn't know. Once she moved onto secondary school I didn't have the opportunity to see any of the mums except at the odd school evening which happens about once a year.

I hope your coffee goes well. BTW I live near Peterborough too

Yes it seems that the quiet, reserved people always seem to get left out .


Kit1, I have PMed you :wave:

northwest1965

I seem to be in this situation myself.

I moved from Northamptonshire to live with my partner in the NorthWest. Dont regret for one minute moving, I love it up here but have found it really hard to make friends. Partner works shifts which makes it harder.

pinkie_pie

I feel exactly the same.

I moved to Berkshire for now ex-H, from my home town further south (where I'd only been a short time as lived abroad for a number of years). I made friends tentatively from having ds and dd (now 5 and 3) however since starting uni they pushed me out the group and I realised we weren't quite as close as I thought And I've made friends at uni but conversely as I'm the only one in our group with kids I haven't settled in well there either.

I sometimes feel it would be so nice to have some close friends that you get together with, have a laugh with and know will be there for you... I think moving around so much kinda wrecked that for me, plus I'm not good at talking to new people or in big groups.

If anyone does want to chat though, I'm in Berks (and I'm 26!).

MichH

slates wrote: »

After reading this thread, I now know realise I'm not alone.. I find it very hard to make conversation and be friendly, I tend to come across aloof and not interested and scared i'll say something stupid...Its like I have forgotten the art of conversation..

I've lived away from the town i was brought up in for the last 10 years and I haven't met anyone here I could call a genuine friend. I do have friends in my home town but I only see them a couple times a year as distance is a problem.
I feel that most people already have their network of friends and that they are not looking for further friendships.

I've been with my fella for nearly 4 years and he hardly has any friends that still live in the area, so even meeting girlfriends/wifes of his friends is a no go..and being childless the opportunities there have never arose.

Other than the occasionally work do and an evening out with my fella, I do miss having a natter over a glass of wine/cup of coffee and putting the world to right..

Any ideas will be welcomed.

I could have written this (except I've been married longer). I have tried dance classes, but the 'clique' issue came up - not something I've ever been a part of. Sometimes you just want to go and have a coffee and a girly chat!

Befals

I'm a MSE lurker, but this post compelled me to post. I'm 25 and have drifted away from the few friends I had. I live with my partner so am not totally alone, but it would be nice to have a few friends too. I'm a student but haven't really clicked with anyone on my course, or at work. I'll say hello to people and chat about the weekend, but it never goes any further than that. I'm pretty shy with people and it takes me a while to get comfortable with them.

Anyone else from Cambridge fancy a meetup?

specsappeal

Hi all! hope you don't mind if i join in as it kind of struck a chord with me too. I'm 36 and have 3 kids aged 19, 16 and 14. I have a couple of friends who i see occasionally but would love to have a friend to go and have a coffee with or maybe go to see a film once a week or so. I too have been told that i can seem unapproachable which i have to say hurt a bit as although i am quite shy at first i am actually an alright person lol!
Anyway i am in clacton if anyone fancies a meet up?

kacie

Hi and welcome, I was told the other day that I "bite back" at people, and that I had upset someone doing it, I hadn't realised this and don't feel I do this. I thinks its a case of the person not knowing me. I am managing to meet up with one of my friends to go swimming with this week, I'm also meeting up with some of the OSers on saturday so my my social life is picking up :j

beverley1471

Went and looked on meetup, not alot going on in stafford. Was a coffee group but all men at the moment will keep looking. Would be nice to have afew friends in my local area apart from work colleagues. Anyone live in stafford or on facebook?