Opposite Sex Friends?

DKLS

I have always preferred the company of women, blokes want to talk cricket and football and dull things like that, in fact 95% of my mates are women and no there are no suppressed desires for me to be diddling any of them.

They are friends simple as. My fianc! is similar, she has very few female friends but many male friends. We have a bond and trust in each other, otherwise I couldn't see us working.

happyfili

jimexbox wrote: »

As a man for many years;), I can tell all the ladies that the vast majority of my mates who have female work colleagues who are 'just' friends would love to slip 'em one.

:rotfl::rotfl:That has made my morning, thank you! :rotfl::rotfl:

jimexbox

DKLS wrote: »

I have always preferred the company of women, blokes want to talk cricket and football and dull things like that, in fact 95% of my mates are women and no there are no suppressed desires for me to be diddling any of them.

They are friends simple as. My fianc! is similar, she has very few female friends but many male friends. We have a bond and trust in each other, otherwise I couldn't see us working.

Like I said there is certainly no issue problem having friends of the opposite sex. Its how far you take this friendship without your partner being present. Do you go out for meals with a female friend, or maybe a drink one Friday night? If you partner is fine with that, I applaud her. But I'm not too sure how many women would be OK with their bloke spending time out with a women other than themselves.

jimexbox

happyfili wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl:That has made my morning, thank you! :rotfl::rotfl:

Thanks;)

I did qualify the language, I used it in context.

Penny-Pincher!!

My best mate is male, I tell him everything and he gives me wise advice. Ive been married for 15 years and have known my OH since I was 13. My husband gets on with him too.

PP
xx

mummy_Jay

There is absolutely nothing wrong with having friends of either sex for either partner. A partnership is based on trust and if they can't trust you going out on the town with your mates there's a problem. If that friend is an ex, I could see reason for a little discomfort but nothing more, no reason not to be friends.

Though I do remember a couple of ex's that both had a problem with my gay friends. They really didn't like me hanging out with lovely lesbian ladies or openly gay men but I always put it down to their fear of the unknown and made a point of always inviting them along until they got comfortable with it.

A friend is there for life as far as I'm concerned and after dating an overly control individual if someone wants to separate me from my friends for what ever reason it would start alarm bells in my head.

jimexbox

mummy_Jay wrote: »

If that friend is an ex, I could see reason for a little discomfort but nothing more, no reason not to be friends.

Two of my ex's came to my wedding, we are still good friends. Still wouldnt go out for a meal/quiet drink with them.

3plus1

In general, no.

However, if they are 'friends' you have slept with before, that's when some people (including me) start to object... I don't believe in staying 'friends' with exes unless you have to, e.g. unless you have a child together, then you pretty much have to get on.

creased-leach

jimexbox wrote: »

I agree its certainly not disrespectful, but lets all be honest for a moment. I'm a bloke so I will phrase it for the women who are predominant on this board. What would you think if your husband/boyfriend received regular texts from his female friend? What would you say if he wanted to go out for a quiet drink with his female friend? Or an Indian on a Friday night, rolling in a little worse for wear around 2.30am.

I've often done these things with male friends, not too sure how my wife would react if it was a female friend. We can all be 'right on' it doesn't matter, and to a certain degree it doesn't. Though as I pointed out its how far you can safely push that degree without damaging your own relationship.

As a man for many years;), I can tell all the ladies that the vast majority of my mates who have female work colleagues who are 'just' friends would love to slip 'em one. Pardon the language, but most men in male company talk like that. Face facts ladies most men are lead by one ugly feature....

My OH met back up with an ex girlfriend by chance a few years back. We'd go round there together, and he'd sometimes call in seperately. Despite the fact that instinct told me she still held a torch, I had no issue with it as I trusted him. However, the day she (sozzled, at a party) made a comment about him "Having married the wrong ****" (we share a christian name) when I was nine months pregnant- she was out the door. Not that I trusted him any less- just that for both of us, she showed her true colours.

As for my male friends- I'm fully aware which ones of them would like to "slip me a length." If you fancy someone, you fancy them- you can't help it. What matters is that the main reason they're my friend is that they respect & want to spend time with me. There are a couple of them with whom the double entendres flow to a Finbarr Saunders level- and yes, flirtation has been known- but I'm a born flirt, and we all know the boundaries...

TangledMemories_2

Most of my mates are male...I seem to get on better with most blokes because of being brought up in a more male environment. Both of my parents were HGV drivers. I guess "tomboy" sums me up pretty well.
My OH doesn't mind that I have more male mates, in fact he said it's what drew him to me.
Have to say though, I've never seen any of them as anything more than mates...if they feel differently about me...they've never let on (unless I'm subconsciously filtering out such suggestions lol)