19 year old son's girlfriend to stay over?

krisskross

Does she have to come into the house for the bathroom?

TBH I think anything that makes you feel uncomfortable in your own home is a no no.

csh_2

McKneff wrote: »

I cant beleive this last sentence, your blaming your parents because yur wife got pregnant when you were young :eek:. Did you not know how babies were made or did it not occur to you. Presumably your parents were giving you the benefit of the doubt that you were being 'careful and responsible'

If you hadnt been having unprotected irresponsible sex in your parents house, you would have been having unprotected irresponsible sex somewhere else. anywhere else, when your teenagers.

My bf was allowed by my mum to stay over from the age of 14/15 and it makes me sick to my stomach now that it was allowed.
Parents should be protecting young teens not encouraging them, and not giving them the benefit of the doubt because at that age children are children and sometimes need protecting from themselves. This is the parents job, not giving them free rein of their house for underage sex but advising against it IMHO.

jago25_98

? When my brother was that age he was banging his girlfriend in the room next door to my parents.
They are now 4 years happily married. :j

He has gone to the trouble of making a home of sorts what some interpret as outside of your area (in the garden not in the house) in order to gain independence; that's thoughtful. I'm sure he'd be disappointed to learn that you class the garden the same as you class your home.

I would let it go a little more, and then push him out of the nest by prohibiting this or causing problems. This would be a good kick up the backside.

If it disgusts you, let him know what it's like and that you've (probably) avoided them hearing you have sex so to please keep it out of our minds in return.

If there's a religious side to all this I can understand that because I am studying Taoism and other religious views on the matter; you want to carefully choose who you share your soul with, don't want to inflate the ego etc. (I understand what purpose inhibited views are meant to achieve). If your son is educated in this kind of knowledge, and then feels this isn't something that matches his experience in shagging then you got to respect that decision.

hbloomers

My boyfriend and I frequently stay at each others houses (He's 20, I'm 19). Our parents are fine with it really. We've decided to go by the "not when they're in the house" rule. Or sometimes when we're sure they're asleep.

I suppose its what you feel is right for you. As for the sleeping in different rooms idea... Am I the only one that would feel weird sleeping in the main house with the bf out in the den in the garden, or vice versa? I'd feel either like I was intruding into their personal space, or been abandoned to the garden.

andyaj0807

hbloomers wrote: »

My boyfriend and I frequently stay at each others houses (He's 20, I'm 19). Our parents are fine with it really. We've decided to go by the "not when they're in the house" rule. Or sometimes when we're sure they're asleep.

I suppose its what you feel is right for you. As for the sleeping in different rooms idea... Am I the only one that would feel weird sleeping in the main house with the bf out in the den in the garden, or vice versa? I'd feel either like I was intruding into their personal space, or been abandoned to the garden.

This made me laugh but i do the same with my G/F!

hbloomers

The "not when they're in the house" rule? Its the way foward :P

andyaj0807

hbloomers wrote: »

The "not when they're in the house" rule? Its the way foward :P

All i can say is that metal bed frames do not help if your trying to not wake anyone up!! lol

hbloomers

Thats why you lie the quilt on the floor :P

Lol we've rather hijacked the OP's thread. Sorry!

andyaj0807

hbloomers wrote: »

Thats why you lie the quilt on the floor :P

Lol we've rather hijacked the OP's thread. Sorry!

Yeh sorry everyone, we are just giving you ideas on what us teens do get upto in our parents houses! However, it is legal and its apart of growing up!

... i am glad my parents dont use this website!

vaio

hbloomers wrote: »

The "not when they're in the house" rule? Its the way foward :P

Yep, but the danger is it soon becomes “when we’re sure they are asleep”, and then “when they should be asleep” and eventually “when they go to the kitchen to make a cup of tea”