Am i being paranoid?

gareth01422

BeenieCat wrote: »

Well you do sound a little defensive :eek:

(lol, ignore me Gareth, i'm turning into a man hater, suspicious of everyone, cos of ex who had all the "why would i do this & that..etc" excuses )

I agree with you -my first GF who i was with for 8 years did the same to me and I had to throw her out my house, And we had only been in our house for six months. Worst of it was my son was 3 at the time and it was the hardest decision i have ever had to make.

BeenieCat

Well people are just barstewards IMO

So does it look hopeful that you and Linz can sort out your mutual non-trust? Or is it looking like a dead end?

zippychick

gareth01422 wrote: »

yes fair enough - May be i was a little harsh, but saying that ive just had a laptop should in my face with this thread on the screen and told "If your thinking about why havent you F***ed off then?". And guess what we arnt talking again, and look at the date, Isnt there a trend apearing within our relationship......................

:eek:Serious serious issues honestly. Yous two either need a complete heart to heart and if you stay together - draw a line under EVERYTHING (none of this he said she said you did they did who did who are you talking to?) . Or split. You either trust each other or yous don't.

I'll be honest, from the outside, this whole situation seems pretty bizarre. No disrespect to you or Linz, but enough is enough. Decide a way forward, and do it. Neither of you seem happy from reading both threads. :cool:

gareth01422

BeenieCat wrote: »

Well people are just barstewards IMO

So does it look hopeful that you and Linz can sort out your mutual non-trust? Or is it looking like a dead end?

well to be honest the only reason 2 reasons i wrote on these 2 thread was

1, Hopefully linz will read what has been said and maybe not focus the negative and come up with a posative attitude and talk about our problems. And not shove the laptop in my face and come out with a silly statement like she did.

2. There has been so many things that have had a negative impact on our relationship in the past 4 years that really you guys have only a tiny bit of the information. So i thought i would come down to her level and post a revenge thread, and yes it is bloody childish and wish we could sort this out face to face, and is what i would love to be able to do. But no we have to go the kiddies route.

So I honestly dont know the answer to that question, But i can say Ive tried every which i know to try keep us together but i dont think its a 2 way street.

BeenieCat

Oh i just realised you have another thread mentioning this date last year lol, :eek:

BeenieCat

You both sound very much like me and my ex - stubborn!

He says i don't want to look at the positives and move forward, i say i can't just forget what's happened etc. But i never read your other thread (yet) so it's prob totally different anyway!

gareth01422

zippychick wrote: »

:eek:Serious serious issues honestly. Yous two either need a complete heart to heart and if you stay together - draw a line under EVERYTHING (none of this he said she said you did they did who did who are you talking to?) . Or split. You either trust each other or yous don't.

I'll be honest, from the outside, this whole situation seems pretty bizarre. No disrespect to you or Linz, but enough is enough. Decide a way forward, and do it. Neither of you seem happy from reading both threads. :cool:

I would love to come clean about everything i really would but i dont have the trust to get the truth back. I totally agree with you, I would like to draw a line under all the issues we have. But as i said before, I dont think really linz wants the full truth out in the open.

gareth01422

BeenieCat wrote: »

You both sound very much like me and my ex - stubborn!

He says i don't want to look at the positives and move forward, i say i can't just forget what's happened etc. But i never read your other thread (yet) so it's prob totally different anyway!

Please read it, the infomation you have, better advice is given.

if you know what i mean.

zippychick

gareth01422 wrote: »

I would love to come clean about everything i really would but i dont have the trust to get the truth back. I totally agree with you, I would like to draw a line under all the issues we have. But as i said before, I dont think really linz wants the full truth out in the open.

By "out in the open" - do you mean posting here?

That isn't what I meant. I mean between the two of you. Each other - why not go to a public place to talk about it - like sit in the corner of a cafe? So you have privacy but you have more reason to stay calm and avoid a scene? It sounds like yous both maybe blow up at each other so you need to talk under a calm controlled environment. Or that's how I see it anyway.
Or do you mean you can't be fully honest with her? Sorry just confused.

BeenieCat

Lol well i started to but i think i'll read it in the morning cos my brain hurts In the meantime, try not to kill each other

Don't underestimate how much all the arguing will damage you both, it's hard to stop once you're into the habit!