Am i being paranoid?

neneromanova

Hahaha that is brilliant. I've never ever seen the OH find the thread and reply. Good on you Gareth! I can see where she is coming from though. It does seem a little bit suspicious, But maybe she has a low-self-esteem/past experience of that?

I think you should both cut your losses and move on to new grounds. Good Luck

gareth01422

neneromanova wrote: »

Hahaha that is brilliant. I've never ever seen the OH find the thread and reply. Good on you Gareth! I can see where she is coming from though. It does seem a little bit suspicious, But maybe she has a low-self-esteem/past experience of that?

I think you should both cut your losses and move on to new grounds. Good Luck

Ive been thinking about it.

BeenieCat

gareth01422 wrote: »

Ive been thinking about it.

So are u cheating?

DeeDee74

neneromanova wrote: »

Hahaha that is brilliant. I've never ever seen the OH find the thread and reply. Good on you Gareth! I can see where she is coming from though. It does seem a little bit suspicious, But maybe she has a low-self-esteem/past experience of that?

I think you should both cut your losses and move on to new grounds. Good Luck

ive read a few where other people have posted and there oh have found the thread and posted there side.... i did so myself when my oh posted asking for advice..


there's obviously probs in the op's and the oh relationship, maybe sit down and talk and see what u can sort, if not call it aday...

tsstss7

My advice to you both - the thing you have to remember is that if ONE of you feels paranoid for whatever reason - it is BOTH of yours' problem. you both need to talk and talk until you sort it out.

The thing I find often is that the one under suspicion will often just shrug it off as the other persons problem and then the whole thing escalates, but in my mind if you care for that person you need to find out why they are feeling the way they do and see if there is any way you can sort it out. Yep there are psycho paranoid ***es out there but not half as many as many seem to make out. Lots off the time its just a matter of communication and how different people perceive different things err differently.

gareth01422

BeenieCat wrote: »

So are u cheating?

Cheating? Jesus dont you read the post's?

Why would i live 50 miles away from my son who i have seen 3 times in the last 12 months almost So i can be with my GF and then cheat? that doesnt make any sence to me. If i was that way inclined i would probably just leave and never come back? then do all the "UP TO NO GOOD" stuff anyway.

As i have said in my thread, " I love my GF to bits" but when there is no comunication and the lies then what can you do?

Also someone said a relationship is like a stool with three legs, the legs being trust, sex and friendship. Trust - forget it, we dont trust each other fullstop. Sex - im not going to discuss that on here Linz32 knows my thoughts on that subject. Friendship - we do have a great friendship when others arnt involved.

BeenieCat - NO, far from cheating, quite the oppersite. I do all I can to please my GF even have 2 people on MSN, 1- her 2- a friend who lives thousands of miles away (who is also male). But when i get told (by her on MSN) she has been chatting to a few blokes on facebook I start to wonder who the mug is here.

zippychick

gareth01422 wrote: »

Cheating? Jesus dont you read the post's?

Why would i live 50 miles away from my son who i have seen 3 times in the last 12 months almost So i can be with my GF and then cheat? that doesnt make any sence to me. If i was that way inclined i would probably just leave and never come back? then do all the "UP TO NO GOOD" stuff anyway.

As i have said in my thread, " I love my GF to bits" but when there is no comunication and the lies then what can you do?

Also someone said a relationship is like a stool with three legs, the legs being trust, sex and friendship. Trust - forget it, we dont trust each other fullstop. Sex - im not going to discuss that on here Linz32 knows my thoughts on that subject. Friendship - we do have a great friendship when others arnt involved.

BeenieCat - NO, far from cheating, quite the oppersite. I do all I can to please my GF even have 2 people on MSN, 1- her 2- a friend who lives thousands of miles away (who is also male). But when i get told (by her on MSN) she has been chatting to a few blokes on facebook I start to wonder who the mug is here.

Gareth, see this wee fella - it means tongue in cheek. :rolleyes:

BeenieCat

Well you do sound a little defensive :eek:

(lol, ignore me Gareth, i'm turning into a man hater, suspicious of everyone, cos of ex who had all the "why would i do this & that..etc" excuses )

gareth01422

zippychick wrote: »

Gareth, see this wee fella - it means tongue in cheek. :rolleyes:

yes fair enough - May be i was a little harsh, but saying that ive just had a laptop should in my face with this thread on the screen and told "If your thinking about why havent you F***ed off then?". And guess what we arnt talking again, and look at the date, Isnt there a trend apearing within our relationship......................

BeenieCat

lol gareth, me and my ex always seemed to argue on Friday nights (no alcohol involved) so looks like Sunday is your unlucky night, maybe u should spend the night in church instead (separate ones:eek:)