It's never going to happen for me.

Kynthia

Sorry for the long post. I feel so sad. My boyfriend has asked me to wait until the end of the year for a proposal but I've already waited for two years.

I've been with my boyfriend for nearly five years and lived with him for 2 years. I rented out my flat, which I loved and only had for 18 months, and moved further away from my friends and family as he said he couldn't imagine what being married and starting family would be like until we lived together. I have explained to him how important being married is to me. I can't start on the next phases of my life with someone who isn't able to commit to me legally and in front of our families. I'm in 30's and don't want to leave having children until it's too late.

He say's he wants to marry me so why doesn't he propose? I've been worrying about it for the past 11 months as I said that I wasn't going to rent out my flat for a 3rd year. The agent is now asking me to decide about the flat and my boyfriend has asked me to wait another four months. He's had the past year, why would the next four months be any different? I don't think I can put myself through another four months of upset, if he wants to marry me then why can't he propose now? What happens if after four months he still hasn't proposed and my flat is tied up for a year? If he doesn't want to marry me then why doesn't he say?

I love him to pieces and he's the nicest guy ever! I don't want to but should I move out?

TangledMemories_2

Daft question....but have you actually ASKED him why he keeps putting it off and asking you to wait?

Claire_Bear

Why is it so important for you to get married in such a rush? If you love the guy then be happy you're with him, and trust that he'll stick to his word and propose to you at the end of the year. Maybe he has good reason for waiting, or maybe he feels as though he's being pressured and wants to do things in his own time so he doesn't feel like he's being pushed into it. Instead of stressing out about it so much why don't you just chill, enjoy your time together, and look forward to the day when he proposes to you? Being married isn't everything, and you're probably getting on his nerves by going on about it constantly.

Claire_Bear

Also, why say it's never going to happen and then go onto say he's definately going to propose in four months? No offence, but I think you're being overly dramatic

rene2b

he might have something planed for you both in 4mths times
is it a first date,move in date?
you say you moved in with him(he said he couldn't imagine what being married and starting family would be like until we lived together)did he know from the begining you wanted to get married?if he did and still no 'question'id ask him asap where u both are going in this relashionship

rene2b

Claire_Bear wrote: »

Also, why say it's never going to happen and then go onto say he's definately going to propose in four months? No offence, but I think you're being overly dramatic

where does it say this?

shellsuit

Why don't you ask him?

At least you'll see where you stand when you get his answer x

shellsuit

rene2b wrote: »

where does it say this?

It doesn't :cool:

bubblybee

Perhaps he's saving for a ring?

rene2b

ya! ask him that way you know there and then
and thanks shell for a min i thought i was losing it lol.x

Claire_Bear

The title of the thread? 'It's never going to happen for me'. Then her boyfriend asked her to wait til the end of the year for a proposal. Why else would he ask her to wait for four months if he still wasn't going to propose at the end of it?