sucidial... no help given

pickle

Hi Frankie,

I hope you're ok. I know it probably doesn't feel like it now but one day you will wake up and things will look much better than they do right now. It sounds like you feel a bit ground down by the demands of others and not appreciated. The fact is that you have done the hardest job of all and that is to be a mother and whether your children see it (most don't) you have got them through to where they are now and that took guts and a lot of work! You haven't failed them. You need to be there for your son. Have you tried a self-help group for people with depression? You need to be your own friend now and if there's noone to help lift you up you owe it to yourself to ignore everyone else and look after number one. Give yourself a big hug and promise to go easy on yourself. You deserve it.

fatou256

I am not surprised that frankie has no help . after my own expereince of it , i was todl that most health staff will not respond to suicide or self harm becasue they think that people do it for attention seeking or to get some "love", so instead of treating them they are told to ignore it !

however i hope you are ok .. there light after the tunel .

zztopgirl

fatou256 wrote: »

I am not surprised that frankie has no help . after my own expereince of it , i was todl that most health staff will not respond to suicide or self harm becasue they think that people do it for attention seeking or to get some "love", so instead of treating them they are told to ignore it !

however i hope you are ok .. there light after the tunel .

Thanks so much for saying this, I went to the local crisis team for help and they said I was perfectly ok, didnt need any help at all but could go on 6 month waiting list for counselling, I was told to go away and stop bothering them and not mentally ill at all (although I have been under the care of psychritrists in past for many years, care plan lapsed and was never dealt with again) according to crisis team I have now 'recovered from whatever my issue was' and no longer need any help.

Am waiting for my gp to refer me back but am not holding any hope, its only thanks to my wonderful oh that im still here, am self-harming very badly but thats all im doing, and can safely say that its not attention seeking, its a way of releasing the mental anguish. Just a shame the mental health workers dont see it that way. They basically say 'oh dear' at all the pain and suffering that is going on in my life, but thats my problem to sort it out.

fatou256

zztopgirl wrote: »

Thanks so much for saying this, I went to the local crisis team for help and they said I was perfectly ok, didnt need any help at all but could go on 6 month waiting list for counselling, I was told to go away and stop bothering them and not mentally ill at all (although I have been under the care of psychritrists in past for many years, care plan lapsed and was never dealt with again) according to crisis team I have now 'recovered from whatever my issue was' and no longer need any help.

Am waiting for my gp to refer me back but am not holding any hope, its only thanks to my wonderful oh that im still here, am self-harming very badly but thats all im doing, and can safely say that its not attention seeking, its a way of releasing the mental anguish. Just a shame the mental health workers dont see it that way. They basically say 'oh dear' at all the pain and suffering that is going on in my life, but thats my problem to sort it out.

this is my problem too

Until the NHS revised his guideline on suicide , people will continue to suffer from it as wellas their family !

loulou123

Hi Frankie,

Hope you are ok and next time i check this thread you have posted back to let everyone know this.

I also know how it feels to hit rock bottom, and in the past have had similar thoughts to you myself. I also used to self harm. You are right some doctors are completely useless when it comes to mental health problems, but there are also some fantastic ones so try not to lose all faith in the medical proffesion.

Ive suffered from depression on and off since my late teens, and at times could never see things changing for me, but they have, with the help of medication, CBT, counselling etc i am now in a much better place. Sure its been hard and i still have bad days, but things are so much better than a few years ago. I have recently started a new job which i love and things are beginning to fall into place. Its taken me a LONG time to get to this point tho, and i must have tried at least 10 different sorts of anti-depresants before i found one that really helped me, so dont giveup if the medication you are given doesnt seem to help.

You can tell from your posts how much you care about your children, so please dont put them through losing a parent. I lost my dad to cancer when i was 15 and this was one of the things that started my self harmin off. I know you might feel they would be better off without you at the moment (thats how i felt about my family) but losing a parent at a young age is never ever going to be better for them.

Please let us all know you are ok. x x x

tandraig

I am so worried about Frankie - been on my mind all day. is there any way forum team can trace her - and would they if we ask? I know that they can get IP address and get street addy from that - but would probably be breach of DPA? i sincerely hope that she hasnt been online because she is getting help.

worriedsik

Frankie

one day your kids will realise the truth just as my daughter has now but when she was growing up her dad had lots more than me a nice house good job car etc and i struggled to bring up my daughter and she idolised him , it hurt me so much but i would never bad mouth him to her , i felt so beneath him he was a career guy and me ! well i was just a mum who struggled to get her what she needed whilst he went a holiday every year we ( me and daughter ) went knowhere.
It used to tear me apart when ( rarely ) he came to collect her & i would be gutted at how excited she would get & i used to wonder how she could care so much for him.

Now ....she calls him an idiot , she now sees him for what he really is a selfish self centred indavidual & iam sure one day you will get the regognition you deserve.

Please come back on line frankie we are all here for you xxxxx
I always thought that one day she would see for herself & she did

zippychick

tandraig wrote: »

I am so worried about Frankie - been on my mind all day. is there any way forum team can trace her - and would they if we ask? I know that they can get IP address and get street addy from that - but would probably be breach of DPA? i sincerely hope that she hasnt been online because she is getting help.

I don't know? This is a tricky one. Em, what about sending a pm to a BG to ask? Just going to check if she's been online

Last Activity: Yesterday 12:36 PM

princess_lou

hi.. just wondered if anyone found out idf frankie has been online? really worried... i did pm her as i see alot of pple did..

zippychick

zippychick wrote: »

I don't know? This is a tricky one. Em, what about sending a pm to a BG to ask? Just going to check if she's been online

Last Activity: Yesterday 12:36 PM

Still the same lou. I'm not sure there's much anyone can do to get contact details.

On looking through her posts, the only thing I can establish is she is probably in Northern Ireland (older post says no, but nothing recent)