Weekly Flylady Thread 14th September 2009

froddington

I will get a star; I will get a star; I will get a star ............... it is looking possible!

Manic Monday ~ Living Room, Hall and Stairs

Level 1
Vacuum floors and sofas

Level 2
Dusting, even if around everything
Remove clutter making sure stairs especially are safe
Clean TV, other electricals and cabinets

Level 3
Wipe light switches, sockets (make sure they are not switched on!!) and banister

Twinkly Tuesday ~ Kitchen

Level One
Sweep and mop floors

Level Two
Wipe worksurfaces and see if you can do those small appliances on the way round
Wipe fronts of units and large appliances

Level Three
Wipe the hob and oven

Wednesday ~ bathroom annd cruddy study

Level Three
Clear the desk of gibble and give it a dust as you dust and deweb the rooms

Thursday ~ Kiddies rooms, Spare rooms or another neglected room

Level One
Declutter and vacuum the floor
Tidy away all the toys and clothes and games and books that are in the wrong place

Level Two
Strip and wash bedding and replace with clean.. vacuum and turn mattresses if needed
Wash any other soft furnishings.. curtains etc
Sort through a chest of drawers.. dispose of anything that is outgrown, worn out

Level Three
Dust and deweb
Wipe over the bedframes and paintwork
Binbag dance!

FRIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIDAY! ~ Master bedroom and Landing

Level One
Declutter the floor!
Vacuum the floors

Level Two
Strip and wash bedding and remake bed.. do you need the duvet back on yet?
Clear the floordrobe!..
Declutter and wipe the bedside tables...

Level Three
Dust and deweb.. don't forget the bedframe and light fitting!
Polish any glass bits.. table tops, lamps, mirrors etc

My one-a-day (or 7-a-weekend!!) list ......
- Tax office
- [STRIKE]CATs report[/STRIKE]
- Desk in middle bedroom
- [STRIKE]Pay CC[/STRIKE]
- 101 in 1001 list
- Progress folders x 5
- Car checks

fedupandskint

Glass of wine anyone? A glass of red for me tonight, anyone else fancy a free glass

SCD on accompanied by vino - I am on my own now and forever. Here on my own again. Still think OH is upto something as he hasn't been in touch at all this week or weekend. Probably with someone. Makes me feel rubbish and lonely. Why doesn't he want me anymore?

Just spend all my spare time cleaning now to keep busy. Haven't been out again this weekend just like last weekend. This is how my life is now and feels how it is going to be forever

fedupandskint

This is me tonight
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyfu_mU-dmo

greenbee

fedupandskint wrote: »

Glass of wine anyone? A glass of red for me tonight, anyone else fancy a free glass

SCD on accompanied by vino - I am on my own now and forever. Here on my own again. Still think OH is upto something as he hasn't been in touch at all this week or weekend. Probably with someone. Makes me feel rubbish and lonely. Why doesn't he want me anymore?

Just spend all my spare time cleaning now to keep busy. Haven't been out again this weekend just like last weekend. This is how my life is now and feels how it is going to be forever

I'm joining you in a glass...

whereabouts are you? It sounds as if you need a flylady visitation.

Have a big (((hug))) and don't let your OH's behaviour make you feel bad. If he's stupid enough not to want to make time to spend with you, that's his loss. But you do need to spend your time doing things that make you feel good about yourself. How about giving us a list of all the things you've always wanted to do but haven't got round to? Maybe you could plan to do them... and if your OH does decide he wants to spend time with you, he'll have to fit into your busy schedule. Waiting around feeling miserable just in case he happens to get in touch won't help - I know, I used to put my life on hold for an unreliable OH, and I became bored and boring

fedupandskint

Sounds the same as me greenbee. Thanks for your advice.

I'm in W.Yorks, miles away from most of you. Too true keep busy

• clean the oven - try bio washing powder and water mixture
• finish cleaning out the kitchen cupboards and larder
• Clear out the celler and attach insulation
• Repair extractor fan
• Repair toilet seat and handle
• take down old shed and repair roof on the other one and put all the stuff in it
• Move TD into celler
• weep weep weep, think about a happier future than the last 5 yrs which have been disasterous
• Decorate my bedroom and spare room
• Put a real fire into LR
• replace kitchen and bathroom

toottifrootti

Have been deleting links and emails and unsuscribing from newsletters/emails

glad you are a bit brighter now Triker honey - you must have been very close to the line - its everywhere!!!!

zoe you have been very busy and havent much left this week

froddy I know you will get a star (((hugs)))

fedup I am sorry you feel so low honey - go and do something nice for yourself - dont let him have all the fun and get on with your life the way you want to - you need to find out whats going on - if he's gone then you need to get out with friends and build up your life again - dont let him 'win', (((hugs)))

I am afraid I am going to love yoyu and leave you for tonight - there is a party going on through the wall - started at 7 and I cant stand it any longer so i am going to the bedroom which I hope will lessen the sound - will do a bit of tidying and have an early night with earplugs!
will pop over and update stars first

love to everybody espec big hugs for LL and fedup.

see you tomorrow
toots xx

Dustykitten

Fedup hugs sweetie. It sounds like you have been really let down by your OH, have you spoken at all about what is going on? I can't remember if you live together or not.

tootifruities

stars done to 979

greenbee

fedupandskint wrote: »

Sounds the same as me greenbee. Thanks for your advice.

I'm in W.Yorks, miles away from most of you. Too true keep busy

• clean the oven - try bio washing powder and water mixture
• finish cleaning out the kitchen cupboards and larder
• Clear out the celler and attach insulation
• Repair extractor fan
• Repair toilet seat and handle
• take down old shed and repair roof on the other one and put all the stuff in it
• Move TD into celler
• weep weep weep, think about a happier future than the last 5 yrs which have been disasterous
• Decorate my bedroom and spare room
• Put a real fire into LR
• replace kitchen and bathroom

That's a start, but how about other things that you couldn't do with him hanging about? Surfing in Morocco, swimming with dolphins in New Zealand, trekking to Macchu Picchu, learning to dive, doing a parachute jump...

... OK, so it doesn't have to be that drastic, but without OH you're not tied to home in the same way. Work to make it low-maintenance, then start spending your evenings at classes learning things you've always wanted to do and your weekends seeing friends or having adventures. Don't for a moment let him think he's left a hole in your life. Fill it with all the things you would have done if he hadn't been there taking up your time... if he made the last five years miserable, then start by celebrating. I know you may not feel like it, but if you pretend to yourself that its a good thing, eventually you might start believing it and behaving as if it has given you a whole lot more opportunities!

You can start by having a major declutter - anything with negative associations should be got rid of.

And also... if he's just stopped talking to you and hasn't actually finished things... you can always be the one to finish it. (Again, this is what happened to me.... communication got less and less frequent, and then I just didn't hear anything. Now when my ex contacts me I sometimes get back, sometimes don't... depending on whether I can be bothered/am interested...). It might make you feel better to draw a line under it rather than wait for him to decide one way or the other. And if he asks why, say because being with him makes you feel bad about yourself, which isn't how you want to be, so you're moving on.

If you've got any of his stuff around, I suggest you start packing it up!

fedupandskint

Dustykitten wrote: »

Fedup hugs sweetie. It sounds like you have been really let down by your OH, have you spoken at all about what is going on? I can't remember if you live together or not.

We lived together for 9 yrs, then apart for the last 2 when I moved out, in fact it's just coming up to the 2nd year apart.

He hasn't even rung me for the last 2 weeks - bet he is out tonight trying to s**g a sl**. Thanks a bunch. All I can imagine now he will get someone else pregnant and leave me childless now that time has passed and he always said he didn't want to have kids. What a waste of 11 years now I think, unless I am completely wrong.