How do you find a time for yourself?

newcook

do_it_today! wrote: »

or get a dishwasher (although there is still the issue of who will load and unload it!)
good luck!

could also be that while OP and her hubby may want a dishwasher, they dont come free!! I also like the idea of his and her nights - he could even jump in the bath with her or pop in and scrub her back!!!

ahhhhh - while I love being single I do miss having someone offer to scrub my back while im in the bath!!!!

slow cooker is another idea - pop it all in before you go to work and youve got a lovely hot meal ready waiting when you get in from work - especially if you get in about an hour or so before hubby you could have your 'me' time then!

tandraig

the OP was just asking how other married women made time for beauty routines - if she wanted marriage guidance she would have asked for that. OP may have thought my post earlier not very helpful - sorry about that was a bit rushed. I made sure that everyone knew i was going for bath - and my husband knew it would be long session! all my stuff was in the bathroom including whichever book i was reading! if my husband was watching something on tv or out with his mates then it was MY time. the OP has only been married two years and no kids! honeymoon period not over!!!! I dont think its up to us to comment on domestic arrangements when that is not the question. dont worry OP when you have kids you will be lucky to get that bath - and you will have to train them to respect your time!

jenhug

This is what I would do:
1, get a cleaner.
2, get some nice pamper products that can be used in the shower but insist on time for a bath once a week, say on a Sunday night??
3, look at cooking quicker meals, a stir fry maybe?
4, ask on freecycle, or buy, a dishwasher.

gabyjane

Hi well me and dh tend to have 3 nights in together and we either watch a film or do seperate things depending on how we both feel..i too watch things i don't really want to at times but im sure he does the same so goes both ways!
He works the other 4 nights and so this is the time i have 'me time' if not buisy i have not long had a bath and i cleaned the bathroom while the bath was running (although dhwill say he did it (half) of if it earlier!) so that's that room done..i do the rest of the house as i go tbh or when dd is at school and im not working. We have one of those robot hoovers that does the floors on it's own, it wasn't much but does do a good job of cleaning! the dishwasher does make life easier but sressful too as one doesn't unload and moans at the other,,they are not all fun!
I do nails infront of the tv at night and get my hair done each 7 weeks ish..apart from that not much!

Rockporkchop

Maybe do some batch cooking so you can eat meals from the freezer for a few days a week, and get a slow cooker so your meals are ready when you get home. Have you looked at the Old Style board on here, there is a thread called Fly Lady which is a daily routine for housework and other tasks, although if you can afford a cleaner then that is obviously preferable.

I must admit I always thought I never had enough time to do anything when it was just me and my DH. Now we have baby triplets I realise that I actually had loads of time, I just didn't organise it properly or appreciate it enough. My beauty routine is non existent nowadays - I don't think I ever get to use the bathroom anymore without an audience!

barnaby-bear

amalis wrote: »

Hi,
i started to realise that now I look much worse than i did before i married. We are married for 2 years, no children. My usual day looks like this: come from work, cook, then my husband comes, we eat, i clean plates (no diswasher yet, and none is planned during the coming year), then again I clean something at home (ahh, there is always something to clean), then watch movie with my husband (even if i dont want to, he considers it is the only time we got to spend together) and then already it is time to sleep. I catastrophically dont have time for myself, for my beauty routine. I am quite a high maintenance (what to do, I am not gifted with natural beauty). I dont have time to go to massages, to go to sunbed, my nails are not done for 1 year.. I am quite good in making nails myself, but I dont have time! Please tell me how do married woman find time fro their beauty routines or I am not organized?

Ummm - cooking/cleaning for 2 is as easy as it gets - couple of kiddies down the line - the film will be a rare treat and you'll be doing all the rest plus dealing with more bodily fluids of odd colous than you can name - with baby sick down your back/in your hair - doing it one handed whilst trying to hold a screaming baby and stop a deranged toddler from helping/opening a baby gate and climb up the oven....

choccymoose

I have been maried 10 years, have two children 4 and 7, 2 step children 15 and 19 (part week with us) and both me and Oh work full time, I tutor at least one evening a week and am just finishing my degree that I have been doing via the OU, OH commutes 2 hrs to work and back daily and is undertaking an MBA in addition to his work. I also volunteer with the beavers one night a week.

In my job I have to look presentable so have an easy to manage hairstyle that can be straightened if i have time or worn naturally wavy if only have couple of minutes, always have short neat natural nails, and keep make up to a bare minimum. We share the chores, OH cooks more than me during the week I cook at weekends, kids have school dinners but always eat as a family at the weekends. Would love cleaner, but can't afford it so we all muck in.

My time, well I spend one evening a month with a group of girlfriends, another evening a month with another set of girlfriends, Have a soak in the bath most nights to chill, like others have said thats my time as is my 30 minutes reading before I go to sleep, whether its for study or pleasure. Our lives do take a lot of organising but its worth it. I'm happy, OH is happy and all the kids are happy!

There are day's i think back to when it was just the two of us and how much time I could waste away without realising, those were the days!

galvanizersbaby

barnaby-bear wrote: »

Ummm - cooking/cleaning for 2 is as easy as it gets - couple of kiddies down the line - the film will be a rare treat and you'll be doing all the rest plus dealing with more bodily fluids of odd colous than you can name - with baby sick down your back/in your hair - doing it one handed whilst trying to hold a screaming baby and stop a deranged toddler from helping/opening a baby gate and climb up the oven....

:rotfl::rotfl:this crossed my mind at first too when I read the OP's opening post

However reading down the thread it seems she has plenty of good advice to maximise her me time

amalis

Thx to all who gave me good and frinedly advises.
As for my language, it is true i am not from UK originally, but from Europe. So nothing to do with the culture.

pinkshoes

amalis wrote: »

Thx to all who gave me good and frinedly advises.
As for my language, it is true i am not from UK originally, but from Europe. So nothing to do with the culture.

But in modern day society, no woman with self respect would tolerate a lazy husband.

A stay at home mum can perhaps be expected to do all the cooking and cleaning, but when you both work, chores should be split equally.