How do you find a time for yourself?

Penny-Pincher!!

DELEGATE!!!!

What about a slow cooker? Either get OH to cook a few times a week or let him pay for a take-away....he will soon help out if he knows he has to pay! The same with a cleaner....asthmatic....hahahahahhahahaha!....what an excuse!

More fool you for putting up with it!....sorry!

PP
xx

Katie-Kat-Kins

Didn't you know what he was like before you married? Or has he changed since?

I think this is a classic example of why living together for a while before marriage is a good idea, you don't really know someone until you have lived with them and you need to know whether you can live a compatible life.

Emmzi

hoovering - buy a roomba
dishes - buy a dishwasher
cooking - get a stack of home delivery menus :-) or a GIANT freezer and do a huge cook once a month (4 chillies, 4 lasagne, few casseroles, couple of flans, sauce for spag bol)

Are you happy in your marriage otherwise?

amalis

i feel that this discussion is already far away from the initial topic. Some comments about me or my husband I found really offensive. I did not tell what are we doing for living or what is our financial situation and some of you already made far going conclusions about my IQ.
Yes, we do have some small issues about home work, but there is a reason the way we run the house like this. All I asked is how it is possible to find time having such a schedule. Only few answers were helpfull.

Fonz_2

amalis wrote: »

i feel that this discussion is already far away from the initial topic. Some comments about me or my husband I found really offensive. I did not tell what are we doing for living or what is our financial situation and some of you already made far going conclusions about my IQ.
Yes, we do have some small issues about home work, but there is a reason the way we run the house like this. All I asked is how it is possible to find time having such a schedule. Only few answers were helpfull.

In all fairness, this is an open forum so if you post details of a situation which most people would find remarkable you're going to get some comments

juliescot

amalis wrote: »

i feel that this discussion is already far away from the initial topic. Some comments about me or my husband I found really offensive. I did not tell what are we doing for living or what is our financial situation and some of you already made far going conclusions about my IQ.
Yes, we do have some small issues about home work, but there is a reason the way we run the house like this. All I asked is how it is possible to find time having such a schedule. Only few answers were helpfull.

Married people, not just women, find time for themselves by working together, sharing things and knowing when to give each other some breathing room.

Try it with your husband, as if you continue they way you are going I cannot see how you will find time for yourself.

Katie-Kat-Kins

We are trying to help, the way you find time to look after yourself is by organising the rest of your life to give yourself spare time. But it is difficult to advise fully without knowing the facts, if there is a reason you have to do all the housework then tell us and we might be able to make suggestions to help, like getting a HEPA vacuum cleaner for DH's asthma. Like taking turns to decide what you do in the evening.

I really sympathise, I don't get home from work until gone seven and often feel like all I have time to do is work, commute, cook and sleep. I often want to spend time with DH rather than lock myself up in the bathroom, tweezing bleaching, exfoliating etc, but I also want to look good. It is about striking a balance and being efficient. Hence I file buff and polish my nails in front of the tv with DH as otherwise they would never get done. He complains about the smells and things occasionally but I tell him how much a professional manicure would cost and he shuts up! I wouldn't try facial bleaching or bikini line depilation in front of the tv though! That is behind closed doors stuff!!!

Keeping_Motivated

Does your husband know that you are struggling to find time for yourself and that is affecting how you feel?

If he doesn't then maybe you need to sit down and talk to him. Maybe you don't mind doing all the cleaning and cooking but if he then insists you sit down and watch a DVD with him how does he think you can get over this feeling/problem?

Good luck

amalis

Fonz wrote: »

In all fairness, this is an open forum so if you post details of a situation which most people would find remarkable you're going to get some comments

of course I expected comments and that is why I started this topic, but some of those comments I found inappropriate and really offensive thats why I interfered.

newcook

Do you spend every evening with your hubby?!? If you do then tell him at least twice a week that he can watch any film he pleases as you are going to have a bubblebath and a glass or 2 of wine and a good book!!!!!

As for him not washing up, either buy the disposable plates or tell him he can take you out for dinner or get a takeaway as you don’t feel like cooking!!!