Boyfriend been using my credit card

geri1965_2

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

It's bit of a worry that he's not signing-on any longer. Do you know why that might be?

Because they were going to send him on a course, and he didn't want to go.

I'm pretty sure his mum will give me the money, they have plenty (although she has just forked out thousands for his sister's wedding, so the timing might not be great).

Pssst

OMG..the tales on here...are some women attracted to losers?

Zara33

geri I wouldn't let this chap back into your life again, he has problems that need fixing, maybe when he is better you can have a relationship but until that time i would leave him with his mum.

maggied_2

Oh my word are you going out with my ex husband?
He was dreadful with money, liked a drink or three and I booted him out when I discovered he'd used my credit card to withdraw cash - realised that's how my life would always be and got rid. He did actually have a job and earned about the same as me but it was all gone by about the third of every month.
I'm sorry to hear about what he's done. If the relationship is good in every other way then you may be able to work it out but what he's done is very devious - in a relationship you're supposed to look after each other - I realised it was never going to be coming back in my direction!
Good luck xx

BitterAndTwisted

geri1965 wrote: »

Because they were going to send him on a course, and he didn't want to go.

That's nice, but what was he proposing to pay the rent, bills and house-keeping with?

brownbabygirl

Geri, RUN!!!!!!!!!

DVardysShadow

geri1965 wrote: »

Yeah, I think you are right. I've told him that when he goes to his mum's tomorrow to get the money, he is not coming back unless he has a job.

Not a good idea. Even if the ultimatum motivates him, it won't last. Kick him out and if he works out for himself that he has to get a job, then only consider taking him back if he brings you the money and you can check out if he has paid his mum back. It has to come from him, otherwise you are wasting your time.

I seem to attract unemployed losers - my last two relationships were with people who didn't have jobs, both of whom now have jobs and my OH had a job when I met him - I thought he was different.

What is about me that people think they can just sponge off me and I will put up with it?

Be less keen to have a bloke. And have a look at their relationships with their mothers. If you are thinking there is a pattern emerging with the blokes you find, you'll find a pattern in their relationships with their mothers. Then [horrible thought], work out what it is about you which makes tehm leave their mothers for you.

geri1965_2

I can't see any similarities between them and their relationships with their mothers though.

Maz

How long have you been together and how old is he? If not careful, this could be the pattern for your life if you decide to stay with him.

geri1965_2

Maz wrote: »

How long have you been together and how old is he? If not careful, this could be the pattern for your life if you decide to stay with him.

6 years, I am 43 and he is 37.