MIL - expects us to pay for everything

zzzLazyDaisy

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Also, like I said, once or twice, we've come home and shes been passed out of the settee. And then unable to stand up because shes drunk so much.

Thats not cool when looking after a 5-yr old....[/QUOTE]

That's an understatement. It is neglect. Get a babysitter that you can rely on, and pay the going rate.

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zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

That's an understatement. It is neglect. Get a babysitter that you can rely on, and pay the going rate.

Wife has had serious words with her about this last time it happened. I'm hoping shes going to listen this time. To be fair, we went to the cinema this weekend and she was OK (well, ok 4-5 bottles ;-) ).

Wha-hey - 1000th post BTW !!!!!!!!

Pee

I'm not against people drinking, but drinking until you can't stand with a five year old!!!

I'd be inclined to go with the alcohol ban in the house - blame it on healthy living - and then let her have some beer with a lunch out. Is that a workable compromise? You and your wife will both need to agree to it as it will maybe sound better coming from your wife. (Being her mother.)

liney

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Also, like I said, once or twice, we've come home and shes been passed out of the settee. And then unable to stand up because shes drunk so much.

Thats not cool when looking after a 5-yr old....[/QUOTE]

But you let it happen twice! And probably supplied the beer in the first place? If she's babysitting then just leave her 4 in the fridge, and stick the rest out of the way.

Ultimately, you are chosing to go out to eat, and you are chosing to buy her expensive beer. There are many brands of beer that are cheaper than Stella, but aren't "the cheap stuff".

nikkit72

[quote=[Deleted User];24764753]She just comes out straight and says dont buy the cheap stuff I dont like it !!![/QUOTE]


if you really have to buy it in , tell her its cheap stuff or nothing,
Don't take her out for meals eat in,
Don't ask her to babysit and leave alcohol in the house,
OMG , you are moaning about her never offering anything towards her coming to yours, don't invite her then, i had a problem where my mother was always over my house because she was lonely , in the end , i put my foot down and told her it was to much i need my space, yes it upset her, yes she did not speak to me for a while , but in the end i am her daughter i have her grandkids, it all blew over , we are happier than ever and see her twice a week now.

Put your foot down , tell her how you feel , STOP buying her alcohol , ( think of her health) , stop taking her out to eat and drink, stop asking her to babysit !!!

Bennifred

You leave your five-year-old with someone you can't trust not to get drunk?!:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:
:mad: I think the cost should be the least of your concerns:mad:

mini

I am with the mortified group that you leave your son with somone who passes out that is madness.

I wouldn't be buying beer & paying for 3 meals in one weekend if I had debts, serious debts you said, pack up a picnic and head somewhere, maybe one meal out? Buy her some cinema vouchers to say thank you for babysitting but don't leave her with alcohol.

Errata

Reading through the OP's posts, it looks like MIL has a significant drink problem. More fool him for leaving his 5 year old with someone like that. Hope his fire insurance is up to date and he's got his story ready for social services.

bonty44

[quote=[Deleted User];24765323]Wife has had serious words with her about this last time it happened. I'm hoping shes going to listen this time. To be fair, we went to the cinema this weekend and she was OK (well, ok 4-5 bottles ;-) ).[/QUOTE]Right, let's look at this another way. The girl next door is a Nursery Nurse and she babysits for me once a month, I pay her £5 an hour and leave out food and drink. I am really happy with the way she looks after my children and they really like her too.

If I had ANY suspicion she drank ANY alcohol whilst looking after them, though, she would be straight out of the door. Just because she is my neighbour does not mean I would tolerate this unsafe behaviour. Just because this is your MIL, does not mean it is in anyway more acceptable for her to drink and be in charge of your son.

I am sure you wouldn't employ a member of staff who drinks on the job.

miserly_mum

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Also, like I said, once or twice, we've come home and shes been passed out of the settee. And then unable to stand up because shes drunk so much.

Thats not cool when looking after a 5-yr old....[/QUOTE]

Both my late Mum and late ex Mum-in-law liked their drink a bit too much and prefered it when someone else was buying it, so I can really identify with the OP on that one. Mind you they were both quite amusing when !!!!ed so I didn't mind too much.

In my Mum's defence she would drink ANYTHING as long as it was free :beer: She definately wasn't brand specific :rotfl:

However if they were babysitting it was definately a dry house on those nights. If i'd have come home to one of them passed out on the sofa while looking after my children i'd have cracked up.

20 years on nothing has changed. When my in-laws-to be come to visit us now we always end up paying for everything as well. Thankfully it's only once every couple of months but we feed them twice and keep 3 of them up in booze all day.