Wife had to take time off work to care for sick Daughter

inspector_monkfish

bestpud wrote: »

That is why she said 'hopefully'! :rolleyes:

Have you read back through your posts?

You were out of order throwing insults and you need to remember you are not the only person who is having a tough time!

What ONW said is fact, simple as, and not liking the facts does not give you the right to be rude!

doesn't matter that she added 'hopefully' - she is still not in a position to make such a dramatic statement

think i am well within my rights, seeing how some have decided to pass judgement

feelinggood_2

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

doesn't matter that she added 'hopefully' - she is still not in a position to make such a dramatic statement

think i am well within my rights, seeing how some have decided to pass judgement

I don't see what is judgemental about stating facts. If someone is not sick, but has a sick note, then something isn't right

bestpud

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

doesn't matter that she added 'hopefully' - she is still not in a position to make such a dramatic statement

think i am well within my rights, seeing how some have decided to pass judgement

It's never right to insult people! :rolleyes:

Less so when they have neither judged or insulted you!

inspector_monkfish

feelinggood wrote: »

I don't see what is judgemental about stating facts. If someone is not sick, but has a sick note, then something isn't right

some were passing judgement over us receiving something we dont seem to be entitled to. hardly our fault.

some were saying that if daughter is well enough to go to school, she is well enough to be left with a childminder, which we isn't.

thorsoak

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

as mentioned earlier in the thread, i am not in a position to do that

Why not? Surely your wife's work is as valuable as yours, and your rights as a parent are no less than your wife's.

Or is it that you would not be paid?

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Macro wrote: »

That certainly isn't my experience of working for a public sector organisation. Sick leave is subject to sanction after three incidences or seven working days I think. Carers leave amounts to up to four days per year, no more than a single day at a time.

My wifes a nurse and this is what she is subject to. After three occurences, your on stage 1 sickness review. and it escaltes if you have any more sick.

Personally, I think its the wrong way to do things. In the past, my wife has been forced to go into work ill because she over the sickness limit which is never right for someone whos looking after ill people. Also, a few years ago she broke a bone in her hand on a faulty swing door in the hospital -yep, this is one sickness too.

Worse still - one of her colleagues was subject to sickness review after taking time off with depression following the death of her mother. Nice one, eh?

inspector_monkfish

thorsoak wrote: »

Why not? Surely your wife's work is as valuable as yours, and your rights as a parent are no less than your wife's.

Or is it that you would not be paid?

As i have said in an earlier post, i work for japanese, and they have always seen it as the woman's job to care for family. As outdated and sexist as that seems, that is the way it has always been here, ntg i can do about that. Not my beliefs at all. Plus, as the main breadwinner it would severly leave us short, as i would not be paid at all either.

inspector_monkfish

[quote=[Deleted User];24785179]My wifes a nurse and this is what she is subject to. After three occurences, your on stage 1 sickness review. and it escaltes if you have any more sick.

Personally, I think its the wrong way to do things. In the past, my wife has been forced to go into work ill because she over the sickness limit which is never right for someone whos looking after ill people. Also, a few years ago she broke a bone in her hand on a faulty swing door in the hospital -yep, this is one sickness too.

Worse still - one of her colleagues was subject to sickness review after taking time off with depression following the death of her mother. Nice one, eh?[/QUOTE]

thats truly shocking

feelinggood_2

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

some were passing judgement over us receiving something we dont seem to be entitled to. hardly our fault.

some were saying that if daughter is well enough to go to school, she is well enough to be left with a childminder, which we isn't.

Well, you have the choice to not use the sick note, don't you?

I also think it is a reasonable thing, to assume that your daughter would be well enough to go to a childminder. In many cases, this would be true. Have you spoken to your childminder about this? Perhaps she might be willing/able to help out.

thorsoak

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

As i have said in an earlier post, i work for japanese, and they have always seen it as the woman's job to care for family. As outdated and sexist as that seems, that is the way it has always been here, ntg i can do about that. Not my beliefs at all. Plus, as the main breadwinner it would severly leave us short, as i would not be paid at all either.

Japanese company or not, they still have to comply with the law of the land regarding time off to care for young children (and you say your daughter is just 5).

It has been my experienced that once the HR department of any company is reminded of its obligations to its employees as defined by law that they do comply - Japanese in particular are very mindful of being on the right side of the law!