Wife had to take time off work to care for sick Daughter

inspector_monkfish

AsknAnswer wrote: »

She may be able to get unpaid time off but there is no law which allows for this unless the dependent is under the age of 6, or under the age of 18 and disabled. Then the maximum is 13 weeks parental leave.

She has no right whatsoever to paid time off to care for a dependent, regardless of the illness, no matter how harsh that may seem. There simply is no law which allows for it.

The GP also has no right to sign her off to care for someone else, as the law is clear on this, although he can write a letter of support to the employer explaining the situation and advising time off. Even if she is signed off sick herself, it will be on a certificate which is known as a "Med 3". Despite common belief, an employer does not have to accept this. This sick certificate is purely for purposes of benefits/SSP and is advisory - it does not entitle someone to the time off and an employer is legally within his or her rights to insist the employee attends work.

Sorry if it's not what you want to hear but it is the law that currently surrounds the situation.

thank-you for a straight forward answer, rather than an underhanded snidey one!

we totally appreciate that her employer is being very good to her, and i guess it goes to show that they do really value her in her job, and want do their best to help her and keep her

i think you are quite right, the docs letter is probably more one of support, and simply advising time off, which the school have so far obliged. Which has so far only been a few weeks at the end of last term.

inspector_monkfish

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Unfortunately, yet more examples of misuse of a GP's powers.

you really are quite nasty aren't you

inspector_monkfish

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

If its the case of taking time off to care for a dependent i think she can ask for flexible working which might help

more info here
http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/index/life/employment/basic_rights_at_work.htm#Time_off_work

thank-you
that is the route she will probably go down - working during the hours our daughter is back in school and hoping that our daughter can gradually up her hours, and my wife will up hers accordingly

inspector_monkfish

AsknAnswer wrote: »

What a broad generalisation!! Some public servants cannot take more than 9 days sick a year - if they do they are at risk of having their employment terminated, and it does happen.

I don't think anyone has an issue with the lady taking time to care for her child - and rightly so. People are simply pointing out what rights (or lack thereof) she has in the eyes of the law. This should really be in the employment forum as it's not benefit related really.

i did start it off in there, but only got 3 replies so i started a new one here and got 3 pages !!

sp1987

I cannot help with regards to your wife but did not want to read and not reply.

Best wishes for the recovery of your lovely daughter. It is good to know that the school is able to care for her when she is able to be there, that must be a comfort to you both :T

Pass on a hug!

MrsE_2

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

thanks, totally realise that.
she is going into to see them tomorrow, to see what the best thing to do for all involved is.

its all very frustrating, as she wants to go back, but is not in a position to do so, until our daughter is ready to go back to full time.

it does seem to help that the school value her is a top member of staff, so really don't want to lose her

Can your wife not do a phased return?

Oldernotwiser

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

you really are quite nasty aren't you

What is nasty about saying that professional people shouldn't misuse their powers, particularly when it goes against the ethical guidelines of their own professional body! These guidelines are there to protect both individuals and society and should be adhered to, even if it doesn't suit your particular situation.

As your wife seems to work in education, I'll take your other comment as a compliment!

inspector_monkfish

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

What is nasty about saying that professional people shouldn't misuse their powers, particularly when it goes against the ethical guidelines of their own professional body! These guidelines are there to protect both individuals and society and should be adhered to, even if it doesn't suit your particular situation.

As your wife seems to work in education, I'll take your other comment as a compliment!

not in education the way i imagine you were....

you appear to be quite a heartless being, with no idea what it can possibly be like to be put in our situation, or the situations the other poster mentioned

inspector_monkfish

MrsE wrote: »

Can your wife not do a phased return?

that will probably be the case

fishingcinema

To the op and his wife
i hope that your little girl is doing well and makes a full recovery soon

as for all the harsh, heartless, just damn right nasty replies put yourself in the op familys shoes for a moment they are obveiously a working family that has had there little girl ill and needeing an op im sure they did not want this to happen.
Its not exactly if his wife sat there one nigh and said oh i cant be ar*ed to work anymore but how can i get paid full wages and not work i know daughter fall in need an op

as op pointed out they already use child care but obveiously they feel that they would rather care for there daughter whist she is still recovering wich she obveiously is by only being able to return to school part time

i think the whole situiation has probably been a very stressful time for the whole family and they probably want nothing more than for there lives to return to normality but things get thrown at you and you have to deal with them as best you can im sure they did not think they would come on here for advice only to be moaned at
come on people have a heart

drum roll the abuse at me ................................................................