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Wife had to take time off work to care for sick Daughter
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Guys, stop having a go at my mate!
im, glad to hear that your daughter is getting better.
Strictly speaking, the GP should not have signed off your wife unless she was unwell, but the fact is that he has, so that is not really up for debate.
Most public sector employers have a return to work policy that facilitates a graduated return, so the employee can build up back to full time. This (at least in my case) was done on full pay. It may be worth asking for a copy of the sickness absence policy to see if this option is available.
Good luck! Gone ... or have I?0 -
Why does your wife not return to work and you arrange child care for your daughter for the days she cannot go to school? After all this is what millions of working parents do all the time. If your daughter is well enough to go to school albeit only a few days a week then I would think she is well enough for a childminder.0
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What an idiot!
This woman is caring for a sick child.
The doctor couldve put stress related absence on her sicknote and that wouldve stayed correct.
but the doctor didnt put that, sorry but i do not see why what oldernot wisers put is wrong.
surely a sick note is just that( for someone who is too ill to work), and this childs mother is not sick is she ? the way i read it , it is the child who is unwell.
As much as i can sympathise with the OP surely this is what happens when you have kids,in situations like this you either have to stop working/ unpaid leave or find alternative arrangements for someone to step in when needed.0 -
inspector_monkfish wrote: »thanks, totally realise that.
she is going into to see them tomorrow, to see what the best thing to do for all involved is.
That is absolutely the best bet.
Perhaps a gradual return to work over a period of a couple of weeks would be possible?
It may sound a silly question (sorry I don't know about teaching staff and holiday regulations etc) but does she have any annnual leave that she can apply to the first couple of weeks of Sept? That way, she obviously would get fully paid.
Most employers will understand that she's doing her best to get back asap. If there is no other option, then at least she has the opportunity to temporarily go part time.
It may not sound ideal to you as she's going to be on reduced pay, but please believe me, she's very fortunate to have an employer who values her enough to allow this."One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
That is absolutely the best bet.
Perhaps a gradual return to work over a period of a couple of weeks would be possible?
It may sound a silly question (sorry I don't know about teaching staff and holiday regulations etc) but does she have any annnual leave that she can apply to the first couple of weeks of Sept? That way, she obviously would get fully paid.
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If teaching staff got annual leave as well as 13 weeks holiday, I might still be in the profession!0 -
What an idiot!
This woman is caring for a sick child.
The doctor couldve put stress related absence on her sicknote and that wouldve stayed correct.
If he'd put this when it wasn't true then that would be equally unethical!
I'm not unsympathetic to the OP's situation and obviously hope his daughter gets better, but I do feel strongly about the misuse of medical certificates.0 -
inspector_monkfish wrote: »Thank-you!!!
Believe me, its a very stressful time indeed.
To be fair, if you can get away with it like this, then you're lucky and good for you. I think you've got a decent doctor and employer though...0 -
Guys, stop having a go at my mate!
im, glad to hear that your daughter is getting better.
Strictly speaking, the GP should not have signed off your wife unless she was unwell, but the fact is that he has, so that is not really up for debate.
Most public sector employers have a return to work policy that facilitates a graduated return, so the employee can build up back to full time. This (at least in my case) was done on full pay. It may be worth asking for a copy of the sickness absence policy to see if this option is available.
Good luck!
I was off sick for a few months a few years ago, then when I came back it was a graduated return, starting with a few days a week. I was lucky enough to get full pay during my illness and during my return.0 -
[quote=[Deleted User];24760191]I was off sick for a few months a few years ago, then when I came back it was a graduated return, starting with a few days a week. I was lucky enough to get full pay during my illness and during my return.[/QUOTE]
But it was you that was sick, not your daughter. The same happened to me when i was off for a while with hepatitis. I was however fully entitled to 6 months full pay plus 6 months half pay.
When my husband was very ill pre and post bypass surgery I was entitled to Carers leave of up to 2 weeks at my line managers discretion.
I do wonder how many other staff at the school take advantage of such extremely lax sickness policies. It sounds as if your wife is an unqualified member of staff that can perhaps be 'covered' for rather than having to employ a supply teacher. These TA or whatever posts are very highly sought after and I am sure there would be no difficulty recruiting into the position if your wife is unable to fulfil her obligations. Hopefully no one will tell the Education Authority what is going on with staff being paid sick pay when they are not sick. This is fraud.0 -
krisskross wrote: »But it was you that was sick, not your daughter. The same happened to me when i was off for a while with hepatitis. I was however fully entitled to 6 months full pay plus 6 months half pay.
When my husband was very ill pre and post bypass surgery I was entitled to Carers leave of up to 2 weeks at my line managers discretion.
Exactly. Which is why the OP is lucky to have got what they have so far....0
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