Wife had to take time off work to care for sick Daughter

inspector_monkfish

crutches wrote: »

perhaps the GP felt it was the best way to confirm the childs sickness?
It does seem bvery generous of the employer.
Glad she is improving bless her.How worrying for you all.

Well originally it was only a few weeks at the end of last term that she was going to be off. Its just stretched on alot longer than everyone thought due to further complications with our daughters health since the operation.

One of the advantages of working in a school is that my wife was always going to be off over the summer regardless. We hoped that would be long enough for our Daughter to recover, but that hasn't quite been the case.

Thankyou for your concern and kind words. (unlike a few on here!)

inspector_monkfish

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Yet another example of GPs misusing the medical certificate system; it really should be tightened up!

you know what. i really hope that you never find yourself in this predicament some day soon.

your username seems very apt.

Tiddlywinks

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

you know what. i really hope that you never find yourself in this predicament some day soon.

your username seems very apt.

But the poster was only commenting on the seeming increase in doctors prepared to issue "sick notes" to those who are actually not sick. A services which I also take issue with.

I am sorry that your daughter needs care BUT your wife is not sick so paid sick leave is not appropriate.

Also, you cannot expect an employer (even a public sector one) to fund your child care needs. As I have asked in your other thread, what planning did you undertake in the long summer break? There was surely enough time to consider this matter further then before this becoming urgent now?

Are you not able to take leave yourself?

How about unpaid special leave - most public sector organisations would agree a period of unpaid leave for family care.

Hope you get it sorted.

inspector_monkfish

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

But the poster was only commenting on the seeming increase in doctors prepared to issue "sick notes" to those who are actually not sick. A services which I also take issue with.

I am sorry that your daughter needs care BUT your wife is not sick so paid sick leave is not appropriate.

Also, you cannot expect an employer (even a public sector one) to fund your child care needs. As I have asked in your other thread, what planning did you undertake in the long summer break? There was surely enough time to consider this matter further then before this becoming urgent now?

Are you not able to take leave yourself?

How about unpaid special leave - most public sector organisations would agree a period of unpaid leave for family care.

Hope you get it sorted.

As i said, we have only just discovered that she is only being allowed back 2 mornings to start with. We had hoped she would be allowed full time, so this has just been sprung on us, so we have had no time to make other arrangements. Although with daughters condition, I'm not entirely sure what we could arrange to enable my wife to go back to work.

No, I don't expect our care needs to be funded continuously, which is why i am asking advice on this matter. I wasn't expecting snidey remarks

I cannot take time off. My employer will not allow it. I work for a Japanese company, and believe it or not, as sexist and outdated as it sounds, its their belief that it is the wife's place to care for kids!

[Deleted User]

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

ok, i understand that
but the Doctor has actually signed her off to 'care for a sick child'

Interested to see whats on the doctors sick note....

Surely, you can only be classed as unfit for work if you're ill not someone else?

Oldernotwiser

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

you know what. i really hope that you never find yourself in this predicament some day soon.

your username seems very apt.

I'm sorry that you don't like my comment but I stand by it. Your wife is not sick, your doctor has no right to give her a medical certificate and your wife should not be claiming sick leave. Giving sick notes in this way is against GMC ethical guidelines and is an abuse of the GP's powers.

From your last comment it appears that you're using the good nature of the UK, publically funded education system to fund your childcare because your privately owned, Japanese company won't do so. This may seem right to you, but some of us have different opinions.

inspector_monkfish

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I'm sorry that you don't like my comment but I stand by it. Your wife is not sick, your doctor has no right to give her a medical certificate and your wife should not be claiming sick leave. Giving sick notes in this way is against GMC ethical guidelines and is an abuse of the GP's powers.

From your last comment it appears that you're using the good nature of the UK, publically funded education system to fund your childcare because your privately owned, Japanese company won't do so. This may seem right to you, but some of us have different opinions.

ok, you seem to have all the opinions.

what do you suggest we do for the best?

woody01

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Yet another example of GPs misusing the medical certificate system; it really should be tightened up!

What an idiot!
This woman is caring for a sick child.

The doctor couldve put stress related absence on her sicknote and that wouldve stayed correct.

inspector_monkfish

woody01 wrote: »

What an idiot!
This woman is caring for a sick child.

The doctor couldve put stress related absence on her sicknote and that wouldve stayed correct.

Thank-you!!!

Believe me, its a very stressful time indeed.

Bobl

woody01 wrote: »

What an idiot!
This woman is caring for a sick child.

The doctor couldve put stress related absence on her sicknote and that wouldve stayed correct.

Agreed, and I hope her condition improves rapidly, however that does not excuse a doctor for falsifying a sick note, and to put stress would be wrong because the mother would not be capable of looking after child.

To the OP - we understand it is difficult, but you have been given the only advice possible; try to get agreement from her employer about returning to work gradually as your DD gets better, but in the meantime she will have to take unpaid leave.