Bad husband!

BritRael

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...BUT - you are making as much assumptions about Clintons as anyone else....

I didn't make any assumption; I said the only thing we know for sure is that they are still together...

Again, I only brought them into the debate to show that anything can be worked through. Unlike several of the recommendations on here of a knee-jerk reaction break-up.

I do not condone what the husband has done, but it cannot be undone. Its up to them both to decide whether the relationship is worth saving and move on. But lets face it, if every relationship split after the first infidelity there would not be many married couples left in the world.

jak

I have asked him to stay at his friends house for no while I decide what to do. He says he's sorry and wants me back but i'm not making any decisions until i'm sure about what to do. Im so thankfull for all the help and support I have had from everyone on this forum. Thank you
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jak

I will post again tomorrow if I can. We are meeting for a chat at 2.
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jak

Im so so sad. He's the only person I ever trusted 100%.

jak

Oh God, I just feel devastated. I don't know what to do fro the best. I want to kill him.

ceebeeby

Oh hugs hun! What an effin a*s* to treat you like this!

How long you bin married?

dmg24

Don't feel that you have to make any decisions straightaway jak, you have every right to make him wait for as long as you need.

Take care, try to get some rest if you can x

pendulum

When people "meet for a chat" so soon after a breakup and whilst they are still badly hurting it is almost always to repair the relationship to repair the hurt. My prediction is you'll patch things up and get back together tomorrow.

Men are mostly the same in that they can always be tempted to sleep around a bit, it's how we are. Try and not take it too personally. When women cheat, they often place the blame on their partner by saying that if he had been meeting her needs, then she wouldn't have gone elsewhere. It works both ways. I'll leave you with that thought.

Good luck and don't kill him.

jak

Been married for 2 years tomorrow. Been together for 5 years tomorrow all together. I am in shock. Horrid x

MrsTinks

OK without making excuses for him but you know it's possible for blokes to get post natal depression too right? Having a baby together is a tough thing to do, planned or not. We have a gorgeous beautiful baby daughter and I'd be lying if I said we hadn't changed. We've always been very good at talking to each other though and hopefully will continue to do so...
I'm not saying what he's done is right or wrong. That he's not cheated or that he has. Because saying EITHER would be jumping to conclusions and not fair on him or the OP.
I've shared my bed with several blokes and by that I don't mean I've had a physical relationship with them, but I have no problem with sharing my bed with someone - especially if they have their jammies on LOL I used to go and stay at a mates. We'd get drunk, have a gorgeous meal and a general laugh and then totter off to the same bed (it was that or I'd have had to sleep in his kids bunk beds... they lived with their mum btw before anyone says anything!) and nothing untowards ever happened. We were just mates and I used to jokingly call him my straight gay mate
Now I'm not saying that it would be right for OPs hubby to do this bearing in mind he has a wife and child, but just that it's not a given that he's slept with anyone or even wants to.
Even if he has then it is possible that there is more to the story - even if it's only from his side. Yes it's tough on us ladies to have a child - and I'm only at the 14 weeks stage! But it's a huge upheaval for the blokes too and with the credit crunch and increased pressure on him to provide and pay all the bills etc etc well... some blokes crack... Speak to him, try to avoid the blame game - at least if you want to have any hope of getting to the bottom of what has happened and then decide on what you want and if there is a future for you as a couple...
Kneejerk reactions are usually a bad idea so whatever happens tell him you need to think about things before you decide on what you want to do - be it take him back or file for divorce.