Bad husband!

Bettyboop

misgrace wrote: »

Jak, I have only come across this thread, and my heart goes out to you. Just take time to think and get your head together, I do believe that everyone deserves a second chance, and if the second chance dont work, at least you have tried and given that person a second chance.
I hope it works out for you.

Bettyboop, You too are suffering, and my heart goes out to you too.
Am not taking anything away from Jak, but I get the impression that you have been through the mill and back again, but you still have the compassion to offer some support to Jak.

The only words I can offer, and I talk from experience, is that no one can hurt you any more worse than you have already been hurt.

My first husband did things that you only read about in the papers, or you see in a film,but you will get stronger, and you will survive.
You have too, if you have kids, like I had kids, they were the ones who made me fight.
I would have welcomed a 3 legged stool and a strong rope, but i had kids, and I was thier mother, the strong one, the one they looked up too.
And even though I was in pieces, they never saw it.

Years later, I have two fantastic strong kids, never given me any trouble, and have made something of thier lives because I was strong in front of them, and kids learn from thier parents.

So to Jak and bettyboop, even though you think your in a deep dark tunnel, there is light at the end, I am proof of that.

Keep strong, keep positive, things can only get better.

You sound very strong and more level headed than me. I wish I was like that. Doing my best to be stronger and hide the tears from the little ones...

Lost2

If a partner goes off with someone else, then latest face it there is something wrong. What you have to ask yourself is do you want to waist anymore of your time with this man or would you be better off with just your son. Sometimes the best thing for your children is a separation as they see whats going on between you both and what happens to one or the other partner.

As I have said ask yourself what do I want to do. Only you can answer that question.

misgrace

Bettyboop wrote: »

You sound very strong and more level headed than me. I wish I was like that. Doing my best to be stronger and hide the tears from the little ones...

Bettyboop, I wasnt strong initially, But I got the strength from somewhere, and I needed all the help I could get.
I had no one to turn too, doors were shut in my face, I was fighting a battle that the general outcome was I would lose, but I didnt.:D

Its too long a story to go into, but it would make an onion cry lol, sorry for the joke, but my story was quite a sad one,and made the papers but that was years ago, and I came out of it a lot more stronger.

You will too, but different people need different lengths of time.

The good thing about this site, and specially this section, is that there is so many on here who has been through similar, or have friends or family have been through similar and can offer lots of support, when it was happening to me, there was nothing like this, you were on your own, but here, there is always someone who will listen and support you.

You will get stronger, trust me, your kids will give you the strength.

I hope things work out for you.

Bettyboop

misgrace wrote: »

Bettyboop, I wasnt strong initially, But I got the strength from somewhere, and I needed all the help I could get.
I had no one to turn too, doors were shut in my face, I was fighting a battle that the general outcome was I would lose, but I didnt.:D

Its too long a story to go into, but it would make an onion cry lol, sorry for the joke, but my story was quite a sad one,and made the papers but that was years ago, and I came out of it a lot more stronger.

You will too, but different people need different lengths of time.

The good thing about this site, and specially this section, is that there is so many on here who has been through similar, or have friends or family have been through similar and can offer lots of support, when it was happening to me, there was nothing like this, you were on your own, but here, there is always someone who will listen and support you.

You will get stronger, trust me, your kids will give you the strength.

I hope things work out for you.

Thank you for that misgrace. x

jak

Thank you to everyone who has supported me and given their advice. I have told my husband I will consider taking him back but in my heart I am not sure i'll ever be able to get over it. He is moving out in the interim and only time will tell what happens.
He keeps saying how much he loves me but really, I can only think he can't have loved me enough.
In answer to the question of do I know for sure? Yes, he has admitted he spent 2 mights with the same girl and that he has been acting like a single man (whatever that means!!!) since about Dec. last year.
I dont belive he didnt have sex with her and have asked him to go to clinic to be checked..for everything. Nothing like a stick down the end of your d*** to focus the mind...
I have also sent the girl in question an email. I cant put it on here for obvious reasons..but it was my equavilent to a drive by shooting...

consultant31

jak wrote: »

I have also sent the girl in question an email. I cant put it on here for obvious reasons..but it was my equavilent to a drive by shooting...

You're obviously a force to be reckoned with jak - I love the idea of an email which is the equivalent of a drive-by shooting, wow :cool:

All the best for your future, whether it be with husband or not, you'll be fine I'm sure

Bettyboop

jak wrote: »

Thank you to everyone who has supported me and given their advice. I have told my husband I will consider taking him back but in my heart I am not sure i'll ever be able to get over it. He is moving out in the interim and only time will tell what happens.
He keeps saying how much he loves me but really, I can only think he can't have loved me enough.
In answer to the question of do I know for sure? Yes, he has admitted he spent 2 mights with the same girl and that he has been acting like a single man (whatever that means!!!) since about Dec. last year.
I dont belive he didnt have sex with her and have asked him to go to clinic to be checked..for everything. Nothing like a stick down the end of your d*** to focus the mind...
I have also sent the girl in question an email. I cant put it on here for obvious reasons..but it was my equavilent to a drive by shooting...

I wish I had an email address for the wench that woed my husband over... I found her mobile number and I couldn't resist texting her a few words.. I obviously can't put them on here.

jak you are better than her, think of her as the scum of the earth and if she has any dignity in her she will leave you alone and stay well out of your way. I don't know where my husbands wench lives, or her name but if I did I don't know how I would resist rearranging her face.. (I have never hit or hurt anyone), but the rage I have in me... we have a long way to go. Look after yourself. X