Bad husband!

taxi97w

Originally Posted by taxi97w
Some men feel neglected when a new baby is given all the attention.

windswept wrote: »

Only pathetic, inadequate men.

Er no. Neglected men feel neglected- obviously.

If your other half was giving all their attention to work, could I call you pathetic and inadequate?

If a child was being neglected, would you call him/her pathetic and inadequate?

January20

taxi97w wrote: »

Originally Posted by taxi97w
Some men feel neglected when a new baby is given all the attention.




Er no. Neglected men feel neglected- obviously.

If your other half was giving all their attention to work, could I call you pathetic and inadequate?

If a child was being neglected, would you call him/her pathetic and inadequate?

The BIG difference is that the men we are talking about are also fathers and they should understand that a new baby or a toddler needs a lot of attention from parents and in most cases it will mean mostly mothers.

I always wonder about married men (or women) who go to nightclubs without their spouses. I remember from my day of clubbling what went on in there. Perhaps it's just my experience...

dizzybuff

So Sorry hun ,

I am married with a son of a little bit older. Most men are aware things will change , they wont get as much attention , but what attention they do get will be savoured . A 1 year old will disrupt any relationship , libedos wiull change the woman may not feel attractive anymore.

But men with any balls will rise to the occasion and take over when nessesary , they will not seek their pleasures elsewhere because it makes them feel batter .

The fact that he didnt sleep with this girl will make you feel no better .

IMO he may have got guilty thoughts at the last minute and chickened out .. Possibly but doubtfull

How any man or woman can do this , whether its historically renound or not is beyond me , if he wasnt happy he should have left you ( No cioncellation I know ) before he did anything

At the end of the day hun u have to do what is right for you and your son. Although ultimatly it will be your son that suffers if there is a break.. But do whats best .

Belive me the man would not be fertile anymore if he was living with me ...;) .

But I know I will never have a need to do that in my household .

Good luck

K

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BritRael wrote: »

It was simply an example to show that couples can work through anything if they chose to. :rolleyes:

Several comments, like yours highlighted above, are suggesting a break up which (although might be the final outcome) is not a foregone conclusion and is certainly not something to be done lightly or at this early stage.

As for the Clintons, all we do know for sure about them is that they are still together after a well-publicised affair. However, your observations are simply wild assumptions, which may or may not be correct.

I agree partialy with what you say.

BUT - you are making as much assumptions about Clintons as anyone else.

Which goes to another of my suggestions - a guy behaving like this (and Clinton at the time) is loser - either he will put himself together and stop being a loser (so still no loser in her life) or yes - it might end up like that - break up.

Lot of people are able to forgive, but not forget. OP needs to decide.

And in my personal opinion - Clintons are the worse example of family in my eyes. I would touch Bill with a stick myself, god know where he's been. But that is just me.:-))

foreign_correspondent

taxi97w wrote: »

Some men feel neglected when a new baby is given all the attention.

True.

But, I think it is safe to assume that some women, after a baby (not just her baby remember, but their baby), feel knackered, overwhelmed, anxious, out of their depths and unsupported...

To have to worry about whether a grown man feels 'neglected' whilst dealing with being a new mum too, suggests that a) instead of helping his partner raise their child as a team he is focussing on his own needs b) that he is competing with his own child for attention, and c) is acting like a child himself....

However, we all have childish moments, I appreciate that, I know I have mine - but the thing an adult does is rationalise this, deal with it, and accept their own shortcomings for what they are...

... not start going out clubbing, leaving his partner at home, holding the baby, (quite literally) and worrying that he is dead in a ditch, whilst he is off in some other woman's bed! That is the behaviour of a spoilt and selfish child, not a responsible and considerate adult.

taxi97w

January20 wrote: »

The BIG difference is that the men we are talking about are also fathers and they should understand that a new baby or a toddler needs a lot of attention from parents and in most cases it will mean mostly mothers.

And the women we are talking about are also partners and they should understand that their men folk need attention too.

Any

taxi97w wrote: »

Originally Posted by taxi97w
Some men feel neglected when a new baby is given all the attention.




Er no. Neglected men feel neglected- obviously.

If your other half was giving all their attention to work, could I call you pathetic and inadequate?

If a child was being neglected, would you call him/her pathetic and inadequate?

Agree with Winswept - only pathetic men feel neglected.

If they weren't behaving like children they would give their attention to the baby as well and give mother some break. Then she might be up for some loving.

Not storm off and go to the pub because "noone pays any attention to me, me me!!"

dizzybuff

Attention, theres always self attention :P

January20

taxi97w wrote: »

And the women we are talking about are also partners and they should understand that their men folk need attention too.

What about the women in all of this? They have to look after the kids, look after the husbands, make sure they have all the attention they need. What are they? Everybody's carers? Do you think the OP's husband was bothered about her needs, her needs for attention perhaps when he was spending the night with another woman? Do you condemn that? Do you think women are men and children's servants? because it sure is the way your posts come accross!

January20

dizzybuff wrote: »

Attention, theres always self attention :P

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